moobr
04-11-2013, 10:01 AM
Hi!
Just wondering if anyone else has dealt with this and what they did to get through it.
I was in a relationship for 5 years that ended a little over 2 years ago when I decided to end things. At that point, I was pretty excited for the future and meeting new people. I took some time to just be single for about 9 months and just focused on me, then I started dating a guy for a couple of months, and it didn't work out (long story, but turned out he had been lying to me the whole time we dated). I took another short break, and had another relationship (about 8 months), was really falling for this guy, thought everything was going great, and then it ended abruptly with no warning and I was crushed for a little while. I waited again before dating (gave myself some time to heal), and now I've been dating someone I really like for a couple of months now.
The problem I'm now having is that I seem to be in an almost constant state of panic that he's going to end up hurting me and the thoughts and worry are consuming me. Luckily, I haven't been acting on this intense anxiety (I don't call or text constantly, I haven't been acting needy), since I know it's all in my head. I know logically that there's no way to predict the future, no matter who I date. I know logically that if I do end up getting hurt again, I'll just pick up the pieces and move on as I have before. But for some reason, no matter what I do, I can NOT seem to get logic and emotion/thoughts to coincide. I feel like I'm being ridiculous obsessing about it, and yet I can't stop.
Thoughts? Suggestions? Feedback of any sort?
Just wondering if anyone else has dealt with this and what they did to get through it.
I was in a relationship for 5 years that ended a little over 2 years ago when I decided to end things. At that point, I was pretty excited for the future and meeting new people. I took some time to just be single for about 9 months and just focused on me, then I started dating a guy for a couple of months, and it didn't work out (long story, but turned out he had been lying to me the whole time we dated). I took another short break, and had another relationship (about 8 months), was really falling for this guy, thought everything was going great, and then it ended abruptly with no warning and I was crushed for a little while. I waited again before dating (gave myself some time to heal), and now I've been dating someone I really like for a couple of months now.
The problem I'm now having is that I seem to be in an almost constant state of panic that he's going to end up hurting me and the thoughts and worry are consuming me. Luckily, I haven't been acting on this intense anxiety (I don't call or text constantly, I haven't been acting needy), since I know it's all in my head. I know logically that there's no way to predict the future, no matter who I date. I know logically that if I do end up getting hurt again, I'll just pick up the pieces and move on as I have before. But for some reason, no matter what I do, I can NOT seem to get logic and emotion/thoughts to coincide. I feel like I'm being ridiculous obsessing about it, and yet I can't stop.
Thoughts? Suggestions? Feedback of any sort?