Really bad day

[Hannah_28]

I caught the train today and fell asleep and didn't buy a ticket. I am now being threatened with a fine after a spot check at the station. Then I got home and had a call saying id taken a key home from work and I live miles away, I had an argument with them about taking it back. I'm waiting for the third thing to happen, after all they say these things come in threes. I'm in such a state panicking. I have a friend coming round for tea and she's very 'normal' how can I calm myself down before she gets here I don't want her or anyone to see me like this. Please help.

[brittany32888]

I caught the train today and fell asleep and didn't buy a ticket. I am now being threatened with a fine after a spot check at the station. Then I got home and had a call saying id taken a key home from work and I live miles away, I had an argument with them about taking it back. I'm waiting for the third thing to happen, after all they say these things come in threes. I'm in such a state panicking. I have a friend coming round for tea and she's very 'normal' how can I calm myself down before she gets here I don't want her or anyone to see me like this. Please help.


First of all, the hardest thing to do which seems to be the best, is to not dwell on the things we cannot control. If you fell asleep on the train, maybe you needed that rest more than what the fine is worth. And as for the key, you will just return it when you go back to work, right? You can't go back and change it now. And that's ok. Accept it. Release it. Move on. Maybe something amazing will happen. :)

[Hannah_28]

My friend just canceled and my mum took the keys to work. I'm yet to find out how much I have to pay for the fine. Shaking right now.

[brittany32888]

My friend just canceled and my mum took the keys to work. I'm yet to find out how much I have to pay for the fine. Shaking right now.
Are you afraid the fine will be more than you can afford?

[Hannah_28]

They said it could be up to £1000

[brittany32888]

They said it could be up to £1000
REALLY?!!?! That's ridiculous. Anyway to dispute it?

[Hannah_28]

Apparently u can give ur side of the story but if they don't believe u u have to pay up

[brittany32888]

I guess I would just try that... I'm sorry that you are in this situation. It really is unfair.

[Hannah_28]

I already have emailed but not heard anything it's really not helping my anxiety I'm currently doing my hair to take my mind off it and try to make myself feel better :) if I have to pay I have to pay I just hope it's not too much

[brittany32888]

That's already a better attitude than you began with, right? I'm glad you're finding something to do other than worry :)

[Hannah_28]

You have helped, Thankyou, next time I'll just stay in bed haha

[brittany32888]

I'm glad you feel I helped. Tell me how it all goes :)

[Hannah_28]

I will do thanks, just hope I'll be telling you it was ok

[brittany32888]

I will do thanks, just hope I'll be telling you it was ok
How are you doing??

[Hannah_28]

I'm the talk of work, I went back in today apparently people know what happened and that my section leader had a go at me, they're saying that he shouldn't have.

[brittany32888]

I'm the talk of work, I went back in today apparently people know what happened and that my section leader had a go at me, they're saying that he shouldn't have.
So they're on your side? Does it bother you or are you ok?

[Hannah_28]

In think they are, but I don't like to be the centre of attention, I'm ok just worrying about the fine.

[brittany32888]

In think they are, but I don't like to be the centre of attention, I'm ok just worrying about the fine.

I know what u mean. Did they say how long it would be before they would let u know?

[Hannah_28]

Up to 28 days, I've been told that if a say I suffer with anxiety/depression that may help but I'm not on any meds only natural supplements so I'm not sure.

[Hannah_28]

Tho it is on my medical records.

[After5hock]

I know 'gloating' about mental health 'issues' isn't the best way to go, but if I was in the same situation.. I can't say that I wouldn't announce it.

[Hannah_28]

I'm looking into legislation i can use in my reply, I've also found evidence that they didn't act as they should've done, so I won't just be using mental health in my argument.. Im just trying to be prepared. So I don't have a melt down when the letter arrives.

[After5hock]

That's a great idea.
Just prepare yourself fully!
I wish you the best of luck with this.<3

[Hannah_28]

Thankyou, I'm really scared, I like to stay on top of things to keep my anxiety under control but this is so hard as u can't do anything until they contact me. It's frustrating.

[After5hock]

Just wondering.. what's the form of communication with this? Email, phone, or person?

[Hannah_28]

I was confronted initially in person then they said I will receive a letter saying what I'm accused of and how much I'm expected to pay, then I can appeal or pay. It goes to court if I don't respond.

[After5hock]

Does it do to court if you appeal it?
Oh man, when I get confronted about things I get a massive fire spread through my chest and face. I hate it because I feel like that person knows and will take advantage of it.

[Hannah_28]

I'm not sure apparently they're unlikely to take it to court as it's not worth the costs for such a small journey. I know I'm feeling pretty much the same thinking about it I felt like a criminal when they were interviewing me at the station. I haven't told anyone I know I'm so ashamed.

[After5hock]

Here.. let me grab the other paddle for you! You're not alone on that right now. I got written up at work today for something that I couldn't have prevented. I clean the cardio equipment at a gym here. I only work for three hours in the morning. Well, yesterday we had an inspection over 5 hours after I left because the equipment was dusty. That stuff gets dusty right after I'm done cleaning.. its like they expect me to come dust every few hours. (I'd do it, but they'd have to pay me more! Lol.)

[Hannah_28]

Seems a little unrealistic. Sounds like u did everything u should. I was pulled up at work the other day for unknowingly letting several fake coupons through a till, i stood my ground stating that it wasn't intentional and any way that that they could try to say that I should've known was unfounded and unrealistic and they backed off. I was proud of myself, You should do the same if you haven't already it's an empowering feeling :)

[After5hock]

I've tried that very thing, and my manager understands that I'm not magical and can't make things dust resistant. He gets in trouble for it too though because he checks it all when I'm done. Unfortunately Planet Fitness has unspeakably high standards for the cleanliness of the cardio equipment, however.. our floor are disgusting! One girl got fired a month after she was hired because she wasn't smiling.. (Her reason: dad passed that week. Their reply: you shouldn't allow your home life to affect your work.)

[Hannah_28]

Oh my gosh that's awful.. Surely a case for unfair dismissal?! Although I doubt she would want to work for them anyway now, I know I wouldn't. I'm glad it turned out ok for you and you were able to stand up for yourself :)

[After5hock]

I was trying so hard not to cry. I get emotional when I get in trouble for stuff like that.. but now, I'm just mad about it. Stupid guy!

[Hannah_28]

I'm like that! When angry frustrated or confronted my reaction is to want to cry. Then afterwards u just feel angry and frustrated and think about what I should've said.. We've a lot in common haha.

[After5hock]

Ugh. I get so mad when I think of something clever that I should've said hours ago! Lol. So it seems we do.

[Hannah_28]

Me too I do it every time drives me up the wall, feeds my tendency to over analyse.

[brittany32888]

Up to 28 days, I've been told that if a say I suffer with anxiety/depression that may help but I'm not on any meds only natural supplements so I'm not sure.
28 days is a long time... But maybe it will give you the appropriate time to get together whatever you need to handle it. Expect the best but plan for the worst. I have faith in you. :)

[Hannah_28]

It might but I'm not looking forward to the worry I'm going to feel during that time.

[brittany32888]

It might but I'm not looking forward to the worry I'm going to feel during that time.

I know that's the worst :(

[Hannah_28]

I was asked in to talk to my section leader at work today. He tried to blame me for what happened and say that I was out of line on the phone but I stood up to him and held my own, I manages to keep my voice calm and not cry too I then spoke to a higher manager and put my feelings across well and he was very understanding as a result.. Just thought I'd let u know as I'm very proud of myself :)

[brittany32888]

I was asked in to talk to my section leader at work today. He tried to blame me for what happened and say that I was out of line on the phone but I stood up to him and held my own, I manages to keep my voice calm and not cry too I then spoke to a higher manager and put my feelings across well and he was very understanding as a result.. Just thought I'd let u know as I'm very proud of myself :)

Sounds great. I hate confrontation with people at work. That's why I'm a stay at home mom now lol. But seriously, it's only going to boost your confidence to not let people walk all over you. I'm proud. :)

[Hannah_28]

Thank you very much I usually go to pieces in situations like that so it was an achievement for me :)

[brittany32888]

Thank you very much I usually go to pieces in situations like that so it was an achievement for me :)

As do I. I've literally cried at every job I've had because I hate that kind of stuff. Wish I had your courage.

[Hannah_28]

It wasn't courage, just, determination I guess, and anyone can have that.

[After5hock]

I was asked in to talk to my section leader at work today. He tried to blame me for what happened and say that I was out of line on the phone but I stood up to him and held my own, I manages to keep my voice calm and not cry too I then spoke to a higher manager and put my feelings across well and he was very understanding as a result.. Just thought I'd let u know as I'm very proud of myself :)

Ah! I'm so proud of you! Great job of standing your ground!

[brittany32888]

It wasn't courage, just, determination I guess, and anyone can have that.

How are you doing sweetie?

[Hannah_28]

I found that the woman's daughter has deleted me on Facebook now too with no explanation why. I'm so upset by it.

[NixonRulz]

I found that the woman's daughter has deleted me on Facebook now too with no explanation why. I'm so upset by it.

I get that. There was someone a few years ago that I hardly knew do the same

It shouldn't be any big deal but for some reason it was

I think it's a shot to our ego

It's not the person so much as the fact I was deemed not worthy

I got over it but it certainly irritated me at the time

[Hannah_28]

I know it shouldn't bother me but somehow it still does. I think it's the not knowing why.