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baconsoft
11-07-2015, 03:27 PM
Hi
First time poster. I guess I just want to vent my frustration about my anxiety among those who understand and can sympathise with what I am going through. Writing it down might make me feel better.
I dont know where it stems from but I have a constant fear of making a mistake (especially in my job) which could in turn lead me getting into trouble. I always seek validation for my work, and constantly check things just to be sure I havent made a mistake. Criticism (whether constructive or not) is catastrophic to my self-confidence and leads to self-doubt and shame spirals.
I have been promoted a few times in work, but that seems to have no bearing on the negative thoughts that flow through my head about my abilities. I am always thinking that I will be revealed as the imposter that doesnt have a clue what he is doing.
My job sometimes requires a lot of focus and concentration, and tasks that need to be done quickly and accurately. Whenever these tasks are assigned to me, my heart races, sweaty palms and my head throbs. I think that the worst is inevitably going to happen when I perform these tasks and I will end up doing a poor job/get in trouble/everyone laughs at me. Up until recently I managed to concentrate hard enough and I did ok. However in the last couple of weeks the negativity has become a self-fulfilling prophecy and I have really struggled. So much so that I am being taken off these tasks and they are being given to someone else and people are commenting on how bad a job I did.
I know I can do my job and do it well, but the anxiety I feel coupled with the negative thoughts I have about myself are destroying me in work.

I just wanted to get this out there, I feel a little bit better! If anyone else has gone through the same thing and come out the other side, please comment, I would greatly appreciate the feedback

Thanks so much for reading

NixonRulz
11-07-2015, 06:29 PM
Hi
First time poster. I guess I just want to vent my frustration about my anxiety among those who understand and can sympathise with what I am going through. Writing it down might make me feel better.
I dont know where it stems from but I have a constant fear of making a mistake (especially in my job) which could in turn lead me getting into trouble. I always seek validation for my work, and constantly check things just to be sure I havent made a mistake. Criticism (whether constructive or not) is catastrophic to my self-confidence and leads to self-doubt and shame spirals.
I have been promoted a few times in work, but that seems to have no bearing on the negative thoughts that flow through my head about my abilities. I am always thinking that I will be revealed as the imposter that doesnt have a clue what he is doing.
My job sometimes requires a lot of focus and concentration, and tasks that need to be done quickly and accurately. Whenever these tasks are assigned to me, my heart races, sweaty palms and my head throbs. I think that the worst is inevitably going to happen when I perform these tasks and I will end up doing a poor job/get in trouble/everyone laughs at me. Up until recently I managed to concentrate hard enough and I did ok. However in the last couple of weeks the negativity has become a self-fulfilling prophecy and I have really struggled. So much so that I am being taken off these tasks and they are being given to someone else and people are commenting on how bad a job I did.
I know I can do my job and do it well, but the anxiety I feel coupled with the negative thoughts I have about myself are destroying me in work.

I just wanted to get this out there, I feel a little bit better! If anyone else has gone through the same thing and come out the other side, please comment, I would greatly appreciate the feedback

Thanks so much for reading

Anxiety just makes you focus, dwell and over analyze most things and a job performance is no exception

It isn't a question of how to deal with fear of criticism in your job, its how are you going to deal with your anxiety

Deal with your anxiety and you will straighten this out and anything else you tend to dwell on irrationally

cloudy black
11-22-2015, 02:39 PM
hello baconsoft gosh yes i had the same fear of making mistakes in work so much so that it became a reality and i got the sack or walked out of jobs. for me i guess it was poor self esteem with a dash of refusing to suck up to the boss like what everyone else seemed to do. i just couldnt wouldnt do it. yep the imposter bit i can identify with. i used to dread it when the boss would have these new ideas and i was expected to deliver in my understanding of his new ideas. i was so stressed out that i was taken off tasks like you. also i developed chronic fatigue where i literally could have fallen asleep on my feet and was potentially dangerous as i worked in a bakery amazing really that i didnt have an accident. i wish i could say that i have come out the other side. but for me i think its more that i have never found my niche in life. for me i had to be true to myself and that has consequences. are you in the right job? what are your interests? if you were granted a wish and could do anything what would you see yourself doing?