new member needs ALOT of help

[heathbresee]

OK so I'm 22 year old male my father passed away from a massive heart attack at age 56. In 2003 I was 11. Idk what I'm suffering from but I am losing my mind I don't even live a life anymore!!! I'm slightly over weight. I'm 220 6ft tall but I'm muscular not fat I DO NOT smoke never have. I don't drink ever. I own a sonic drive in so fast food is eaten alot. Here's my problem I think I have anxiety I think. 2 years ago I had my first oannic attack I thought I was gonna die my heart rate was in the 200's they had to give me a very painful shot that went through my veins and hurt so damn bad but it worked. Ever since then I've been so scared to basically live! I've had 3 perfect ekgs one 2 weeks ago I also have worn a 24hr holter moniter and it came back perfect every time I lay down at the end of the night my mind goes to my heart I feel every beat. And if I think I missed one then I feel I have a missed beat and my heart thumps. I'm so scared my heart is just gonna stop beating and I'm going to die and leave my 3 year old son with no dad. I'm honestly scared to death

[nikki_marie21]

You are not alone in the struggle .. Anxiety and depression really sucks the life out of you! Have you ever considered seeking help from a therapist or pdoc?

[heathbresee]

That's what the Dr told me I should do. As I'm a Afghanistan combat veteran they said PTSD could be part of it. I'm just so scared my hearts going to stop

[Pumpkin]

I'm sorry about your father and that you have to experience the pain from this tragedy. I highly recommend seeing a therapist or psychiatrist because they can help you and specialize in helping people just like you. You are not alone!! Anxiety is so common and being able to seek help is such a blessing. In the mean time, try to stay busy. Exercise, hang out with friends and watch some good shows and movies to keep your mind occupied. You can overcome these awful and scary feelings with the right help and resources. Good luck :)

[heathbresee]

I just hope it really is anxiety :(

[Anne1221]

Yes, a therapist will help and it's possible you may need some medication. Keep reading the postings on this forum and you will learn a lot from others. Make sure you feel comfortable with your doctor and see another one if needed. Once it becomes clear that there is nothing wrong with your heart, you'll know it's anxiety. Then you have to learn ways to cope with that. Be sure to exercise! That will build up your body with a strong heart. Stop smoking if you do. Then, start learning how to calm yourself down, practice techniques that have proven to help with anxiety, and know that the best thing you can do for your son is focus on him, relaxing and enjoying life with him.

[Anne1221]

Oh, the anxiety will make you think it's not that and there really is something wrong with your heart. But doctors know a lot about the heart these days and you can trust they can find out something wrong. Also, try to start eating a healthy diet, not easy in your line of work, but taking positive steps to make your heart strong and healthy by diet and exercise will help you feel in control. Lots of people find great help in meditation.

[surpassit]

Okay bro im a put this is the nicest way possible. Get over it. Sorry if it sounds mean and coldhearted but thats the first step you have to take to heal yourself. Honestly. Do something that gets your mind off yourself and on someone else. Try paying attention more to your kid. He needs you. He needs you to be the strongest you ever been. You cant dwell on the fact that you think that you might have a heart attack just because your father had one (sorry about your loss and may he rest in peace). Let the doctors decide and worry if you might have a heart attack. Dont pshyc yourself out. Your just digging a deeper and deeper hole everyrime you think about those things and trust me, been there done that. It going to be hard to get yourself out of that hole too. So do the best you can too start climbing up the hole and quit digging deeper and deeper. Get over it.

If your a religious person try listening to joel olsteens "get over it" podcast. It really helps. Hope you surpass this problem, which you probably will because its just anxiety. Oh and thank you for serving for our country. Much respect for you.

Again, im sorry if this sounded a little harsh lol.

[Fourteen14]

I would say, PTSD and Anxiety are pretty hard to deal with individually, let alone having the whole heap thrown at you at once.

If you are at a point where it's affecting your family life (this is incredibly important in the support of recovery).

I would second the advice given already to seek out a therapist, there may be deeper issues to address (death of your father, your time in Afghanistan).

By not dealing with it now, you leave yourself open to allowing to build up into something more than it has to be. Best of luck :)

[MAM090982]

surpassit...you should NEVER, EVER tell someone with anxiety and ptsd, to GET OVER IT. Those are the three worst words you could ever say. Yet, you decided to say it twice. You don't belong in a forum like this!

[surpassit]

Mamo,

Sorry, I dont know what to say. I guess im not that expirienced with anxiety enough to say things like that. I just recently found out I have anxiety problems. Sorry if I offended anyone. Its just im sick and tired of feeling like this. It gets me so mad because I was a normal kid 2 months ago and now im having all these feelings. Wtf? My lIfe sucks right now haha. Guess I should just read tue threads and not respond until I actually understand this a little better.

My sincere appologies.

[MAM090982]

Thank you for apologizing, but I would apologize to the person who you said it to. Someone who is experiencing anxiety themselves should know better. I understand your frustration, no one wants to be like this and just wants to go back to being "normal", but just remember no one is "normal". I do hope you find a way to live a healthy and happy life as a person who suffers with anxiety. Thanks for the apology though.

[surpassit]

Hey mamo can you Private Message me? Quick question that I would rather ask in private