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    The Proactive Twelve Steps for Mindful Recovery


    Book Description - http://lifesherpabooks.com/proactive12steps/

    The Proactive Twelve Steps:
    The Proactive Twelve Steps for Mindful Recovery by Serge Prengel

    Step 1: I get it:
    What I’ve been doing is self- destructive. I need to change.

    Step 2: I see the big picture:
    The way to stop relapsing into self-destructive behaviours is to build a healthier sense of self.

    Step 3: I have an action plan:
    From now on, I am squarely facing everything that is in the way of feeling really satisfied with my life.

    Step 4:
    I honestly look at the effects of my actions on others and myself.

    Step 5: I take responsibility for my actions.

    Step 6: I see that my knee-jerk reactions have to do with being in the grip of more or less conscious fears.

    Step 7: I strive to find my motivation in a deeper sense of who I really am, rather than fear and defensiveness.

    Step 8: I stop blaming and feeling blamed, with a willingness to heal the wounds.

    Step 9: I swallow my pride, and sincerely apologize to people I've hurt, except when this would be counterproductive.

    Step 10: I live mindfully, paying attention to the motives and effects of my actions.

    Step 11: I stay in touch with a broader sense of who I really am, and a deeper sense of what I really want.

    Step 12: A growing sense of wholeness and contentment motivates me to keep at it, and to share this process with others who are struggling.
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    The Proactive Twelve Steps for Mindful Recovery by Serge Prengel

    " Discussion of Step 12

    A journey of transformation
    Joseph Campbell analyzed myths throughout a
    multitude of cultures in human history. He found
    striking similarities among them. He pointed out that
    the "hero journey" of myth is symbolic of the process of
    personal growth.

    The Twelve Steps are a great tool for your own "hero
    journey", the process of becoming who you really are.
    The journey starts with the realization of your lack of
    power: You have a very real problem; and your ways of
    dealing with it aren’t working. As you’re no longer in
    denial about this lack of power, you embark on a quest.
    By the twelfth step, you are more keenly aware of how
    what you do affects your experience of life.

    In other words, you have become more aware of how
    and where you have control. You’re shifting your focus
    to what you can control to actually make things
    happen instead of banging your head against a wall.
    You see the world with different eyes, you experience
    the world in a different way. It is as if you had been
    transported into a different world.

    In the original wording of the step, the sense that a
    powerful transformation has been happening is
    conveyed by the phrase "spiritual awakening".
    It is as if you had been asleep until such a time as you
    have this awakening. When you're asleep, you may not
    notice what's happening around you. But you certainly
    notice the alarm clock that's waking you up.
    The world outside hasn't change. What has changed is
    the way you experience it. From feeling powerless and
    victimized, you now feel more at peace with the world.
    This is a different perspective, a much broader one.
    There are still many things you'll feel powerless about.
    But you have less of a tendency to take the things you
    are powerless about as a personal insult. You tend to
    get less mired into what frustrates you. And you direct
    more of your energy in directions where you have
    some power to get what you want. You feel better
    about yourself.

    Staying on course
    Implicit in the idea of feeling better about yourself is
    the notion that this will motivate you to stay on course.
    Let’s say you start a program of physical exercise "to
    get fit". You won't stay fit unless you keep exercising.

    And chances are you'll keep exercising if you actually
    enjoy the exercising itself, as opposed to feeling it's
    something you have to do only as a means to an end.
    This process is not about acquiring anything, other
    than habits. It's about practicing these habits, one day
    at a time.

    Reaching out
    You reach out to others out of altruism... but there is a
    benefit to yourself as well. Sharing your experience is
    not about dealing with others from a one-up position
    ("I know all the answers, and I have to educate others
    who are less fortunate than I am"). It makes you feel
    more connected when you to associate with other
    people who experience similar problems."
    Last edited by Ponder; 04-10-2017 at 04:04 PM.



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