Hey I am new here and I am lookin 2 talk 2 some 1. I have really bad anxitey and I feel my gf is unsupportive. Does ne 1 have that prob? Like sometimes she even makes fun of me n that jus makes me more anxious and mad... Other times she great but sumtimes she upsets me. Like I will have a new fear out of no where and then she will tell me 2 get over it or make fun of me..Any advice ne1?
BoB
hey man welcome to the forum hope you like it here my g/f also was a pain at first when my anxiety cam on but she defentily realized i wasn't kiddin around and that it was really serious so she backed off you just need to explain to your g/f that this is tough thing to go through and instead of making fun of you she should try and be supportive that you need a good shoulder to lean on i also kno how you feel bout discovering new fears everyday it can be ridiculous but if you get a new fear u now its just anxiety because it wasn't there efore so try not to get bent out of shape ova it and trust me i kno how hard that is i have so many fears now its stupid but i kno its just anxiety thats all you have to tell yourself you can conquer this are you seeing a doctor or on any meds?well have a good day hope to see you around
LIFE IS TOUGH I'M TOUGHER!!!
Thanks Man Im hoping she will come around its so hard though cos I cant fight this alone. I havent taken ne meds yet or gone to see a doctor. I kinda like dont wanna admit it yet. Sometimes I just feel so crazy..I feel like if go to the drs. they will tell me I am. I dont feel like i can be completly honest becos I really think sum messed up stuff sometimes. I know its something I have to do. I know my fears are just anxitey but its like I feel something is totally taking over me..U kno...I am afraid that if I do go to the doctor my heart will pound of my chest and I willnt be able to say anything. I have a hard time with new ppl in general let alone telllin them my inner most fears...
BoB
heyman i hear ya defentilyalotbetter withsomeone next to ya i'm sureshe'llcomearound goin to thedocsain't badihad to do it for thefirst time my kneeswere shakin myheadwasspinning but i didit and know i goback every couple weeksit not badtheyreally help you understand it just anxiety your not crazy trust me i thought i was crazy wait i still think i'm goin crazy lol the sooner you see a doc the sooner you can get better as far worrying bout some messed up things let me make it a little easier for you to get it off your chest i'm afraid i'm goin to hallucinate start hearing and seeing things also i'm afraid i'm goin to freak out and kill somebody and thats completly not me i freak out at the sight of any sort of blood or anythin so it makes no sense i know its just anxiety but tough tellin yourself that when your mind just won't stop thinkin bout that crap if it helps man just get what your afraid of off your chest its help no one here will judge you i promise this place is completely kewl everyone knows what your goin through hang in there and defently go see a doc it will really benefit your not crazy and they won't tell you your crazy just you have too muchanxiety well good luck and hang in there your bud leftie
LIFE IS TOUGH I'M TOUGHER!!!
Thanks alot. I think I will go to the doctor. I just ...I dunno...Are you always honest with your doc? Cos like sumtimes I get thoughts and I dont think they are really anxitey related...maybe it iss more Im not sure...Do u like ur doc? I once saw this dood wen I was younger but i didnt like him and my problems where less severe at the time so I stoped goin. I think now im gonna look for some1 better. Im scared about taking meds, though i hear that some of them can make u worse..But I guess u gotta do wut u gotta do..thanks alot for ur advice man..its good 2 kno ur not alone. Cos I often feel like I am..Like no1 understands what its like 2 have these thoughts and 2 b afraid of so much and sumtimes even myself..
BoB
hey dude, welcome to the forum
I have anxiety and I have never taken meds. There are other ways of beating it. In a panic attack im sure meds can be of some benefit but I would rather not take them. Thats my personnal choice tho and i dont look down on any1 who uses them.
Its good that u are going to see a doctor, and if like u say u didnt likew ur first doctor then finding a new 1 is probably gonna be helpful!
good luck with crackin ur anxiety probs mate
Tommy
Thanks Tom, what other ways do u deal with ur anxiety?
BoB
well I have got a good understanding of what causes my panic attacks, and i can detect early on when it is going to happen. I also realise that the fear of the panic attack just makes things worse..so i put ona relaxation CD, carry out breathing techniques and just feel myself coming back to normal. This doesnt always work, like if there is something really major going on...but for the msot part it does.
another method i use is to force myself into uncomfortable situations...the more i do it, the less hard it becomes, and b4 i realise it, its 2nd nature to me and its no longer something that will cause me anxiety. Takes tonnes of persistance, determination and time...but for me these 2 things are working well.
For example tonight i felt a panic attack coming on early, ive just done my method and now ive not got a care in the world!
hope that helps
hey man yea i like my doc he's kewl shit yea i'm honest with him always he can't help ya ifhedon't know whats goin on so u gotta be honest he ain't gonna think your crazy and bout the meds i've always been nervous bout takin meds but i know that the docs know what the best options are so i try to do what they think is best always adding my input so they kno where i wanna go i don't wanna be on meds foreva but for the time being if a can get any relief for now i'm there man but good luck with the docs hope you find someone u like have a goodday man your bud leftie
LIFE IS TOUGH I'M TOUGHER!!!
Hey thanks Leftie and Tom. Its really good to kno that ppl can deal with this cos sometimes I wonder. I really think its imposible. I am going to try and see if I can deal with it and maybe go see a doc.
U guys r great. And i have been talkin 2 my gf and she seems a lil bit more understanding hopefully it will last!
BoB
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