Made an appointment to see the doctor, today..
Something about me, doesn't feel quite right.
I am teetering on the brink, of a major disaster.
A mental failure of sorts.
Hope everyone survives.
E-Man.
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Made an appointment to see the doctor, today..
Something about me, doesn't feel quite right.
I am teetering on the brink, of a major disaster.
A mental failure of sorts.
Hope everyone survives.
E-Man.
nothing the doctor can do, period. you did not handle yourself correctly yesterday, and you feel it. we told you its all about you, no one else. we also mentioned in one of our posts in this thread that in all situation, all thoughts, all actions one should come from the following question in looking for answers or resolution:
what would love do now?
no exceptions, and that means no exceptions. even if you should come face to face with personified evil, which you believe is your mother.
and you have a fear of losing your inheritance which actually serves as a checks and balance because the threat of the loss forced you to rethink before you act. now that you seemingly threw caution to the wind, the thought of it stirs some emotions.
there is also the internal guilt of leaving your mother in her condition and moving out, without proper resolution for the hate is artificial and blinding.
in therapy today discuss how you can come from love. would love have handled anything differently? would love have spoken anything differently? would love have acted differently?
giving love is not dependent on receiving love.
today you are feeling violent emotions, when we say violent we use the term as turbulent, like a thunderstorm. your first instinct based on your chosen (and to an extent conditioned) methodology is to attack the body, and so the physical doctor is the obvious choice, but hardly the correct one.
keep up with the therapist, that is the direction for you long term.. we can't reach you here, my guides and I. so we won't be responding much more. just a reminder to you that we have left our posts here in this thread, if you should ever desire to go back and look. it may someday 'click'.
in today's therapy, release some anger, and frustration. also begin to recognize and discuss the idea of multiple personalities. that introduction will open avenues of healing not yet explored. suffering abuse at a specific point, you split in two. when the internal conflict becomes too demanding, you "just don't feel right". but you are unable to identify it.
please do not respond to this post. we do not know who we will get or what mask is worn today, you are not clear enough in your thinking. actually do the work.. there's plenty to do away from forums like this.
best regards
we will have no more here.
I am preparing to get the fuck out of here now.
I have been dizzy since yesterday, never felt dizzy before.
I actually cried a little while ago. I never cry.
My hands won't stop shaking.
My head won't stop moving.
My vision is blurry.
My stomach hurts.
My breathing is erratic.
Blood pressure is up.
I am falling off of the edge.
I am carrying my handgun today.
Doctor first, therapy second, then get the fuck away from here for the night.
All is well. Just trauma.
Be well.
Enduronman.
Take benzo please, you have a panic attack Eman. I think this forum does not help you at all. Actually the opposite. You are gentle soul, and you need help no analyzing, on frigging public forum. Talk to therapist and doc, you need to take your xanax, unfortunately. Get well soon Ch:)
Saw the doctor, she spent much time with me, a caring person.
She doubled my Xanax prescription. I will be taking 3mg per day now. For good reason.
I also got a new med called Latuda. An anti-psychotic. I need that now as well. I need to keep my balance, and keep my feet on the floor rather than up someone's ass at the moment.
I told her the story. She say's that Mother has serious psychological issues that are unresolved.
Say's to "Get the fuck out of your Mother's house tomorrow"....exactly as spoken.
Say's that everything that she said to me, is false, not true, and I am in fact a "good person" so don't let her bring me down to her levels.
Say's to pack up, get loaded, and tell Mom "I'm sorry if I hurt you or caused you any troubles, it wasn't my intentions. Be well and take care Mom. Goodbye"...
and walk the fuck out of here, with my head held high. She said "So you say that you're now losing a parent, but you already lost her decades ago anyway"...
Move out, move on, forget about it, the issues, leave it all in the past, live MY life the way that I wish too, and work on being happy and surround myself with positive people.
There is positive people at my next new address. They have NO psychological disorders, no drug abuse, no alcohol abuse, and NOT judgmental either. It will be like Heaven up there. Yay!!!
Hope you're doing well Dahl! Thinking of you my friend... :)
Enduron Man. :)
oh dear how smart is your doc, she is decent. Yes take as much as you can and go, this is the best option. Whole day I was thinking about you and hoping something resolves...first of all leave behind your mom and then some people here on forum. Do what Dave did: ignore. You do not need to add to your stress, you need the support you give to countless others. Can I cast a spell to help you a tiny bit? :)
I do not pray :)
Can't you see I'm easily bothered by persistence....One step from lashing out at you.
What it takes, where I am, belong...
Re-
spect....
Walk.
What do you say...
Are you talking to me?
Is there no standards anymore?
Be yourself, by yourself, stay away from me...
BAAAHHA!!! LMAO!.
Pantera....
Walk on home boy...
Best wishes.
E-Man. :)
Dahl baby!!
I'm with my gf tonight.
The therapy session sucked ass...useless.
He acted as if he was in shock the whole time after hearing my Mother's words and behaviors, but, he did agree with the doctor to get the fuck out of there asap.
In fact, they both said to get out tomorrow, go to a shelter, or get into my Dad's house, before my parent is in danger...
I am making those plans now..YAY!!!
Give Mom a hug, and say later!! Take care!!!...:)
Blessings friend.
E-Man :)
Oh that's good Eman, I keep saying your name, just kick me for it. I am sure your dad takes your for a few days then you can make some arrangements. He is such warm and understanding person full of love, how come man like that end up with the monstrous woman?
Therapy usually ssuck they do not know enough, and when they know enough to help others they see not sense it it, and they are too old anyway :)) Good at least you have a night to calm down
Yes, my Dad is just the opposite of my other parent...but his house is only 800 sq ft!..grrr.
We will survive, and I will be with my daughter, and my other daughter is only 15 mins away. YES!!! YAY!!!
Trying to post a picture of something that my gf just took for me, it's funny!!.Attachment 1467
Maybe it worked...my drug bag!!! LMAO!!! BAAHAAHAHA!!!
Everything that any one (addict) person would ever want...street value, 5k+ I'm sure..
Lots of awesome shit in there...you name it!.
I am calm, we are looking at homes now too. Newer ones as well!! Hell yes!.. YAYYYYYY!!!
E-Man. :)
I want to sing " lalala my medi bag goes everywhere with me , my medi bag and :lalala:) You will survive you are the strongest man I know, you will be ok!!!
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Now THAT was a pill bag Dahl! BAAHHAAHA!!!
I will start my new anti-psychotic tomorrow. Yippee!!
Blackened in the end, winter it will send, throwing all you see, into obscurity, death of mother earth, never a rebirth, evolutions end, never it will mend...never....LOL!!!
Sorry, just listening to some actual music tonight... relaxing. Much needed. Much appreciated.
I WILL be OK...
Hugs Dahl!
E-Man :)
Just about to call my doctor now to discuss what we talked about. They hate dealing with it in this country, too much effort. Hopefully it will go smoothly. Like how I'm jacking your thread?
Yeaaaaaah! This is what happens when I don't get my own stickie! ;)
Good luck starting your new drug, man. I'm guessing you're starting it today, as your post was around midnight in Indiana time.
Jessie!
I also hope it goes smoothly for you too bruh. It really does help a lot, in many different ways.
You can thread jack whenever you want to man, we is tight son!
The doc said to take the med at 6pm. I'll probably just fall over, or at least that's what she's thinking anyway. LOL!
Have a great day friend.
E-Man :)
Well folks, I don't have much negative to report today! YAY!
Yesterday was busy, doctor, therapist, pick up double med doses, and some new meds too.
Then finally got to get out of that place and visited with my gf for the night, talk about looking at some new houses (yay) and some old ones too (boo)..Keep an open mind, I know.
Stayed up a little late, head feels like its filled with cotton balls, like a cotton headed ninny muggin. OMG!
Ankles aren't killing me yet this morning, that is usually the first thing that happens when I awake. Just the knees bothering me at the moment. That pain will arrive in time, I'm sure.
Nothing that a strong cup of coffee and an egg mcmuffin won't fix! When I am away from that place, I have an appetite, my stomach isn't cramping, I actually want to eat. Weird...
Going to my Dad's house around 10 to measure out the room, see how big of a bed I can get in there and if I can have a small sofa, chair, and desk in there.
I will need a desk for these computers! 2 desktops, 4 laptops, and a partridge in a pear tree...:)
Get to visit with an actual rational, sensible, logical, person too. My Dad, and my daughter is expecting me too. Surround myself with positive people the best that I can.
Get some boxes, start packing and loading, and give my Mom a hug a say "Sorry that it didn't work out, love you Mom, take care of yourself, bye!"...and walk away...
I am leaving and it may be as soon as tomorrow. Doctor's orders. "Get the fuck out of there".. exactly as spoken. I must agree, although I am still a little reluctant to do this.
As Mr. Suffering has pointed out to me, leaving there with unresolved issues may be my biggest concern. Thinking about whether she may fall down, drunk, and hurt herself when I'm not around.
Hardly doubt that the injuries will be life threatening and nothing that the hospital can't fix or mend, with time. She's already fallen down twice in the past year or so. Broken shoulder, broken hand.
But, she keeps doing the same things, over, and over again. I don't know how she can handle it, but, it is not for me to judge and it's not my life to live. Drink ALL you want too.
I must leave on good terms, and I think you all know why too. So she doesn't do something even more stupid and leave the home to charity because I can't mow or rake a friggin yard!
The doctor said to part ways kindly, but also said to ignore her at the Holidays too. To give her time to think about things, alone. Those were some harsh, tough, hateful, words to say to me.
The doctor also said to look at this like it's a blessing as she is getting worse, and I won't be stuck in the house with her in the winter months listening to Judge Retard on TV...less stress.
I look forward to my new journey, and think that everything will be fine too. Just another lesson in life, another challenge that I will overcome.
And, I will be closer to my daughters too. That in itself, is a part of this blessing. I miss them both dearly, and will see them soon to help them to cope with things.
Helping them, is a part of WHO I am as a person, and that character trait will not be broken or changed. I'm going to be a Grandfather again soon as well. A beautiful thing. Hope he has my eyes.
Enough of that, another new day and new outlooks and perspectives too. So far, so good.
Wishing you all the very best in overcoming whatever anxious symptom that you may be dealing with!
Blessing to you all... :)
Mr. Endure On Man. :)
What would love do now? visit every so often, call to ask how things are going. don't get triggered, ask if help is needed. be kind, gentle, caring.
Mom will miss you when you move out. its not the end, but a beginning, do you see?
don't give and then ask for, give and let go.
its all working out now
best regards
Presently visiting my new place, it is much more relaxing.
I am also sitting in the same room, with my other parent, my Father.
I can not sit in the same room, with my Mother.
This is a quite pleasurable I must say.
We are also now making arrangements to have cable installed in my new room, and also in my daughters room too. To him, this isn't a big deal, to my Mother, it would be a HUGE ordeal.
I am going to like it here, very, very much...
Blessings friends!
E-Man :)
Hey Dude,
Glad to see you are moving to a more relaxing environment. Trust me, it does wonders. My Mother In Law moved out this past January after living with us for 10 years. After she left, my anxiety and panic went waaayyy down. I hardly get anxious and my panic disorder is finally in check.
Over time you'll see a big difference. Take care of that little girl of yours too!
Why thank you Meichmann! Very kind of you.
I have everything packed up, and ready to go now.
It feels soooooooooo good to be doing this, I feel great in fact.
She asked me where I was going? I told her to my Dad's, thanks for asking, and have a nice day! She just walked away...GOOD!!!
All I have to do now is load the car, and I'm out of this hell hole filled with negativity and pessimism forever...YEAH!!!!!
Hope I can fit it all in the car too. I should be able too.
Glad that your anxiety lowered once the Mother in Law was gone bruh!
Blessings, and have a great day too friend.
E-Man :)
I am out of here!! YAY!!!...
A new journey begins...
E-Man :)
No.
'Its time for a change mom, and soon I will be buying a home with my gf anyway, I just feel in the short term its best for a change. I miss dad anyhow, so it'll be nice to catch up. I know your independent, but I'll always be here for you no matter where I am. Just call me and I'll be here. I'll visit soon, and call. I love you mom.'
Giving love is not dependent on if you receive. In that context its easier to thread the eye of a needle than enter the kingdom of heaven. Where heaven is love, compassion, empathy, and the eye of the needle the Trojan horse that appears to be the antithesis on the surface.
I am chipping away at you- the rough edges, you understand.
I said, "I'm sorry that things didn't work out for me here and I didn't mean to stress you out. It wasn't my intentions. I will be back to get these other computers at another time, my car is too full. Just let me know when a good time for that is. Be well, LOVE YOU and take care of yourself. See you again soon Mom."
Her reply, 'Just let me know how you are occasionally. I know how much pain your are in and that affects your attitude and that makes it hard on me by the way that YOU treat ME. I have only meant well. Take care of yourself. Plus, you'll be better off not having to listen to a Mother bitching at you all the time anyway. Love you son."
I woke up this morning, and my legs don't hurt. This is the first time, in 28 months, that they haven't been the first pains to arrive instantly. I am presently waiting on them. My back doesn't hurt yet either. I feel good, am having some coffee, and enjoying some time here with you. I don't know, but I feel different suddenly. I will be meeting a new Psych in my new area soon, transferring my prescriptions, getting a change of address, going to look for a new TV for my room, and also getting some paints to freshen up my gf's present home too. It's on the market and the first 2 reports were that it needed freshening up. That's what I did for 30 years prior to all this mess anyway. I don't know if I can do it, but I'm going to try anyway. Being on my feet and legs for a short time has always been a problem. We will see what happens. How long I can hold up. I don't know about being on my knees though, until I try later this afternoon. Should be interesting to say the least. I may not be able to get back up.
I left on good terms, feel good about that. I do love my Mother, just not the person that she was and became just by having me around laying on the couch. I wish her the best and hope that she doesn't stumble while drunk and break something else. She will be happier, with me gone. Just her, her vodka, and her dog. Probably what's best.
I was welcomed into my new home last night, new room, new bed, desk, chair, love seat, shelves, a closet, a giant blanket chest, 2 windows. It is nice, the atmosphere there is different. Relaxing, calm, peaceful. My daughter is there too. She is so excited! She is actually happy, cheerful, smiling. Something that she hasn't felt since she was forced out of my Mom's house in August. My other daughter is also very happy and excited too. She is just up the street from me now. In fact, she's coming over today to do some needed computer work online to get some insurance for her and the baby that she's now carrying.
The beginning of a new journey as my Father said last night while he gave me a hug and said I love you son.
All in all, this should be, a great thing for everyone involved. We will see.
Wishing you the very best friend! Enjoy this day....
Enduronman is enduring yet another trial... :)
Now indeed I smiled. Because we both know a secret don't we. Shhh...everything is gonna be OK.
Love you my brother.
Eman, dear keep that feeling you have today , with you. Remember it. In the moment you need it, you have it , just closing the eye and recall the feeling. I am happy you feel so good, ;)
Doing great so far and wishing you all the very best! YAY!!
E-Man. :)
Well then..
By all intensive purposes, this place is fucking awesome.
We all were actually in the same room yesterday, myself, my Dad, and both daughters too.
There were no words of Judgment, criticism, negativity, pessimism, or discussions about money, who has it, or what should be done with it.
And, I got a new computer and a pistol from my oldest daughter as payment for living with me rent free for 3 months too.
My daughters were both happy to be here, happy to be with me again, and were in good spirits as well.
It's also hot as hell in here, when it was cold as hell at my Mother's house and I had to wear a winter hat, I'm sitting here with no shirt on now. Dad is always cold.
He told me that he will do all laundry on Saturdays, and I showed him my clothes basket and where it was. Fine with me!...LOL!!!!
On another note, my gf has her home on the market for sale. She's had 2 showings already and also 2 bad reports to go along with that. Those reports both include a dingy looking kitchen and bathroom area. Needing paint, floors, cabinets repainted, trim repainted. She was getting hopeless. Wondering if it was all worth it. Since I have left you know where, my legs move although they still bother me but just a little bit. My meds are now working, almost overnight. I am dizzy as hell, wobbly, but, I "feel" capable and able of doing certain things and one of those things is painting some interior rooms. Putting down some new floors. So, we made a trip to Lowes last night to get things together to make things happen at her home, today! My youngest daughter is going to help me too. I have many projects and tasks for her to do. She is and always was a hard worker as I had her help me on roofing projects before all this shit happened to me. She told me to wake her up early so we can go get things done. We'll see as to whether she actually gets up or not. It is 630 in the morning! BAAHAHA!!! Plus, if it gets to hard on me physically, then I can lay down and rest for a little while on the couch or in the chair with no repercussions from it. Should be an interesting day and week to say the least. I haven't actually worked since May 3rd of 2013.
Essentially, I've got everything that I need here. Including this bad ass desk that my computer is on complete with my own lamp too. Just need some cushions for this hard ass chair! Plenty of storage, an actual couch with foot stool, my stereo system fits, and I slept like a baby on my new bed although it was only for 6 hours then I was up and ready to go. The coffee here sucks, so I will be getting an actual coffee pot today too. Instant coffee is nasty! We're getting cable installed on Thursday so that I can at least watch some football games in here. Dad hates football. My daughter also brought me a pumpkin scented candle for my room too, very nice.
WOW! What a big difference in the world around me almost instantly. Glad that my doctor ordered me to get the fuck out of my Mom's house too. Because, I did it, the following day. I have instantly surrounded myself with positive, rational, realistic, people and I am feeling the effects of that very quickly too. My health has improved greatly, quickly, immediately. It makes me feel good. Also, bought my oldest daughter some groceries yesterday too, that made me feel good to be helpful considering that she has no money and no food. Not really a big deal, just something that made me feel good to be helpful. Maybe today, she'll do what I have asked her to do and apply for insurance and food stamps too. We'll see.
Getting ready to get this little girl up now. She isn't going to like me, but I don't give a shit, we've got things to do and as quickly as possible too. Must make my gf's house sell! ASAP!! That will give us $25,000 to play with in choosing another home, and may make things even that much more easier and better for everyone involved.
So far, all is going very very well. Finally!!! YAY!!! It's about time. And no more doctors visits until the 3rd. YEAH!!!
Wishing you all the very best today!
Thinking of you friends.
Mr. Enduronman :)
Intents and purposes. It's pronounced intents and purposes, not intensive purposes. Da fuq is with you Americans!! It's like when you all say you could care less. Well if you could care less it means you care already. It's couldn't care less, and for all intents and purposes. Fuck James. You've just made me so mad you've ruined my day.
Anyway, I'm glad you're feeling more optimistic about things. It's amazing how people can adjust.
I had to go have more blood work done yesterday. Nurse kept missing the vein. Wtf? Reminded me I have mad respect for you having gone through all the treatments you have done.
Take it easy bro!
I quite like 'by all intensive purposes' - I'm going to try and use it at some point today.
Excellent Chris!!
Jesse, 2 jabs and that's it. Then they must get another nurse or the Doc to take over. No fishing in your arm, and should be no pain. They are aware of the 2 jab rule, but....well..
Edit: 2 jab rule is USA. Not sure elsewhere.
Also request a butterfly needle, (children's) and a good threat always helps " listen one drop of pain, and your going through the wall over there". I found that most effective.
Look, for all intensive purposes, I could care less. :)
Well I had more than 25 jabs, here we have no rule. Some people included I are difficult to find the vein. I found a small laboratory close to home that one jab is enough. Nurses are awesome in this place. Jesse you need to find someone who knows what she/he is doing:)
Haha!
She was a super sweet phlebot but I don't think she was focusing. I'll keep the 2 jab rule in mind next time. My arm feels like a junky's must feel today. At least the job was done. Even if we don't have it here, I'll say it after the first miss to get 'em to focus.
Had a spectacular day!
Actually worked at my gf's house to get the kitchen and bath looking great.
My youngest daughter helped me out too. She plans to come and work with me again tomorrow.
That place is looking friggin awesome, and my gf is extremely happy with it too.
It WILL make the home more appealing to potential buyers in a couple of days work.
Thinking of you all! Wishing you the best too....:)
Blessings. :)
E-Man :)
Forgot to say hello to Dahl and The J-Man!
Got a backache today, I pushed myself way too hard yesterday. Should be an interesting day to say the least. At least I'm working at my gf's house, so expectations aren't real high. Hopefully, I can at least get the kitchen done then call it a day. Just have some painting and caulking to do essentially. Plus, my youngest daughter will be helping me too just in case I can't get up. May be a short day.
Other than that, everything is going very, very well. I love my new place. It's comfortable, nice, relaxing, no Judgment, no drunkenness, no drama, no stupid shit. I told my Dad that I was going to go buy a coffee pot because instant coffee sucks ass, he went out and bought one for me. He's quite a person, Father, parent, man. Very helpful and kind. The house is also warm too. Mom's house was fuggin freezing! And, I don't have to listen to Judge Dumbfuck on TV either. I have a TV and cable in my own room. This is a dream! My daughter is doing very well here also. Things are finally looking up. Now, if I could just win that stupid ongoing case for disability, then I'd be set. Hoping!
Thinking of all you AF'ers and wishing you all a blessed day!
Take care, things DO get better over time.
Mr. Enduring Man. :)
I am happy you still feeling good; mentally, Physically it is a different story my friend. I always think I will do so much and then pay with pain :) Crazy people do crazy staff:))) rest and tomorrow will be another day :)
Watch the beliefs when you are dealing with Chris, he is vulnerable during this mental transition. Your statement above in itself can cause the pain. During or after any movement, if he believes you. The body is 'limbering up', oiling the rusty gears, if you will. And preparing for mobility.
And no, I'm not talking behind your back Chis- I will address you now:
Chris, watch the negative talk about your mother, there is no jest. Out of the heart the tongue speaks. You do not have to justify the current conditions by bashing the previous. Read your post above Dahilas.
Enjoy what you have created as you bless what you left behind, and bless your mother with love all-ways. And that includes your posts, your conversations (especially with family), your thoughts, your feelings.. Do you listen to me Chris? In therapy, discuss ways and openings to release, heal and proceed. Now to an extent the bashing is therapeutic and will always lead back to love, if you understand its purpose. But not to bash continually for the sake of it. That's just a hurt child.
It is not OK to mob together and hold a bashing ceremony. Even if your doctor and everyone here were invited. Use the anger as impetus for change (as you have done), not in tearing down another.
STOP when you catch yourself doing it. And lastly, do not refer to the disability case as 'stupid', unless you want a prolonged idiotic experience. Decide for it to be resolved.
And Dahila, no reason to come back at me in defense, I know your intent is good. Watch the power of words.
I listen to you dear friend.
Had yet another spectacular day working down here at my gf's house.
My daughter came with me at 830 am.
She IS an excellent painter, can cut a neat trim line very nicely.
I am actually having "fun" but of course I am drugged up too. BUT, it looks great!
These things will help this home to sell, so that we can get our 5bdrm dreamhome (hopefully newer!)
Going to look at 4 houses early in the morning. Should be an interesting day.
Thinking of you all! Wishing you the best that life has to offer.
Take care, be well, and I will be back shortly or if not tonight then after our home showings.
Enduronman.... :)
YAY!!!
I am suffering Chris knows very well how much older i am than he is. I am vulnerable due the age. Please do not make a child of my friend. He is able to decide for himself. I am disappointed in you IMS, I really am. I am sorry you need the need to interpret the words for others.............. We are not your children.
Everything is good. Eman I hope you feel better.
Should I stop posting here too?
Mr. Suffering has many valuable things to say, I do like his style. He doesn't offend or bother me.
I am doing great and actually worked for 11 hours yesterday on my gf's house too. Having a great time! And it looks perfect too.
She is very happy with the final outcome. She will get an offer on this place, I hope she's ready for that.
We are going to look at 4 houses this morning. One has 5bdrms and 3 baths too! YAY!!!! And it's newer!!!! Double YAY!!!
Then, I will return to finish some things that I have started. My daughter is going to come down and so some painting for me. An excellent painter. Steady handed. And, make some money too.
Dahl, you post here all that you want too friend, You're one of my special friends. My favorite friend. And, I love you for who you are too.
Heading off to McDs this morning for some breakfast. That should help to get me going on some things and prepare for wandering through houses too.
Wishing you the best that this day has to bring friends! My day will be spectacular.
Blessings to you.. :)
E-Man.. :)
McD's? You not on your diet any more, big guy?
Have a nice day enviro man ;)