Trouble seeing whats real and not real, regarding threats

[Im-Suffering]

Hi! I guess this is a quite common problem, I just realised myself that I have problems with it, all though it could seem quite obvious..

The problem is that I can't see what threats are real and not. For example, in relationships with girls, I can't see when there really is something that is wrong or when I just worry to much. Like, is it for real weardly long time ago since I heard from her or is it not. Is she drinking too much or is she not. Is she acting weird or is she not. I lose my judgement!

And I belive this is a pretty big part of worrying. Because I say to myself "ok, this is your GAD speaking, you have to use your methods to cope with the GAD now, not with the problem that doesn't exist. BUT!! What if it DOES exist!! I don't know! I don't know what's real or not real!! What if it IS real! A real problem and not my GAD?". And that is one of the strongest argument for me to continue worrying. And also it leads to me seeking confirmation from my friends, since I don't trust my own judgement.

Does anyone recognize themselves in this?

Because you are not real. Your a phony, so how could you have any trusting, solid, loving, secure - real relationships?

The first thing anyone brings to a relationship of any kind is a sense of self, and that's the problem, you don't have one (you have a shaky, ill constructed building based on someone else's blueprints with a cracked foundation). And without a secure sense of self, you will always see threats to your weakened, vulnerable constructions - psyche.

Now, before you or anyone else looks to martyr me, see your other thread.

I just finished the post there, and bring your thinking cap, youll need it if any progress is to be made.

We will attempt to shatter years of therapy and drugs in one simple concept. Come along now, it does get interesting.

Link for other readers:

http://anxietyforum.net/forum/showth...ill-destroy-it