Can you sit down and talk to her about the situation with your anxiety? I don't know the situation well enough to know this, but is there a chance she just doesn't know what to do to help and gets frustrated? It can be frustrating and upsetting when someone you care about is going through something and you feel like you can't make it better. Just a thought. Communication is really important in any relationship, so maybe opening up to her would help, and help you to know if something she is or isn't doing is really triggering your anxiety or if it's something else, like the fact that your family is far away from you, or losing your job, or if it's a combination of a lot of things. It sounds like you have been through a lot, and those things can affect you WAY more than you even realize, so opening up about them is a great place to start...it can take a lot of weight off your mind.