Ive been single for best part of ten years
Yes, its true, ive been single for ten years, with the exception of a brief 4 month spell. Has anyone else got into this rut. If so... have any of you managed to climb back out?
i personally found a girl who accepts me and my baggage and its strange she automatically accepted it and shes always there for me x
I have only had one partner in my life, I'm 20 years old and we met when I was 17, even though we are not together anymore we are kinda dating...We are still in love...Well, things are complicated lol, but she accepts me as I am with my anxiety, she is there for me and helps me trying to get rid of it by acting like it's not a big deal and life goes on as usually after an attack, it feels safe that she's not making a big deal of it <3
I haven't had a problem with being single... But my past bfs have not been accepting of my anxiety, except for the guy I'm with now. In the past my ex's would just tell me to snap out of it. The guy I'm with helps me through it, tells me to breathe deeply, holds me when I'm upset. We've been together only 9 months. But he is supportive and has an good understanding of it. At first he didn't have a clue why I would get uncomfortable in certain situations, movie theaters, parties, being around a lot of drunken people that can't handle alcohol, etc. But now he truly cares and has no problem with it. It just takes a certain person to care for you just as you are, no one is perfect. You have to find the right person who thinks your "flaws" make you who you are, and that little things like anxiety don't matter so much. Sure, it affects your life and how you deal with situations. But that doesn't mean you can't live and not be happy, and share your life and happiness with someone else.
To be single is not at all a problem. I think it is an advantage because being single you can know yourself better and when anybody will come in your life, then you can tell her what you exactly want.
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I've been single for a long time myself. However, I learned years ago that if I overworry about not having a girlfriend, I'm shooting myself in the foot. I enjoy life as a single person. I don't want to be single forever.
Part of why I don't put much effort into meeting women is because I fear the thought of running the risk of settling down. I'm nowhere near ready to settling down. There's things I want to do before doing so, such as more traveling and gaining employment in fields which I've never worked in before.
He sounds really wonderful, MaKenna. I think I have "been" that person, but never found one. I'm not really sure if being single is better or even ok for me. I'm doing it alright for the moment, tho. Do you think your current bf is so caring because you show that you are caring to him, or is that a quality he had before you?
I agreed being single has it's advantages but it also has disadvantages as well, like nobody to do things with or to support you when your down or vent about work etc.Originally Posted by caera
I have been single for at least ten years now and it gets lonely sometimes..
I've also been single for about 10 years. Am now 38. Problems is now I am so used to being on my own ive forgotten what its like sharing my life with someone new. I cant find a woman anyway as nobody wants a bloke out of work getting £71 quid a week to live on!! I may need to go back to work soon if i fail an ESA appeal and this scares the crap out of me!! Perhaps a good woman alongside me would help at times like this but nobody i fancy seems interested :-(
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