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jc70
01-23-2006, 08:07 AM
for years now i have avoided as many situations as possible as they scare me. For example I won't go into a shop if there is nobody else in it as I think people are staring at me. I don't like socialising with new people as I think I should be talking all the time. I recently tried to start a new business with a couple of friends of mine. I was meant to call people to do market research and generate new business but cannot bring myself to pick up the phone through some sort of fear of rejection.
For many years I have stood in front of people and trained them how to use software and didn't really find this a problem as I had a job to do and I did it. So if I can do that why do i fear so much? I have put a lot of thought in to this and figured that I may just be lazy. I worked hard in all the jobs I've done but I was made redundant from my job back in July and since then the problem has gotten worse. I get stressed at the stupidest things. What makes this worse is there are times I get angry with myself and just do the things that scare me. So I know I can overcome the feeling. Once done I wonder why I was scared in the first place as it felt good to get them done. I can't seem to draw on that experience and end up going back to being anxious all over again. My confidence is very low right now. I have money and relationship problems and a lot of time on my hands.
I feel worthless and of no use to anybody even though I've been good at the jobs I have done. I've started smoking again and this has not helped as I feel very down when I have a cigarette.
I'd like to live on an island someplace with no people and no problems.
This feeling I have stops me from doing the things I know I need to do and it's causing me some serious problems.

milly
01-23-2006, 08:43 AM
Hi,
no you are not lazy.
Never think that, that is what one of my therapists said I was and it just lowers your self esteem.
I cant offer you a lot of advice all I can say is think of all of the great things that you have done like how you trained people to use computers (is that right?) That is such an achevemant, I wish I could have done that.
I am sure that there will be people on here who will be able to help you.
Good luck,
Milly

jay
01-24-2006, 11:53 AM
jc,
I feel like you were talking about me. I know I don't have the answers but we sure have a lot in common.. Jay