View Full Version : when you want to make friendship,especially with males
you want to talk but,...what do you talk about? When I wanna say something I have no idea what to talk about!
when I see girls who are the opposite of me and have fun freely and easily with them I get jealous,I feel sorry for myself,I feel like shit and get even more shy than ever coz I feel sad and can't have fun at all.I got nothing to talk about coz I pratically don't do anything.
Joe_Noshow
09-29-2010, 11:49 AM
Yah, I know the feeling. I like talking with my bros, parents and a couple friends who I'm comfortable with, but pretty much all I do is play video games these days so I don't have anything to talk about either. Sometimes if I want to talk, but have nothing to say I just make up an outrageous story on the spot. I don't try to make it sound real, just something completely fictious and unbelievable, yet entertaining.
sparks
10-16-2010, 09:54 PM
you know.. some improv classes would probably help you a bunch.
you know.. some improv classes would probably help you a bunch.
what's that?!
Fishing_guy
10-19-2010, 06:36 AM
Improvisation is a type of acting done without written lines, the actor makes up the dialogue as he/she goes along. It's typically seen in comedies.
Improvisation is a type of acting done without written lines, the actor makes up the dialogue as he/she goes along. It's typically seen in comedies.
oh,that stays for improvisation,I'm gonna try,I'm unpatient,too though
sparks
10-23-2010, 07:01 AM
I've met many individuals that have changed and one important commonality is their ubfathonable desire to want to change and do whatever it takes. The one that don't change tend to have a whole bunch of excuses of reasons that are very logical but still get them nowhere.
I've met many individuals that have changed and one important commonality is their ubfathonable desire to want to change and do whatever it takes. The one that don't change tend to have a whole bunch of excuses of reasons that are very logical but still get them nowhere.
I am trying to change my isolating ways,but when you feel you got no response from the people you thought were friends,you get pissed and wonder if that's worse it.
For example I've been trying to make friendships at work,coz that's the only place I can,for now.I've been toegether and joking with another girl;we have become friends.I asked for her number and I gave her mine coz then she would have changed work,that was to keep in touch.Here,now she's away.She told me to phone her so she knew it was me at the phone.I did it,I even sent two or three sms.She never answered me,why!?!
that's ok,you could say :"oh she is busy!" .ok,but this isn't the only time.
She said once:"I'm gonna take you some sweets I like" she did with another person not me "I'm gonna take you biscuits I do" .These things piss me off.
Robbed
10-24-2010, 04:40 PM
I am trying to change my isolating ways,but when you feel you got no response from the people you thought were friends,you get pissed and wonder if that's worse it.
For example I've been trying to make friendships at work,coz that's the only place I can,for now.I've been toegether and joking with another girl;we have become friends.I asked for her number and I gave her mine coz then she would have changed work,that was to keep in touch.Here,now she's away.She told me to phone her so she knew it was me at the phone.I did it,I even sent two or three sms.She never answered me,why!?!
that's ok,you could say :"oh she is busy!" .ok,but this isn't the only time.
She said once:"I'm gonna take you some sweets I like" she did with another person not me "I'm gonna take you biscuits I do" .These things piss me off.
If I didn't see the whole thing about 'another girl', I would have thought you are a guy. Because this whole 'polite brush off' thing just seems to be SO common when women are dealing with guys (whether it happens to be a romantic relationship or otherwise). Let's just say that ALL guys have to deal with this at one time or another, social anxiety or not. Anyway, the way I see it, when this sort of thing happens (regardless of your gender), it basically means that you are, at best, a low priority to that person. But they don't want to tell you that because they want to seem like a nice person. Let's just say that this person does NOT look like good 'friend material'. Trust me, I've been there more than once. And you wouldn't believe the kinds of excuses I have been given.
sparks
10-24-2010, 06:12 PM
I am trying to change my isolating ways,but when you feel you got no response from the people you thought were friends,you get pissed and wonder if that's worse it.
many people deal with people not responding to them...i'm sure most people would agree with this...so given that fact; it is interesting to me how some people are able to deal with this and still have anxiety free lives... how could that be possible? some people chalk it up to luck, yet they fail to realize that there are millions of people who have overcome anxiety that used to have it...so given that fact, one thing is obvious to most...
if the responses of other people dictate how one feels, then there will be problems because people's responses change...so the solution becomes clear... become more immune to the good thoughts or bad thought so others...
how... there's tons of ways... NLP comes to mind as a marvelous alternative.
It is that I've been telling all my life that it was my fault if people didn't look for me.Coz I isolated almost completely.Now I'm trying not to do that when I'm fine and away from bad thoughts.But when you behave in a certain way and you realize that people don't care at all you wonder,is it me mistaken or the people don't care? So why I shouldn't alone at this point.That same person today told me she would have call me to go out together tomorrow;she didn't once more.I always connect with the wrong people.
I'm a girl anyway :tongue:
sparks
10-26-2010, 08:26 PM
It is that I've been telling all my life that it was my fault if people didn't look for me.Coz I isolated almost completely.Now I'm trying not to do that when I'm fine and away from bad thoughts.But when you behave in a certain way and you realize that people don't care at all you wonder,is it me mistaken or the people don't care? So why I shouldn't alone at this point.That same person today told me she would have call me to go out together tomorrow;she didn't once more.I always connect with the wrong people.
i can see that ma'am...
so...a good question some might ask is...given that fact
how are you going to improve your life?
you're kidding me or you're serious,I'm confused :?
sparks
10-27-2010, 05:27 PM
I'm dead serious...
Do you have a plan for improving your life and what you want? If not, then this can help.
I'm dead serious...
Do you have a plan for improving your life and what you want? If not, then this can help.
yes,I'm trying to be more open in general and I'm trying to socialize just as more as I can with the people I work with,I'm even trying to be more happy on a daily basis,it's not like I'm forcing myself,I'm just trying to look at things just the way they are,so I'm not taking them too seriously and be more positive.Coz when I do take 'em too seriously I wonder crazy things and feel sorry for myself,which isn't the case really,coz it takes me to isolate a whole lot,that's not good you know!?
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