LOL yeah, I was in a rush, I should of said it was my opinion, rather than quickly stating through reasonsOriginally Posted by AmberGbenga
I get the two year old child thing. I think that's a technique I used often. Sometimes it needs to be ignored to teach it it's place, and sometimes it needs to be comforted and mothered, it needs to know everything is ok.
Hi, I'm Steve.
1. Act like a dumbass, it makes life "less serious".. and the tradeoff is that, it lowers anxiety because as an anxiety sufferer, I tend to "over analyze" everything. Just like everyone else here. Think it through, over, and over, and oddly enough, thinking about the same s**t over and over, doesn't change it.
2. Quickly analyze any situation. Can I change it? Yes or no. How can I change it? Easy or difficult. Is it worth trying to change? Does this change benefit only me, or others too? If I can't change it, I accept it...even if I don't like it.
3. I learned to understand, over time, that 99.97% of the things I would be concerned about, worry about, fret over, that would cause me sleeplessness and in turn, increase anxiety levels,...never happened.
4. Make a "plan" that is very detailed when it comes to things that I find stressful beyond normalcy.
Go to the shopping store at the same general time daily, whether I couldv'e gotten everything in (1) giant trip or not.
To put me into a situation, more frequently. To see some of the same faces and people. To have a routine. To get me out of this home.
Go to the same gas stations, to see, meet, greet, the same people. This helps because any gas station is as harmless as your regular station.
Expect the unexpected. It helps to be a certain personality type, as I tend to know the 20 different things that may potentially happen so when they do,
then it's no big deal.
I hate to stand in lines, so I will keep walking around, or stand back in another section "pretending" to be shopping until the coast is cleared.
I saved 100% on stress, by switching to not giving a flluck. It doesn't mean not to care about people, it means, s**t happens, expect it.
Rid your life, of people that bring you additional drama, stress, conflicts, struggles,..that are not of your own doing.
If they can not change the amount of impact that they have on you, then ignore them, avoid them, evade them.
I don't bring any of that, into anyone else's life. Why? Because I have respect and courtesy for others, and I KNOW how things impact other people.
Offer to help other people, in need, of anything. If you see someone struggling with something (normal circumstances of course) then help them, and
ask for nothing in return (except I must ask for 1 cent)...I have a curse on me,..whenever I do good unto others, something happens but I keep doing
good unto others anyway. (NO GOOD DEED GOES UNPUNISHED) Is my curse. My Father told me that decades ago and it has proven to be true.
Be neighborly, KNOW YOUR NEIGHBORS. I know all of mine, but of course, there are some that "just don't get it". I call this type, "Mr & Mrs. Dry" or
"The Doorknob Family". They are recluse. BUT, when they need something, guess where they go?
Say hello to a complete stranger as often as possible.
Donate things that you don't need, use, to a needy family, person, group.
Lower your "expectations" of others, because they are going to let you down...
Live for today, forget the past,,don't talk about it, reinvestigate it, reopen dialogue, you can not change what has been done or said,..and have hope for
the future. NO ONE knows what the future holds in store, for anyone, anywhere...so, don't worry about it.
Lastly, find something good, something to laugh about,, something that makes you happy, somehow, somewhere.....
Hopefully that's good enough for now..
I have anxiety BUT anxiety does not have me anymore....
Chris.
Thankyou Chris!! Excellent stuff
Very welcome Leanne!! If I can think of more then I'll definitely post it for you....
http://anxietyforum.net/forum/showth...w-commandments
Had to post Abi's Commandments here...Hope she doesn't smack me!!...It's completely perfect IMHO.
They're great! I'll send her a message to see if she's willing to let me use a couple
Perfect, she'd probably love that...Abi's cool! We just don't see her much anymore.....
Working on it Chris . TY :-) very good read for me and others.
Thank you for kind words Jesse and peoples
Good thread.
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