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Scotty78
12-18-2011, 09:58 PM
Hello,

Well let me start by saying this is a great site. It's so nice to have a place to talk about this problem.

A little about myself. My first panic attack happened about 4 1/2 years ago at a funeral of a co-worker. I didn't know the guy well but he was pretty young and died of a heart attack. Shortly afterwards my chest started hurting and I was sweating and shaking. I thought I was dying! On the ride home I pulled over and called an ambulance. Needless to say, my girlfriend was scared. At the hospital they said everything was fine and I just had a panic attack. Before this I never even knew I had anxiety.

Since then I've had maybe 4 or 5 more bad ones (one on a plane, one alone at my house, and another in a car with a co-worker). Initially my general practice doctor gave me Lexapro and that helped for about a year but after that stopped working I tried other pills (Celexa & Paxil) but now the only thing that helps is Xanax, and that doesn't work all of the time either. Plus taking pills makes me anxious so I only take it if i really need it, maybe once a week.

The thing is though that some of the time I feel fine without any meds. Some weeks are worse than others. Sometimes I can go drive an hour and be fine, or I can go to a bar and have a good time, but then other days I get panicky just driving to work. I don't understand it. I noticed if I'm occupied playing video games or working on the house/car I forget all about it and I feel fine.

I went to a couple social workers and saw a psychiatrist. They all try to drudge up things from my past asking me questions like "were you abused or bullied in school", "did something happen as a child". They all seem more interested in getting paid than helping me. The thing is though I've had a pretty good life so far. I haven't had anything happen to me that can cause these feelings. That said though, I did do a few drugs in college but nothing super hardcore. I've been clean for about 8 years now but I drink socially on occasion.

I think I may have minor depression as well as my anxiety/panic disorder. I've never been the one to get excited over anything, even if it's something great. I'm just sort of "blah". I tend to see the downside of things rather than the upside. I have a good (although stressful) job, a great (supportive) girlfriend and we just bought a townhouse together, and I'm planning on popping the question soon.

So here's my question: What do you think is wrong, and what should I do? I am not opposed to taking medication, but no one seems to know what to give me? I don't know where else to turn.

P.S. Thank you for taking the time to read this and allowing me to get all this off my chest! Just typing it makes me feel better!

vonnhelsing
12-21-2011, 02:27 PM
hey scotty!
What you've described definitely sounds like anxiety! but you have to stop having a depressive kind of point of view! dont be pessimistic it'll just feed your depression and anxiety! you've got a good job, a great gf and everything! there's nothing to feel stressed about. having a panic attack at a funeral is understandable but you gotta understand that there's nothing wrong with you! the fact that playing video games and being distracted helps you proves that point. its just anxiety so you have to try and keep yourself distracted. i dont think you should take any medications unless it gets really bad to a point where you cant go on with every day activites. you should take some nutrient supplements though like magnesium, potassium and vit C it'll help calm your nerves. just try and take it easy and enjoy your life! no more 'blah'-ing!!!! :)

alankay
12-21-2011, 03:21 PM
Scotty, well the first thing that I thought of after reading your post is the potential change to you life and new responsibilities that marriage in addition to the new townhouse might bring. Make no mistake I'm saying that either are bad it's just that any changes to ones situation in life can be stressful(even if very good) and cause some, often passing, anxiety. Life is not constant and neither is anxiety. It will wax and wane a bit and you'll notice that and that's OK. I've noticed that in the past and even the therapist I used to talk to years ago agreed. Anxiety can happen and if you know yourself, you can just say, "it figures I might get a tad anxious with all this going on, OK, it will calm down as I move through the job change, etc, and be OK". The therapists were right to ask about your background/experiences. Sometimes(NOT in your case) folks bury past pains and if those are brought out and "processed" by talking about them, anxiety can be reduced/eliminated. They are taught that and needed to ask. Anyway, I bet you are just having some transient anxiety due to the changes you mentioned(even if you don't consciously think about them) and don't forget, the holidays.:) Happens to me too! Take care!!

Scotty78
01-04-2012, 07:11 PM
Thank you both so much for your replies! (I didn't realize I had to subscribe to the thread to be notified of replies) Thank you also for your kind words! :)
Well, I did pop the question and she said yes! (not that I had any doubt :) I was very anxious at the time of course but I got through it.
You are right, it does come and go. Some days are worse than others. I still get chest pains but I have to keep reminding myself it's my anxiety. I know it is because once I distract my mind with something it goes right away. It's just hard to keep thinking like that. I really just wish I could shut my mind off sometimes. I'll have to try those supplements you mentioned VonHelsing. Thank you for that.
This forum seems like a really great place with great people. I hope I can help others when I find out what works for me.

alankay
01-05-2012, 08:06 AM
Scotty, congrats!
You're gonna feel better as you learn more about anxiety and ways for you to cope well. Distracting ones self is a very good way to cope. Indeed it is good to say "of yeah, sure an little anxious today or right now, no mystery, it figures, it will cam down" and on.
Alankay.