I was diagnosed with Anxiety about a month ago, though my doctor thinks its been going on for years. I have also battled with depression though I have never been diagnosed as I can't afford to go get help. (I live in the country and there are no free programs.) Here is my problem. I am 30 years old. I have never been in a relationship, though I have let men "use me" in hopes of one. My anxiety keeps getting in the way with the ones that are great. I'm convinced that every guy is going to leave me anyway so I do everything to scare them off. (It doesn't help that all the role model men have left me too. My parents were divorced and though I did see my dad I loved my dad. He passed away when I was 21. My step dad left my mom 4 years ago too.)
I'm really wondering if anyone else has dealt with this. I'm noticing I think horrible things are going to happen and that everyone is plotting against me. The current man I'm interested in is also seeing a friend of a friend and she started talking about me to him. I don't know this women so I went a little crazy and went off on him a bit. I apologized, and I want to tell him why, but I just met him a couple weeks ago and I'm worried he wont talk to me.
I guess I'm wondering how do you deal with this? Does anyone have some tips to help me calm down. I really want to find someone to spend time with and would love to finally have a relationship. Any help is great as now that I know what is causing this I would love to learn to control it.