kathique
11-06-2010, 06:53 AM
Hi everyone
I've seen many posts since I joined the forum about ineffective anxiety treatments including therapy, CBT and medication. I just wanted to share the therapy that I've used to deal with my anxiety. It's called "Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)", and it pretty much based on mindfulness.
In ACT, the Acceptance part of the therapy involves accepting your anxiety. It doesn't mean that you resign yourself to being anxious forever, it means understanding that this is where you are right now. You don't try and 'escape' or 'get rid of' anxious thoughts and feelings. As you know, the more energy you put into 'fighting' anxiety, the more the anxiety seems to consume you. If you're anything like me, you turn your focus inwards and lose touch with what is really happening around you. The commitment part of the therapy involves defining your broad values
and making the commitment to act in accordance with your values. Even though you feel anxious, you live according to your values anyway.
For example, one of my values was to be an emotionally present parent. When I was anxious I used to retreat to my bedroom to stress in private, and my daughters were supervised by their dad. This used to upset me because I missed them, and they missed me. So instead, even though I felt anxious, I would go and sit in their bedroom with them and play dolls. I wouldn't just go through the motions, I would make a huge effort to get involved in the play scene they had created. My goal was not to lose my anxiety, it was to play with my daughters to the best of my ability. Sometimes my anxiety would disappear, sometimes it wouldn't. Regardless, I would live life according to my values.
I suppose the crux of the therapy is to diffuse anxious thoughts and remain in the present moment. As you know, you can't breathe in the past, nor the future. You can only breathe and live each present moment. Anxiety robs us of so much - but it doesn't have to. My motto is 'Yes I feel anxious - but I'm going to do it anyway'. 'It' can refer to anything - going shopping, visiting friends whatever. As long as it fits with my values, I do it.
I've probably rabbited on too much - so I've included a link to an Australian website that explains ACT much much better. The website belongs to Russ Harris, the leading ACT therapist in Australia. He has a fantastic intro to ACT therapy book called "The Happiness Trap". If you can get your hands on a copy you won't regret it!
http://www.actmindfully.com.au/
I've seen many posts since I joined the forum about ineffective anxiety treatments including therapy, CBT and medication. I just wanted to share the therapy that I've used to deal with my anxiety. It's called "Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)", and it pretty much based on mindfulness.
In ACT, the Acceptance part of the therapy involves accepting your anxiety. It doesn't mean that you resign yourself to being anxious forever, it means understanding that this is where you are right now. You don't try and 'escape' or 'get rid of' anxious thoughts and feelings. As you know, the more energy you put into 'fighting' anxiety, the more the anxiety seems to consume you. If you're anything like me, you turn your focus inwards and lose touch with what is really happening around you. The commitment part of the therapy involves defining your broad values
and making the commitment to act in accordance with your values. Even though you feel anxious, you live according to your values anyway.
For example, one of my values was to be an emotionally present parent. When I was anxious I used to retreat to my bedroom to stress in private, and my daughters were supervised by their dad. This used to upset me because I missed them, and they missed me. So instead, even though I felt anxious, I would go and sit in their bedroom with them and play dolls. I wouldn't just go through the motions, I would make a huge effort to get involved in the play scene they had created. My goal was not to lose my anxiety, it was to play with my daughters to the best of my ability. Sometimes my anxiety would disappear, sometimes it wouldn't. Regardless, I would live life according to my values.
I suppose the crux of the therapy is to diffuse anxious thoughts and remain in the present moment. As you know, you can't breathe in the past, nor the future. You can only breathe and live each present moment. Anxiety robs us of so much - but it doesn't have to. My motto is 'Yes I feel anxious - but I'm going to do it anyway'. 'It' can refer to anything - going shopping, visiting friends whatever. As long as it fits with my values, I do it.
I've probably rabbited on too much - so I've included a link to an Australian website that explains ACT much much better. The website belongs to Russ Harris, the leading ACT therapist in Australia. He has a fantastic intro to ACT therapy book called "The Happiness Trap". If you can get your hands on a copy you won't regret it!
http://www.actmindfully.com.au/