Thank you for the answers. Dumped him about three months ago, finally. Took way to long.
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Thank you for the answers. Dumped him about three months ago, finally. Took way to long.
Sweetheart you need to sit him down and explain to him what you have just written down here, you need to explain that you have some anxiety issues and you can't quite identify them, that you aren't completely comfortable with touching and affection just yet, then I recommend you see a therapist if you can get access to one if not I think you should try and help yourself..
You not being affectionate I am assuming is a learned behavior because of your family situation, you haven't Been able to be affectionate you have just learnt to be quiet.
Gathering also from your family situation you may have quite a few trust issues you feel if you make your mum angry then you might make anyone angry when it comes to expressing your feelings,but by the sounds of things your boyfriend really likes you so he deserves to know how you are feeling, he may not understand now that's why he assumes you are joking but he can't understand unless you try to explain. You are not alone in this I have similar issues I have been with my boyfriend for a year and he still hasn't seen me naked and I also don't like to be touched. It is something you can break out of but I think first you need to accept that the feelings and emotions you feel when it comes to affection need to be recognized,, I am here to talk and if you open your heart and talk to a friend or your boyfriend I'm sure someone out there will be willing to listen and help you. I feel for you and if you can seriously see a therapist because talking about your feelings open and honestly will truly help you to solve them!
If this guy really cares about you and is good for you, he will understand if you sit him down and talk about it - GadGal is right. I had a problem with my boyfriend like this one too, but once we talked it out (it took several hours), things got a lot better.