Talking about issues only makes them worse...?

[Elias Omberg Pedersen]

Shits got to go

[Nowuccas]

Hey Elias,

It would be difficult to perform adequately at high school without a stable place of residence. Some manage through home schooling, which takes a fair degree of self discipline.

Previous posts on anxiety, insomnia, depression, and teen depression may be found at:

http://anxietyforum.net/forum/showthread.php?33197-Do-I-have-anxiety-disorder-or-something-worse&p=220006#post220006

http://anxietyforum.net/forum/showthread.php?32707-has-this-happend-to-you&p=216510#post216510

http://anxietyforum.net/forum/showthread.php?33915-Hopefully-you-will-listen&p=223785#post223785

Most of what I've accumulated on anxiety and depression is at http://your-mental-health.weebly.com/i.html and pages B, and 3.

A post on anxiety follows:

Limit "worrying time" to 30 - 45 mns, daily, possibly when you get home, or after your evening meal, but not too close to bedtime, after which, resolve firmly to refuse to worry again on that day. Understand that to do otherwise would be counterproductive to your mental health, and enjoyment of life. Having had your "worry time" for the day, you can just write down any more thoughts that come to mind, and say to yourself: "Well, I'll just have to worry about that tomorrow, won't I?". It's important to regularly monitor, and deal with a negative internal monologue (self talk), or mental process, such as disturbing thoughts, images, impulses, or emotions, by the process of (a): recognising it, and (b): challenging it immediately. Technique For Re-Programming Negative Thoughts: When you notice something negative, such as: "I can't do this/ am never going to get over this!" or: "Why am I always so useless/such a loser?" or even an image, emotion, or a memory; recognise that it is being generated from the negative part of your mind. After identifying, and labelling it, visualise a large, red, flashing, "STOP!" sign, and/or possibly a stern faced person wagging an index finger at you in a negative manner, then say to yourself as forcefully as you can, even aloud in a big voice, if alone: "I know this tactic: GO AWAY FOR A WHILE !!!" You may want to use either: "ruse", "ploy", "game", or "trick". In the case of an image, visualise a large "STOP" sign, or your preferred version. Some people go so far as to keep a wide rubber band in their pocket, then put it around their wrist, when they catch themselves backsliding, stretch and release it, as a method of reprogramming their mind sooner, but I don't regard it as being strictly necessary. Remember to remove it, afterwards, if you use this method. Try replacing a negative thought with a positive affirmation of your choice, like: "I am a unique individual, with my own set of skills, and good points", or "I may not be perfect, but I'm doing the best I can, right now".

Practice a relaxation method, daily, and when needed, such as http://www.drcoxconsulting.com/managing-stress.html or http://altmedicine.about.com/cs/mindbody/a/Meditation.htm
or www.wikihow.com/Meditate and/or Tai Chi, Qi Gong, or yoga. Give the EFT a good tryout, to see if it helps you. It is free via the searchbar at http://eft.mercola.com or www.tapping.com (13 free videos) or YouTube EFT. Professionally instructed is best. There is a version for use in public places, (you can claim to have a headache, as you employ the acupressure massage/tapping on your temples, but you would then be restricted to subvocalising: saying it to yourself in your mind: "Even though I have anxiety, I deeply and completely accept myself." Herbal remedies, such as chamomile, passionflower, or St. John's wort, are often effective, but the idea is (as with anxiolytic medication) to use them like water wings, or training wheels on a bicycle, providing initial support, and giving time for other treatments, such as therapy, and relaxation techniques, to take effect. See http://altmedicine.about.com/cs/conditionsatod/a/Anxiety.htm Imagine, as vividly as you possibly can, that your concerns, anxieties, worries, fears, your self-recriminations, all the agonizing "I'm-so-Stupids"; every painful "I-can't-do-it", etc., are huge raging, hurtful bulls snorting and charging at you. You see them coming at you and you hold out your red matador's cape at arms length and simply let them charge right by. Every time they come at you, hold out your arm with the red cape and let them rage and snort and go right on past. A free E course in CBT for anxiety is at: http://ecouch.anu.edu.au/welcome 85% of people are suggestible, to some extent, so consider professional hypnotherapy, or more alternatives along such lines are at: http://your-mental-health.weebly.com/i.html where this came from; see the rest.

Try your bookstore, Amazon.com, or BarnesAndNoble.com for: How to Control Your Anxiety before It Controls You, by Albert Ellis, & Self-Coaching: How to Heal Anxiety and Depression, Joseph J. Luciani Ph.D., & Anxiety and Phobia Workbook, by Edmund Bourne, & Natural Relief for Anxiety: Complementary Strategies for Easing Fear, Panic & Worry by Edmund J. Bourne, Arlen Brownstein, and Lorna Garano, & The 10 Best-Ever Anxiety Management Techniques: Understanding How Your Brain Makes You Anxious and What You Can Do to Change It by Margaret Wehrenberg, & Managing Anxiety. Kennerley, Helen. ~~~

After a long break you may find it hard to get back into studying, so it could help if you set your own study course, to keep your mind active and do some reading and note taking on the ground you will be covering in several months.

Below is a post on study and exam tips:

[Nowuccas]

Rewrite notes soon afterwards in different words. Revise the next day, week, month, and before exams, to ensure they stick in your mind. Join, or start study groups. Having a good, or at least, a well ordered memory makes study much easier, and less frustrating, so if yours needs improving, use the methods shown on page G at Weebly, below (it should be lumosity.com, not luminosity.com!). View: http://www.how-to-study.com/ & http://www.studytips.org/ & http://www.studygs.net/ Start homework, study, or revision on getting home, and do 20 mns, then have a 5 mn break, then do another 20, and so on. It's a good idea to know your learning style, and adapt accordingly; see http://www.learning-styles-online.com/ & http://www.vark-learn.com/english/page.asp?p=questionnaire Exams: Don't cram at the expense of sleep! Read the question quickly, THEN RE-READ IT, carefully; ensure you know EXACTLY what the examiner is asking for. Arrive early. Bring spare pens, pencils, batteries (or ensure fully charged). Note the number of marks for any question, and apportion your allocated time accordingly. I used to "race through", doing what I really knew first, then focus on the "iffy" stuff, leaving the "without much of a clue" stuff until last. Ensure your bladder is empty, immediately beforehand. Take at least 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, or the recommended dose of a high quality fish oil daily, like Carlsons or Melrose (certified free of mercury) it is best if consumed with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or its FRESHLY SQUEEZED juice. If vitamin E is added, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it may be synthetic: avoid it!

Females may benefit by balancing the DHA, & EPA versions of Omega 3 in fish, or krill oil* with ALA flaxseed oil Omega 3, or at least one heaped tablespoonful of ground flaxseed, daily. Dr. Mercola rates "krill oil" much higher than fish oil, because it is far less easily oxidised, so you may want to check this out for yourself through the searchbar at mercola.com Vegetarians & vegans: Google: "Omega 3; algae; supplies" and use it with flaxseed.
Alternatively, you could go to the searchbar at http://www.mercola.com and enter: "krill oil". While you are there, enter "nutritional type", (for their book) or http://www.naturalhealthcoach.com/tools/ (free online quiz) and eat more in accordance with yours. Exercise moderately, for 30 - 60 mns, daily. The supplements, DHEA & Phosphatidyl Serine are some that I have been informed are worth trying. Ginkgo biloba is often recommended, but has mixed reviews, so check the comparative strength, and buy from a health food, or vitamin store; ask what feedback they have been getting, and what else they suggest (write down, and check them out, later, through Google, WebFerret, or your search engine, before buying). Hypnosis is merely a heightened state of suggestibility, in which you are better able to communicate with your subconscious mind. 85% of people are suggestible to some degree; 15% - 20% highly so, and 15% - 20% aren't much at all, so you could either preferably seek professional hypnotherapy, or, if not an option, more along such lines is at http://your-mental-health.weebly.com/p.html where this came from, and hypnosisdownloads.com has one on maintaining concentration and focus.

Lecithin* (phosphatidyl choline). A phospholipid found mostly in high-fat foods. It is said to have the ability to improve memory and brain processes. Lecithin is necessary for normal brain development. Lecithin capsules are available, but many people prefer the soft lecithin granules. These are a nice addition to fruit juice smoothies, adding a thicker texture. Lecithin is oil-based, and it gets rancid easily. It should be refrigerated (from health food stores). *Note: Dr. Mercola at www.mercola.com asserts that krill oil is superior to standard Omega 3 fish oil, or that, at least the brands he recommends are, and I am persuaded that he is probably correct. See: FISH OR KRILL OIL? IS KRILL OIL 48x BETTER THAN FISH OIL? via the Mercola.com searchbar.

Eating Sugar Makes You Stupid - view http://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2015/07/08/high-sugar-diet-gut-bacteria.aspx?e_cid=20150708Z3_DNL_art_3&utm_source=dnl&utm_medium=email&utm_content=art3&utm_campaign=20150708Z3&et_cid=DM79009&et_rid=1023870015

Perhaps visit the school you intend going to, and explain your situation, and ask what you could best be doing to give you a reasonable chance of performing adequately when you begin attending.

[Elias Omberg Pedersen]

Man... Shit, I don't know, stuff is just too fucked up for me to handle. I think I'm going thru a midlife crisis already, I'm turning 18 soon and I don't wanna be 18 nobody ever taught me to be responsible, and I like being young. Shit, I'm gonna spend my birthday getting wasted on booze or something, and I hate alcohol. -.- Fuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfu ckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuck fuckfuckfuck

Happy new years!