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Peter Bradbury
01-05-2013, 12:49 PM
Hello, i`m Peter a 27yo and i`m my sister pointed this site out to me so i thought i`d try it myself. I find my myself finding it very hard to leave the house as i`m very nervy and feel completely out of my depth on nights out or when few friends i have, ask me to join them on their evenings. The stupid thing is i can get the tram from the City and head to one sporting venue and not feel worried hardly, except the football as i run home as i`m always afraid i`ll be caught up with trouble and get attacked on night games. But when asked to go out to a Staff party of or a night out i tend to say "NO or i can`t" As i struggle to speak with people as i find myself very dull and boring & not much to say for myself.

And i went i do go to these events i get a bit excited going and then once there i tense up and freeze as it completely out of my Comfort zone leaving the house when it`s about 7 or 8pm. Everyone goes to these events enjoying themselves and having a great time and the fact i`m very shy too, basically i sit in the corner with a drink and try to avoid speaking as i`m every nervy and i always think i`ll have a Asthma attack as i`ve a mild case Of it .

I struggle badly speaking to girls as i`ve low confidence in myself and scared to just say hi to them, As i feel like i`m body double for the hunchback and i just seem to think they all look at me and think i`m ugly and pray i don`t talk to them. I`m always told i need to get out more as i leave the house for nights out about 1 a year maybe excluding staff doo. I`m very hard on myself and when i am i don`t want to look at people or communicate as i feel ppl are talking about me behind my back and laughing. As i`ve suffered from depression for 3 yrs and took Citalopram just finished my 2nd lot of them and need to go back.

But i always having up and down days, and is a mixture of my shyness,depression and anxiety i feel. Plus i feel my asthma is triggered by my anxiety as i tend to get worst when i worry. And i`ll be honest and say i`ve had many many days and night at work or home when i`ve cried due to how i am, ppl tell me to change but i`m Weak Willed and quit very easily as i think to myself if it will taking ages i`m bound to fail and feel worse,so i then stop.
Just feel very very messed up my life really, as i have more bad stuff outweighing the good stuff. And i`ve lost friends from my negative behaviour and so my co workers that were friend now ignore me and lead me to be the black sheep of my department.

LittleBlondie
01-05-2013, 01:18 PM
Heya Peter. I understand how hard all that must be for u. I on the other hand use to love goin out but hav now been dealing wiv amxiety to the point i try to avoid goin out. I hav just been put on citalopram and due to take my first pill tomorrow. I am a little scared to take them, how do they make u feel?

Peter Bradbury
01-05-2013, 01:40 PM
Pill wise they are ok, the error i made was as soon as i finished them i didn`t go back to the doctors to see what we should next. as i thought i`ve took them all i`ll feel better after the doses. But i had a couple of weeks where i felt good and then everything seemed to go wrong and i went backwards and felt horrible, so i finished my doses just before christmas problem is docs have been shuts so need to book to see him so thats a 2 weeks wait normally!

I`d like to be outgoing and fun when i`m out, but i struggle as i`m afraid i`ll be beat up if i went and i can`t enjoy myself at all.

LittleBlondie
01-06-2013, 04:02 AM
There are many forms of anxiety but i personally believe you have an anxiety called Agrophobia. (Cant spell it). Have you ever had a blood test to check your vitamin D? Alot of people with anxiety issues tend to have low vitamin D like me and on suppliments from doctor and believe it or not they help too

Peter Bradbury
01-06-2013, 04:25 AM
I may not get much light, that may be one problem. But i have low self esteem too.

LittleBlondie
01-06-2013, 10:36 AM
Can u download apps on ur phone? If u can then download 'stop panic and anxiety' its free and very usefull

browneyes78
01-06-2013, 10:02 PM
How much vitamin D supplement are you on?? I just found out I was VDD as well! I am hoping that's what a lot of my problems are.

Cara1989
01-06-2013, 10:51 PM
My mom makes me go outside and sit in the sun for 15 minutes everyday cus she read that panic and anxiety could come from lack of vit d this is just my second day of doing it so we will see how it goes lol

LittleBlondie
01-07-2013, 05:37 AM
For my vitamin D im on fultium 800 IU. If you have low vitamin d that alone will make u feel weak.

LittleBlondie
01-07-2013, 05:38 AM
Lol cara yep gives us a great excuse to chill out in the sun :)

browneyes78
01-07-2013, 08:18 AM
They have started me on vitamin D therapy. 50000ui once a week for three months because mine was really low. I am sooo nervous about taking it tho lol

sandyrdh1
01-07-2013, 08:50 AM
They have started me on vitamin D therapy. 50000ui once a week for three months because mine was really low. I am sooo nervous about taking it tho lol

Don't be afraid. I took it too. Don't remember how much just 1 prescription pill a week for 6 weeks. It won't make you worse or your anxiety. So don't be afraid of a vit. It will make you feel better naturally.

browneyes78
01-07-2013, 09:17 AM
I think it making my anxiety worse is what I am afraid of. Thanks for the input on that! I freak out over any meds anyway... So my dr is used to my reactions to him prescribing me something lol

LittleBlondie
01-07-2013, 10:01 AM
No dont be scared to take it. Its just vitamin and your body needs it so wont do any harm at all