Don't want to socialize

[Neander]

Hi, I'll cut straight to it.

I don't want to socialize, hang out, go out, or however it can be put. I used to love, in fact pine after, partying and playing around and having fun, but now I want to be alone most of the time. I find I thrive on solitude now, and while I still enjoy talking to people when I have to, I find I'd much rather avoid socializing in any official way (party, going to a bar, travelling with friends, going to dinner).

Reading this, does anyone see a problem here? I don't really know if this is a bad thing, or if it's just a kind of preference. I find I don't want to end up too attached to people, with too many responsibilities to them, or them to me, and I would rather keep all people at a distance.

I'm not a bad or suspicious person. I'm very close with my family, and nice to the people I know. But I just don't want to have friends. Now... that does sound weird.

[NihilistNoir]

i do i think its a symptom of depression.

[MikeJsimon]

However, that doesn't mean they don't want to socialize with others, it simply means that it's different and may take a little getting use to in some cases. This social awkwardness is not a problem for all.Trust your self

Quoted from:
http://ezinearticles.com/?Socializing-in-MMORPGs&id=2190904

[MikeJsimon]

i do i think its a symptom of depression.

i don't think so its case o depression.

[ghcowan]

Hi Neander,
Its human nature to shy away from situations that we feel uncomfortable with. Now, as you were obviously comfortable beforehand re socialising has something 'bad' happened in the past linked to a social event? This would then make you unconsiously wary of getting into similar situations.
I have a similar thing going on where I often get panicky in restaurants and my throat tightens making eating a chore. This obviously puts me off getting out and about. This has meant drifitng apart from people I have met over the years, not wishing to get to close to them should they wish to take the friendship on and e.g. go out for meals etc. I often get jealous when I see party-animals getting on with life and having a good time. But, I guess you don't have to be a party-animal to have a good life, but I think deep down it sounds like you wish to get out and about a bit more. Just take small steps and eventually you'll get where you want to be (both physically and mentally!).
Best wishes,
Graham

[Vega]

I had the same feelings as you but I was almost fearful of going out in public. I was diagnosed with social anxiety and my doctor prescribed me a medicine which has helped. It sounds like you don't have a fear of being social, it's just that you choose not to. I though that was me but when I really looked at myself I realized that I had a problem and that I needed to talk with my doctor.

[Cissnei]

I think personally that when an individual suffers with anxiety/depression, because they have become conditioned to be afraid or anxious of going out or of certain situations, the only way a human being can cope, is to become numb or indifferent.

Say for instance, you are afraid of clubbing, and one summer, all of your friends are going clubbing for their birthdays. Part of you will feel left out, annoyed at yourself for letting the fear take over, frightened, angry, depressed, bored, rejected, anxious. These emotions are exhausting, and so we train ourselves to 'not care', so that eventually we don't want to do those things.

We go from extreme reaction of anxiety/panic etc to depressed/disapointed that we couldn't face it to indifferent/desensitised.