Never Relaxed

[ikilledadragon]

I don't know why I can never relax.

I feel fine when I am at school, working out, or working. But I am very socially anxious. I never know what to look at and I am always aware of when someone is driving or walking by. I look to make sure they aren't looking at me.

Then, when I get home and there is nothing to do I get a little scared and depressed and lonely. I don't know what to do with myself. So when can I ever be happy and care free?

I wish I could be around people more but it is very difficult for me to meet new people and maintain conversation. I will usually zone out of social conversations after about ten minutes and I kind of freeze up.

I have been trying to talk reasonably with myself but I don't see how practice will make me more comfortable.

Any suggestions are gladly appreciated.

[n1ck13]

You have come to the right place, cause I can relate and I find it really helps me to talk anonymously on here so maybe it can help you too! :) and you don't just have to talk about what's bothering you, you can talk about absolutely anything! Which could help with both your social anxiety and your boredom/loneliness. If you wanna just chat, private message me id be happy to have someone to talk to!

[ikilledadragon]

Yeah it seems to help.

I just feel like I keep myself busy to avoid depression a lot of my life.

[AnxietyInstituteSA]

You may consider joining some sort of local group that pertains to something you're interested in (cooking, baseball, scrapbooking, hiking, church, reading, bowling, etc.). You might be amazed how many groups are actually out there. It would certainly require stepping outside of your comfort zone, but it would be a good chance for you to practice your social skills. Besides, you might even enjoy it! Research shows that people that meet in a group (in person) at least once a month are happier.

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