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    Advice?

    Hi everyone,

    I just signed up on a complete whim. I've struggled with anxiety for the last three years. Recently, I've had a bit of a blip/relapse, and my doctor wants me to go back to therapy. I don't know if I can/have it in me to go through it again. Hence why I signed up here, i'd rather someone who gets it help me.

    I just need some advice on how to handle social situations and handle the thoughts I have late at night that interfere with my sleep, because they are the only two triggers I can think of that have made me feel this on edge again.

    Any advice / pointers would be greatly appreciated.

    Love, wonder101 xx

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    Hi Wonder,

    What type of therapy did you do?

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    Hi Martin05.

    I had CBT around 4 years ago. I really struggle with talking openly about my feelings.

    Wonder x

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    There is nothing to be ashamed of if you had CBT; especially if it helped you.

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    It's not that I am ashamed, I just don't know if I can do it again. It was really tough. I just feel like all I need is tips to help me manage it better, because I can identify triggers and I know where my anxiety stems from. Do you have any pointers?

    Wonder x

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    Hi and welcome

    I was in a pretty full-on car accident a week ago (miraculously there was barely a scratch on me). Now when I have anxiety I think “I am here” and tell myself all the stuff in my head is just NOISE - most of it completely unnecessary. It’s pretty much my version of Mindfulness.

    Knowing where your anxiety stems from is very useful. I do as well, and I use it to get perspective on things.

    This forum itself can be very helpful as well.

    All the best,
    Gypsy x
    "You're the worst thing that ever happened to me." --Marla Singer

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    Hi Gypsy,

    I'm glad you're okay!

    I'm finding this forum useful already and it hasn't even been a full 24 hours yet. Just having people understand and respond to you makes me feel a tonne better already. I think if I tell my doctor i've joined a forum she'll be a bit happier with me since I doubt I am going to go down the therapy route.

    One question. How do you put it into perspective? I always try but I feel like the anxiety side of my brain always wins and tells me that it is the right thing to listen to, not the more-sensible part of my brain.

    Thanks for the pointers, I'll definitely try the 'I am here' technique.

    Wonder x

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    Well see my anxiety comes from my mother without a doubt. So when I say I put things in perspective I mean I try and think about things the way a non-anxious person would.

    For example, today I have to go to this place that deals with car registration, licencing etc and I’m quite anxious. But that’s because I think like my mother. A person without anxiety disorder would just go, without all the thoughts about what might go wrong. It’s similar to CBT I think.

    Here’s a good example: They open at 8:30am and I just realised I’m thinking I have to be there at 8:30! That’s my mother talking and I don’t have to be there when they open at all!
    "You're the worst thing that ever happened to me." --Marla Singer

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    See my mum has anxiety too. I've always been a bit of a worrier since I was a kid. I can understand that whole coming from your mother thing as their tendencies are obviously engraved in you in some way, but now I'm an adult I have my own type of strain that she can't always relate to.

    Thanks for the advice Gypsy, it really means a lot, you've helped more than you probably realise! x

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    Wonder101, it's ultimately up to you when it comes to deciding whether to go back into therapy or not. Others can suggest that you should or shouldn't go back to seeing a therapist. But only you can make the decision because this is your life, not their's.

    In the past, I worked with a mental health worker who kept ramming his opinion down my throat about he thought that I should go back into therapy at the time. But in the end, the choice was up to me, not him.

 

 

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