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somaesthesia
10-25-2010, 02:56 PM
Hello everybody, I'm new to the forum.

I'll start off with a bit of my story.

I'm 19. My mother was diagnosed with breast cancer when I was 10. In the same year, my father lost his job and we went bankrupt. Ever since then, my entire life has been focused on being normal (for the most part).

My mom was always there for me, but when it came to her own emotions she wasn't really into getting emotional. She was extremely strong and never cried (about her diagnosis) and continued to work until I was 16. My father is a functioning alcoholic. You know, the kind who have nice jobs, go to work every day, and then drink a bottle of hennessy and take their anger out on the family. He was sober until I was 10 (same year).

Basically, I was a pro at ignoring all my "serious" problems. Instead of worrying about my parents, I was a hypochondriac. Instead of focusing on the harder things, I payed more attention to what my boyfriends were doing wrong.

I had the same boyfriend through high school. When I was 15, I was put on anti-psychotics -_-. Mistake. They tried seroquil, abilify, and zyprexa. I'm completely convinced that I was stressed and my hormones were raging, like most 15 year olds. After a summer of gaining 40 lbs and not feeling any better (by this time I had turned 16), I stopped the medication and started going to therapy once a week rather than twice a month. This helped soooo much. For about two years I felt good. NORMAL.

In those two years, I had one bad month. I got an underaged tattoo (haha) and, of course, the guy messed up. So in return, to deal with that traumatizing experience, I decided that I had Hep C. First I convinced myself that I had HIV, but I know about blood born pathogens, and HIV is a very, very delicate virus. I was much more concerned with Hep C. My mother comforted me and told me I didn't have it. I got blood work done (because it was about time anyway, I was sexually active) and everything came out negative. The results took about a week, and before I got them, I saw a therapist, who told me this was all just anxiety. When she said that, when she told me I was not going crazy, I didn't have another anxiety attack.

Until a month ago.
My mom died last march. I thought I was fine. I was so busy taking care of business...there was a lot to do. Take care of my dad, do all the house work and cooking my mom did, pay the bills, etc. I felt like I turned into my mom. That made it ok. She was with me.

Around the 6th month anniversary of her death, I started feeling sort of down. I thought to myself, "uh oh, time to get busy." So I signed up to go volunteer. School had just started and I was thankful for that. But in late Sep, I had a breakdown. I woke up with a panic attack and could not be left alone. My dad had to call of two days of work (which is really hard in his job) and I was passed between him and my grandmother. I spoke on the phone with an emergency on call therapist, who did nothing. My dad forced a therapist to see me (because everyone was giving me the run around) and she didn't do anything. In fact, she seemed to find it funny that I was obsessing about being addicted to sex (which I am not... at all). I understand that it is sort of a stupid thing to worry about, but I have a thing for incurable diseases and disorders. That's my thing. That's what my brain picks on when I'm having a hard time with anxiety.

I got put on citalopram during this time. I was on my third day when I saw my current therapist. I THINK I started getting better before the meds had a chance to work. When I had the breakdown, I could not function or be left alone. After I saw my current therapist I felt much better, although still pretty bad. This was on my third day of the drug. After about two weeks I was feeling a little bit more stable, but then I started having vivid nightmares everyyyy siiiiingle niiiiiight. It's horrible. If I'm lucky I'll sleep through the nightmare, but half the time (more recently) I wake up in a panic attack. I'm getting quite discouraged by psychiatrists and the meds they throw at me.



I don't expect anyone to actually read all of that. I just couldn't stop after I started hahaha

Is anyone else experiencing vivid nightmares?

Sometimes I wake up (I think) from being half asleep (I think) because I think about something so random it scares me. For example, last night, I was falling asleep (I hope) and all of a sudden I started singing "Christine, Christine, Christine" in my head (I don't think that's a song, I was just singing the name in my head, I think), which scared the crap out of me. I then preceded to have a panic attack because I convinced myself I was crazy. It seems as though my anxiety levels are so high that ativan is no longer working. I very rarely take this, so it is not a tolerance issue..


Sorry for the long post. The last bit is the most important.

mamascrazy1985
10-25-2010, 09:22 PM
first of all im sorry for what you had to go through. my step dad was verbally abusive to me when i was young and my mom wasnt much help every time she got mad at me shed hit me and pull me around the house by my hair. all sorts of tramatic stuff happened to me when i was younger. i went through 3 dads....... anyways i know some what of what you went through. i always walked around and acted like everything was fine and on the outside it was ..... i got everything i wanted 4 wheelers dirt bikes pools horses the latest video games clothes all kinds of stuff anyways my point is your medication that your on does it have side effect of vivid nightmares some medication does...

i dont take medication and have been dealing with anxiety for 2 years.
i am just now starting to have night mares, really horrible stuff to.. my loves ones being hurt and everything like that. my nieghbors whom i dont get along with i dream about them being all nice which creeps me out. just weird and horrible stuff. i thought it was because i was sleeping to much and my body and mind got bored so it had to think of something to do to screw with me at night.... ha well anyways good luck

jj1983
10-25-2010, 09:43 PM
Hello, although I can not relate to your situation. I did want to say sorry about your mother.

My mom passed when I was 3, my dad was a druggie who didnt want me. My grandparents raised me and my granny was very verbally abusive to me, and like the above person state I was spoiled and got everything I wanted, but still verbally abused... I got married at 19, to get out of home basically. To a idiot (lol) who acted just like my granny, over controlling,possessive and talked to me like I was nothing.
After 7 LONG years being with him I left and it felt a million pounds was lifted off my shoulder!


Then my husband (who is awesome btw) and I met and fell in love. We had a son, who is 31 months now . We had a bad wreck in 12/08 and I got bad anxiety driving, since then I have drove maybe 5 times total!!!In almost 2 years!

Our daughter was born with a genetic condition and they didnt expect her to make it. She died in 02/10 at 3 1/2 months of age. Now my anxiety is worse than ever. Thinking about death and worry about heart attacks. Since both my mom and kid died early. My mom was only 22 when she passed...

Our son (who never co slept with us) now sleep with us so I can check his breathing. My husband also does this same thing. Once you find your baby dead, it make you paranoid.

Now my anxiety is worse than ever and I OCCASSIONALLY have good days. Most days I feel disoriented, faint, chest is heavy. Wake every morning in a panic, go to bed in a panic etc.

I do understand your panic from your past and I want to say I am sorry and am here for you if you ever want to talk.