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sanacounselling
07-06-2016, 12:32 PM
Existence, Life and Death

When I write my blogs, I write about events or ideas that occurred the week before that inspired me, or that I simply connected with. Perhaps it’s a bit morbid that this week I feel I have connected to the idea/thought of death- and I have to be honest, this isn’t the first time.

I have observed that when it comes to anxiety and it’s root causes, a number of people in therapy mention time, purpose or death. Who can blame them? Philosophers like Friedrich Nietzsche, Existentialists like Irvin Yalom and the great musicians all wrote (and for those who death has not touched, still write) about the subject.

Death is hideous. Death is beautiful. Death is an ending and for some believers, a new beginning…it is pretty much whatever we want it to be, and the one thing that is has in common for all of us is that it is a certainty. I have a hunch that this absolute death that we all face leads many of us to feel overwhelmed and anxious about how we choose to live. It also calls for us to question how we spend our time and pretty much reevaluate all that is important to us…or at the very least begin our quest to reevaluate our lives and reconsider the question, “what is important to me?” And so the anxiety paired with excitement begins and this, I dare say, is the quest of my generation.

I guess my question is that even though we all know that death looms over us and will one day put us on it’s shortlist, is there a way we can ever really be ok with it? Is it worth pouring our aliveness into thoughts about what comes next, or is it a waste of our life to consider death so closely?

I know that I have had my fair share of health issues over my lifetime- shute, I’ve spent over half of my life on anti-convulsant medications and have no idea what lucidity even means! But seriously, when my health is not 90%+ I get scared and the idea of death spirals again. Honestly, I don’t think that I will be OK with the idea of dying any time soon but I do, every now and then, really like to acknowledge death and pay homage to one of the most powerful concepts that humans like to ponder.

So, I’ll leave with you these quotes by two iconic authors.

”Live your life to the fullest; and then, and only then, die. Don't leave any unlived life behind.” -Irvin Yalom

“Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside in a cloud of smoke, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming, ‘Wow! What a ride!’” -Hunter S. Thompson

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tara6720
07-06-2016, 01:05 PM
That's something I can relate to. I like the quotes you mention. When I think about death, I will generally start questioning my life purpose too which is no harm sometimes but I can start overanalysing instead of enjoying the simple things in life !

Sky McDade
07-06-2016, 04:15 PM
When I was around 9/10 I was laying in bed one night and I had a sudden realization that one day I'm going to die and I'm not going to be able to see how beautiful the world is or smell the grass or hold the ones I love, and I think that was when I had my first panic attack, and it has crept up on me randomly since then, mostly at night but sometimes in the day time, I think the general idea of not being alive and not knowing what comes after if anything, is what terrifies me and keeps me awake at night. I have no idea where it came from, the only thing that helps me when it happens is if I tell myself to breathe slowly and I say out loud to myself, "There's nothing I can do about it, it's going to happen regardless, and who knows...when the time comes maybe I will be ready, or at peace with it." And if that doesn't help I cry it out whilst my boyfriend cuddles me, but I hate how it makes me fee stupid for worrying about something I have no control over.

Kirk
07-07-2016, 02:07 PM
One day not too long ago, I was seeing my internal medicine physician who is concierge now. I was asking him a question and he said to me, it sounds like you are asking me the meaning of life.
He then said, if you ever find out the answer, please let me know.

tara6720
07-07-2016, 02:38 PM
I think sometimes the things we don't have control over are the most scary.It sounds like you have a great love for life and appreciate the beauty around you which in today's world is something a lot of people take for granted. You have found ways to help you when you have a panic attack. Its good to have affirmations to say or think!. I find it helps me too in lots of areas of my life. I think Its okay to be afraid of the unknown. and I guess finding ways to deal with It is part of life's journey. For me, I like to think there is something more after this life and i picture peaceful images i would like to see in the next!It might not work for everyone but i find it kind of calming.

sanacounselling
07-20-2016, 03:14 PM
I'm happy you enjoyed :)