Excellent, recognize these were not facts about life now, but you have some work to do to release these beliefs. I could go on here and write a book but I shouldn't. Begin to examine each belief attached to a conscious negative emotion or feeling for validity.Originally Posted by JohnC
Again interesting stuff from Im-Suffering - Hi Im-Suffering ... only thing is, I did not chose my Parents, and I can tell you they did not want me ... LOL ... many here know that story ... I had like 12 set of parent each with their own unique telepathic ability that really screwed me up. Perhaps I'm not getting the context right, but I can see an interesting picture with the words you paint ... I don't by into "The Secret" concepts and especially those looking to gain money from some new age doctrine or way of thinking ... however ... some of the philosophy seems tangible from what your saying .. that is from my own perspective as I look to tune my own self on my own course ... one of my own choosing.
Love the part apart painting a portrait like that ... still dealing with a lot of bitterness myself ... I am frustrated between defining a spiritual purpose, but without a God as religion would paint -
If you have anything to add to that, then I invite you to PM me.
Hi John ... Hi Pam ... hope all is well
Hi Richard,Hi everyone, this is my first post
I am a 21 year old from Huddersfield England, and i am struggling with Anxiety.
It is stopping me do things that in the past I have had no trouble doing. I am supposed to go to London on the train to see a gig with my girlfriend tomorrow, but I don't think I will be able to do it. I know avoidance is never good, but I am really really scared about this. My anxiety is making me physically ill, with stomach pains that are halting me eating much, and I have problems with my bowels too. Previous to this bout of anxiety I had a stomach bug that made me miss my girlfriends birthday and I never forgave my self for this, I let her down so much, and I know she was upset I didn't go. I feel if I miss this trip she will start to doubt whether I am trust worthy enough( It is making me feel sad and really down in the dumps, I don't want to let her down again, in fact ever! CI know tomorrow I will be a wreck and feel that I will probably let her down again.
I think I also have this fear of being ill in whatever I do. Everyday I feel useless.
I am taking Propanolol ( Beta Blocker ) but this doesn't seem to helping much. My heart does slow down, but I still get palpitations and have this feeling of pain in my stomach. I was feeling better until i realised i had this trip then I lost my appetite and my stomach almost immediately felt ill.
I am normally never ill, but did have a minor anxiety problem during high school exams.
I don't know what I aim to get out of this post, maybe just reassurance, or advice on what to do next? I don't want antidepressants, but I want to feel right!
Thanks for reading.
Richard Swales.
Unless you can find a specific medical reason, the cure for anxiety is always you getting in the driver's seat and YOU getting yourself better by going through a process of healing. Nobody can cure you for you, and nobody can reassure you enough to get you better. Even medical tests that say you are normal won't make you feel better. You need to get on a healing path, do everything possible you can get your hands on to get better, face your fears, push through all the obstacles your mind puts in front of you, and get healthy! Nobody wants to hear it, because people either accept anxiety as who they are forever, or want the miracle pill. The reality is, you can be anxiety free but you have to do the hard work. But in a matter of months you can be so much better than you are now if not fully better. You can search and search and search but you will end up finding what I am saying here is true.
The trap you do not want to get yourself in is restructuring your life to fit your anxiety. That will dig the hole deeper. Use all of your will to maintain the most normal life as possible, not avoiding things due to anxiety. You do not want your brain to get habits of retreating to your safe place and creating new ideas of what you can and can't do. The Safe Place and Safe Person are illusions you created in your mind.
Is it easy? HELL NO! But there is no other way. You can take pharmaceuticals or not, the healing path remains the same. All these little things you do add up. Yoga, meditation, breathing exercises, herbs, supplements, therapy, techniques of dealing with anxiety and eating healthy, etc., all of these things add up little by little towards healing.
This is what I did and I wrote about it in my Techniques thread above in the stickies. You can read what I did, and make your own healing path. Heal the nervous system so it isn't at such a high state of alert and reverse the bad habits of falling prey to anxious thoughts and feelings. Do whatever else you need to do but you need to do it! It is a combination of physical and psychological healing. Mind and Body go together.
Actually you can even start enjoying the healing path and working on yourself to get better. So it doesn't have to be such work, it can be more like rehabilitation.
Keep moving forward and do whatever it takes to get you towards anxiety free!
Good luck!
PC
Thank you for posting paniccured . Getting up and getting in the drivers seat is what I need to do. I always talk myself out of things saying I can't when I can I just won't out of fear. I started doing yoga and it does help out a lot with the stress. Thank you for sharing
Figured as much
Hey RJ, welcome to the forums.... Anxiety can be a challenge and can come out of no where. The first thing you need to realize is that, Anxiety and Panic attacks are actually not a bad thing.
Anxiety and Panic attacks are your bodies Defense Mechanisms. Thats actually a good thing.
The part you need to work out is, is that these defense mechanisms are out of whack and need some re-adjustments.
The adjustments that are needed is your thought process. Just like im-suffering posted.
You need to reassess and talk it out with yourself if these feelings that you have are real or is it something you are being over sensitive to. I know when I first dealt with them since I had no Idea what it was or why they came on, I figured something was seriously wrong. But finally I came to the realization that I have dealt with these feelings many of times, I just am just making them worse than they really are.
Look at yourself and ask yourself questions, can it hurt me? Has it hurt me? In reality it never did and probably never will like many of us here..... Day by day a little by little no need to take on more than you need. Chat with us and you will see it get a little easier!
That voice in your head telling you that you can't do something or go somewhere, is a screwed up survival mechanism designed to keep you safe. The problem is that this survival mechanism that tells us not to cross the street in oncoming traffic and not to walk into a fire, is offset in your mind, giving you those signals in inappropriate times. If you think about it, most of anxiety and panic is a messed up sense of survival and seeking safety. Why this happens I am not sure, nor does it matter. But there is no tiger after you, no burning building you need to flee from, and no enemy coming to overtake your village. The disorder is the signals for survival are being fired at the wrong times. That is why you need to use the logical part of your brain to override these false signals and retrain the brain that you can't die in a crowd, won't blow up if you go far from home, and won't wither into nothingness if you make a speech in front of people. So when you carry on as normal life as possible, you are slowly overriding these signals and retraining the mind. This takes you in the driver's seat as nobody can live your life for you!
Anxiety= One long enormous Bluff!
^^^^ I loved this!!
"Anxiety= One long enormous Bluff!"
This is perfect! You are right, anxiety is just us making a big thing out of something stupid. I think I should try and play it as a poker bluff and call it out..... pretty awesome fun way to look at it!!!
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