Had fight w boyfriend over depression

[allyml]

He's mad at me for not doing things like being on a good sleep schedule, going to gym, or getting out there and taking action. I've tried to explain how I'm not motivated, need help, and feel like I can't do things. His response is to not think about things and just do them..... Like just do these things, period. He said don't say I will try, say I will do. He also said there's only so much he can hear about how I'm depressed.

That whole convo just made me feel like crap. I can't really get across how bogged down and heavy I feel, how hard it is just to do things like the dishes. I know I should be doing things, but it's tough. I can't even explain how hard it is. And I'm frustrated with myself as well. This depression has to end. It's making me feel absolutely terrible all the time.

Any advice on how to explain depression to a spouse?

[Buttercup]

people who have never experienced deprssion can find it very hard to understand. It will be hard for him to see you going through this and he is just trying to help because he doesn't understand what is going on, he will be frustrated and upset as well. Depression is a very selfish illness (in my experience) and sufferers often find it hard to think about what others are going through while we are suffering. This whole thing will affect him too, not just you. In his eyes he will think you have given up and are not trying to get better but that is just because he isn't well informed on the condition. Do you see a therapist or take meds? What professional help are you getting? he could attend a doctor or therapy session with you to help him understand. there are plenty of informative websites and books out there that he could look at. Remember that while it's important for him to understand what you are going through it's also important for you to understand what he is going through- watching a loved one have depression is incredibly hard.