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okami1995
01-26-2012, 05:13 AM
Alright, so basically, every now and then, anxiety will hit me and stay for up to three months. During this time, if I get something off my chest, something else will inevitably come and bother me shortly afterwards. Anyway, I will now proceed to tell you what is currently bothering me. It's kind of embarrassing, so please don't feel the need to try and make me feel worse than I already do by telling me there's something wrong with me or that I belong in a hospital, because I've heard stuff like that before, and it really does just make me feel worse.

Anyhow, about half a year ago, I went through a period of depression. During this time, I became incredibly lazy. So at night, if I could not be bothered to go to the toilet, I would simply pee on the carpet and wall in a corner of my room. I know it's unpleasant and unhygienic and incredibly lazy, so again, please don't bother to say so in you reply. The reason I feel so ashamed and guilty about this is as follows. As a sixteen year old, I naturally still live with my parents. So I feel guilty because I feel like I've betrayed my mum's trust by doing this. I want to be able to tell her about it to get it off my chest, but I'm too afraid to do it, as I'm worried about what her reaction will be like. I know she would forgive me for anything, but this is what anxiety does to you.

If I manage to tell her, I will finally get it off my chest. She might be angry for a few hours, but after that, things would be fine again. It's worth doing, but I can't break through my wall of fear and do it. I've stopped myself from peeing on the carpet for a long while now, and cleaned up the carpet, but I still can't shake the guilt. How can I tell my mum about this to free myself at last. Any helpful advice is much appreciated, but may I remind you one last time that if you're just going to make me feel worse, then don't bother to answer. Thanks

alankay
01-26-2012, 07:58 AM
Okami, there are things that one should feel real guilt about and things one should not. You should not on this. Do you realize the evil/bad things people do? You should know that this is a small time mistake done when feeling ill. You had a brief reactive type depression, for whatever reason, and you were not at all yourself. Being depressed can also be accompanied by bogus feelings of guilt. Often over some trivial event and I hope you are aware of this. It's common.
Are under a family docs care for depression/anxiety? If not go talk to your doc as if you get treated for depression/anxiety, the bogus guilt will take the proper perspective of a little mistake that was done when feeling very bad and you cleaned it up.
Hold off telling your Mom until you're in a better place emotionally. Make sure you don't do it so much for you if unless you're sure she will she get past it quickly. I take it she's aware of how you feel or were feeling? If so I bet she will understand. Believe me your folks are smarter than you think. At 16 most kids think there folks are... silly. Which is wrong.
Anyway, no need to feel any real guilt of this little mistake. We all do silly things we regret and learn from. Remember that and maybe for now, on the way out to school, tell your Mom she's the greatest!:) The glow you'll put on her face will wipe away that guilt quite a bit until you decide how/when to "come clean" on the carpet incident.:)
PM me any time. Alankay.

okami1995
02-07-2012, 02:45 PM
thank you alankay