greyhound
07-20-2015, 04:40 AM
Hello, friends. Thanks for creating this forum.
I live in Sweden and I am in my mid 20s. I have always been a very anxious person with enormous mood swings. Some time ago I lost (no, she didn't die, she just dumped me) my girlfriend for the last 4 years and I think this is related to things getting much worse. As of now I alternate one night where I don't sleep at all with one night where I sleep 3 or 4 hours (thought it might not be just anxiety but also the "midnight sun" of the summer which i am not used to). Never ever in my life I slept normally, I usually take more than one hour in the bed before I can sleep even where there is nothing worrying me at the moment, and when I do sleep more than 3 or 4 hours it's in a sequence of 3-4 hour long blocks.
But my worst problem is that I have a deep feeling of pessimism and impatience with everything I do that is impairing all I do in my life. Everything that takes more than one day in the post I consider lost, I can't stand 15 minute queues, I have the feeling everyone I just met hated me (which honestly I don't think it's pessimist but merely a constatation) and often these worries and need for attention makes people actually hate me (recently things were going very well with another girl and I managed to fuck up it in like 5 minutes). I never know when to keep having patience with people because it's my anxiety lying to me or when to stop going after them because I am looking like a sucker. I had the worst love life of all people I know and now I am nearly paranoid I am never being together with anyone again in my life and when I ponder conditions and circumstances these pessimist thoughts actually become realistic (just as indeed I get quite a lot of stuff lost in the post). Actually Anxiety probably plays for 90% of what made me lose my girfriend too.
Surprisingly enough the healthcare in Sweden is crap. Few nurses and admnistration staff speak proper English making getting a consultation a pain in the ass. Right now all the doctors from my local health center are "on holiday" (I know, there are many good things about this place but this healthcare is a joke) and they will only treat "acute" cases which probably doesn't include a kid who doesn't sleep at night. I was looking at solutions I could get without a prescription. Therapy is probably the best solution for my case but completely out of my financial reach and I really don't have the patience (you might have already noticed by now) to wait years for it to kick in. I don't have panic attacks, sweating, other physical aspects of anxiety which medicines tackle usually the most so i thought that it would be unwise to just take the first thing I found at google.
Any tips from people here that could help me to deal with this, non prescription drugs, changes in lifestyle, whatever? I have looked into (not actually tried seriously) in meditation but I am so unpatient and worried all the time that I seem uncapable of doing it.
Thanks for all of you that managed to go through this rant!
I live in Sweden and I am in my mid 20s. I have always been a very anxious person with enormous mood swings. Some time ago I lost (no, she didn't die, she just dumped me) my girlfriend for the last 4 years and I think this is related to things getting much worse. As of now I alternate one night where I don't sleep at all with one night where I sleep 3 or 4 hours (thought it might not be just anxiety but also the "midnight sun" of the summer which i am not used to). Never ever in my life I slept normally, I usually take more than one hour in the bed before I can sleep even where there is nothing worrying me at the moment, and when I do sleep more than 3 or 4 hours it's in a sequence of 3-4 hour long blocks.
But my worst problem is that I have a deep feeling of pessimism and impatience with everything I do that is impairing all I do in my life. Everything that takes more than one day in the post I consider lost, I can't stand 15 minute queues, I have the feeling everyone I just met hated me (which honestly I don't think it's pessimist but merely a constatation) and often these worries and need for attention makes people actually hate me (recently things were going very well with another girl and I managed to fuck up it in like 5 minutes). I never know when to keep having patience with people because it's my anxiety lying to me or when to stop going after them because I am looking like a sucker. I had the worst love life of all people I know and now I am nearly paranoid I am never being together with anyone again in my life and when I ponder conditions and circumstances these pessimist thoughts actually become realistic (just as indeed I get quite a lot of stuff lost in the post). Actually Anxiety probably plays for 90% of what made me lose my girfriend too.
Surprisingly enough the healthcare in Sweden is crap. Few nurses and admnistration staff speak proper English making getting a consultation a pain in the ass. Right now all the doctors from my local health center are "on holiday" (I know, there are many good things about this place but this healthcare is a joke) and they will only treat "acute" cases which probably doesn't include a kid who doesn't sleep at night. I was looking at solutions I could get without a prescription. Therapy is probably the best solution for my case but completely out of my financial reach and I really don't have the patience (you might have already noticed by now) to wait years for it to kick in. I don't have panic attacks, sweating, other physical aspects of anxiety which medicines tackle usually the most so i thought that it would be unwise to just take the first thing I found at google.
Any tips from people here that could help me to deal with this, non prescription drugs, changes in lifestyle, whatever? I have looked into (not actually tried seriously) in meditation but I am so unpatient and worried all the time that I seem uncapable of doing it.
Thanks for all of you that managed to go through this rant!