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  1. #71
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    -Sharing 2-

    Sharing is so important and we need to teach kids when they were young. Classic example of sharing that comes to mind is two kids with a single toy. Sharing will see both kids getting a chance to play with the toy but neither of them will have sole control. Essentially, the kids must learn to compromise since only one toy is available for both of them.

    The kids learn that they must make sacrifices in the process which is roughly how the world works. We cannot get all the good stuff and compromises have to be made. Two parties might have to work together to both benefit from the cooperation. We might get less than we wanted but we get something rather than failing by ourselves and gain nothing at all.

    We have all seen selfish and self-centered people in our lives. They want everything to themselves thinking that the world owes them. How willing are you to become these people's friend? Quite unlikely since such a one-sided situation is nothing people want to be in. At the very least, people want friends who will have their back when required. You won't get any of that from a selfish person.

    If a person, from a young age, was spoiled by parents, then he/she will expect to get anything he/she desires. The real world, sadly, doesn't work that way. The issues lies in that, as a person get older, it much harder to learn how to share. Changing these sorts of mentality isn't easy for adults and, the longer a person delays, the worse it gets for the person's life. After all, life does have to teach some of us the hard way if we don't learn early on.

    Something else gained from sharing is learning how to cope with disappointment. If people learn to compromise, they learn that they cannot have everything to themselves. Sacrifices had to be made so both sides can benefit. This can lead to some disappointment since a person might want the whole thing. If kids were taught at a young age that disappointments will happen and can respond maturely, they will get through life much easier.

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    I'll be focusing on the workplace of nowadays. We are busy competing with our peers to get promotions and raises. Oftentimes, this competitiveness blinds people and makes them less willing to share. A person might have great ideas but, in order to obtain an edge that could give a person a better chance for promotion, he or she will keep it to themselves.

    At the workplace, there are two types of people who get promoted (note this is very generalized). One type is a person who knows how get on the good side of his or her superiors. This person compliments the boss and do the "right" things to make the boss like him or her more. When a promotion comes up, this person will be considered due to the personal preference of the boss.

    The second type is a leader. A person who has the skills to thrive in a higher position and can bring many positive changes to a company. For a good company, the leaders are picked for the management due to merit. One thing leaders do differently is they share their knowledge. Some people might scoff at this action which seems to be ruining their chances of moving up the corporate ladder.

    A leader wants more than just themselves thriving. They want the company to thrive because they believe in what the company is offering. By sharing knowledge, these leaders are mentoring the people below them so one day those people will rise up and take over. Mentors are so vital in companies since they are the people who ensure if a company just survives or thrives.

    Something great about leaders is that they have nothing to fear. If they lose their job, they can go elsewhere with confidence in their skills. Sometimes, they might even start their own business and competes with their old workplace. When you are a leader, you don't fear anything. You have everything you need to thrive in this world.

    These leaders are different because they put more emphasis on sharing and cooperation. Competitiveness can be good but our society has very much neglected cooperation. When you share so everyone in a group benefits, you have a strong team who can multiply success many folds. If you are competitive and everyone is for him/herself, then the group's efficiency falls and only a few successes can be found.

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    Life is a journey where we have a starting point and an ending point. Those two points are the only things we are certain about life, though the when of the end point remains unknown to us. These journeys are rarely straight lines since they contain many surprises and numerous turns. Regardless of how these journeys are shaped, we will see the beauty and ugliness of our world.

    Now, we cannot have much of a journey without having a destination. Can you imagine going anywhere without a destination in mind? This is one of the biggest challenges in life and people, as a result, tend to have very vague destinations regarding their life. For example, they might want more money and more love which, while decent destinations, are so vague that they don't specify what they want exactly.

    The destinations in life can be vague when you first started but you will need to focus to a single point eventually. Otherwise, you are just traveling aimlessly in a large territory and only dumb luck can get you what you truly want. A vague destination is fine when we were kids. I was asked what I wanted to be when I grew up and I said doctor. I was way off point after what I experienced!

    Our society expect our eighteen year olds to know what they want to do. This is just too early. Graduating from secondary school should see young adults seeing more of the world or more of the city they live in. There nothing that can replace wisdom which could get people further ahead. Sure, there are lots of information on the internet but information doesn't bring wisdom. Experiences does!

    Before deciding on what we want to do, we must see more of the world and experience more of what it can offer. During these experiences, we must learn two things in life. First, we must discover what this world has to offer. Technological advances bring more opportunities and make some traditional careers disappear. Secondly, we must learn more about ourselves so we know what destination suits us best.

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    -Journey 2-

    We need a destination to have a journey. The destination can be vague initially but we have to narrow it down eventually to know where we're headed. One of the things we need to determine our destination is being informed of what this world has to offer. The world is constantly changing and, as a result, we must adapt to better thrive in the new environment.

    When I was in elementary school, there might be a computer lab if we were lucky. Personal computers were only just picking up and life was quite different back then. Nowadays, we have smart phones that possess more computing power than the computers back then. These technological advances will happen since we, as humans, want to move forward in progress.

    These changes are unavoidable so we must learn how they can benefit us. With new technology, some jobs that were popular back then might be disappearing nowadays. We all know about automation that sees some company hiring a lot less workers since machines and robots could do the same work at a lower cost. These opportunities would, as a result, take a pretty drastic change.

    What we must do is better inform ourselves of these changes. I'm not saying you cannot pursue opportunities with more competitiveness. You need to be informed to know what you are getting into and, if you have enough passion, you still should do it. Remember that, when you enjoy what you're doing, it's only a matter of time before you rise above all of your competition.

    When determining our destination, the information we gather will affect it. I'm not saying that we should pick the easier opportunities when a tougher one seems more enticing. Listen to your gut when you pick your destination and just go do it. When you are young, it's fine to have a rough idea of where you're headed. As you get older, you need to be more specific or you'll wander aimlessly in life.

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    -Journey 3-

    To find our destination, we must know who we are. This might sound a little awkward but, for most of us, we don't really know who we are. Society and our family members have expectations for us. Since a young age, we want to please other people and, to do that, we must do what they want to see. This isn't necessarily what we want but we are too afraid to do otherwise.

    Doing well at school gets us praise which makes us feel good. Since we like this feeling, we want to keep doing well so we can continue getting such praises. By doing so, we are making other people happy like our teachers and relatives. The real question is whether or not we are happy ourselves. Does meeting other people's expectations bring happiness to us?

    We had our own dreams like singers and writers that encounter lots of resistance from our family members. In addition, some of us not only don't thrive in school but also get destroyed by it. If a student is struggling due to the teaching methods, he or she doesn't know that and thinks he or she is dumb. This lowers self-esteem that has profound impact on his or her future.

    The main reason why we go to school is to pursue a certain degree or diploma. Getting a piece of paper can take awhile and this time could be used elsewhere. Therefore, it's vital for the young people to know themselves better before they make such an important choice. Not only will they not get the time back but, as they age, learning becomes tougher.

    Learning who we are ties in with seeing more of the world. There are beauty and ugliness in this world and seeing things with different perspective helps us by offering more choices. Too many choices can be a bad thing so knowing who we are narrows down the choices. We want to work towards our strength which excels in some fields more than other fields.

    Once we know who we are and what we truly desire, we can finally decide on our destination. Wandering aimlessly doesn't get you ahead and time isn't going to wait for you. If you destination requires a degree to open doors, go to school so you can get it. If you don't need degrees, pursue your dream so that, when other people are just graduating, you'd already invested a few years in your pursuit of success.

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    -Journey 4-

    Let's assume that we have determined our destination like being a business owner or become a professional singer. We might have a destination but this doesn't necessarily mean that our journey has begun. We all, at one point in life, had great dreams of what we wanted to do, especially when we were kids and believe nothing is impossible, but many of us never go through with it.

    The issues lies in the lack of courage for most of us regarding starting on this journey. There are many uncertainties and challenges along the way and these terrify us. After all, we only think about a new destination when we aren't happy with our lives. There are things in our lives we'd rather not have so we desire change. The irony lies in that we might be unwilling to experience the change.

    When we start on a new journey, we must abandon our old journey. This isn't always a bad thing but people have familiarity with their old journey. The new destination isn't going to happen overnight and might happen years or even decades from now. The terrifying prospect of the new journey makes people, despite how much they hate it, stick with their old journey.

    As a gamer, I like to use a game as an example. Let's say we want to play an adventure game and we just finished our character creation. We then have an open world to explore and we can decide where we want to do. Do we hesitate to begin? Do we fear hostile enemies waiting out there? Or do we charge head first ready to tackle any challenges that might come our way?

    The character creation is basically us defining ourselves from our old selves. It's through this process that we determine our new destination. We might not charge head first in real life due to the inability to save and reload if anything goes wrong. Yet, we must remember that, the more we hesitate, the less likely we'll reach the destination.

    In addition, we go through life exactly like this. Remember the first time you started a job. You weren't confident in your skills and wonder if you can keep working there. After a year, you're like a veteran and what seemed terrifying becomes something you're comfortable with. That's how we go through life. We go from a terrifying experience to something we can do with ease. Take that first step knowing it won't be as terrifying a hundred steps in!

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    Let's assume that we have taken our first step on our journey, a feat many failed to take. We might have taken our first step but this doesn't meant things will get easier. In video games, the start of the games are generally easier with the difficulty increasing the further you go. For real life, it works quite differently where you'll found yourself facing many challenges from the very beginning.

    We will encounter resistance from family members and critiques from complete strangers. We will face lots of pressure which constantly feeds doubt into us if we let them. The beginning is often very rough and, for many people, this is also where many gave up thinking they cannot do it. It's one thing to get started but another thing altogether to keep going.

    You might wonder why people want to experience a journey where the beginning is so rough. Let me use an example of you getting a 98% on a test. You will feel great and your chances of revisiting everything related to the exam is nonexistent. You might be a good student and check what you got wrong but that's about it. This goes for the journey as well where, if you are doing well, you won't change.

    Our society has gotten into a mentality that emphasizes we don't change what isn't broken. If things are going along, we don't do anything regarding it and fail to adapt to situations we never saw coming. If a journey begins easy, we'd think we can complete it with ease not knowing that we are ill-prepared for the challenges up ahead. That's why we need a tough start. We have to learn that things won't get easy and we must work hard for every bit of progress.

    Now, why can we not start easier and tackle the challenges later? We have more at stake later so we don't want to take the same risks. Let's say you started a company when you're single where failure would only affect you. What if things went well and you got married along with getting kids? Challenges arrive and you feel pressured since there are more people affected by the outcome of how you do with your company.

    I don't think any journeys really get easier later on. There might be greater challenges up ahead. The only difference is you. You possess different skill sets and your mastery of them differs. The more you were challenged at the start, the better you can tackle obstacles and you can take calculated risks as opposed to going into the dark hoping you end up where you want to be.

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    Wow ! if you are not a writer then you should be, i am amazed on how much time,effort, and knowledge you put into your post. I appreciate your time and effort that you put into it. Thanks for sharing

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    Quote Originally Posted by joe55 View Post
    Wow ! if you are not a writer then you should be, i am amazed on how much time,effort, and knowledge you put into your post. I appreciate your time and effort that you put into it. Thanks for sharing
    Thanks for the kind words! I'm afraid I'm long ways from being a writer. I'm merely making videos and these are the edited/improved versions of what I say in videos typed out for those who like to read.

    I'm merely sharing my thoughts and ideas so it's mostly subjective. I'm glad you liked reading these!

    -Journal 6-

    Last entry, I talked about the challenges we experience at the start of the journey. These aren't there to stop you but, rather, teach you and prepare you for the unexpected challenges up ahead. Let's say you overcame these initial challenges because you found the reason and passion to keep moving forward. While the journey won't get any easier by much, you at least have what it takes to keep moving forward.

    When we go on a journey or adventure, we should enjoy it and have fun. We shouldn't be so goal orientated that we miss out on our surroundings. After all, the journey would be a lot more enjoyable if we are having fun. Instead of feeling like we are doing chores or hard work, we do something we love and the goals will be met with ease and you'll achieve them without even noticing.

    The journey will show you the beauty of the world and people who you want to become part of your life. That's why we want to go on these journeys. We won't meet them if we are too afraid to leave our comfort zone. Remember that only you can enter your comfort zone so it's a lonely experience if you dare not step out of your comfort zone.

    I'll use myself as an example. I started Dwaan because I wanted to help people. The start hasn't been easy as my website and channel have yet to get much attention. I know these are slow processes so I remain patient and keep working away. It's a steady grind where I can only be victorious if I keep going. Knowing that what I'm doing will help people, I have no reason to give up on this dream of mine.

    Along the way, I met with people who joined me on podcast. That hasn't been possible lately with real life getting busy but I'm still working away with the social media to get people's attention without spamming. I also got comments, mostly in forums where I do these sort of journals, and I get the impression I'm heading in the right direction. Progress might seem nonexistent but I'm definitely charting the right course.

    Of course, I set goals as to what I want to achieve with my website and channel. However, those goals are secondary to what I really want to do. I won't let the lack of results bother me since almost everyday brings something unexpectedly pleasant into my life. I'm just enjoying the journey best I can and, before I know it, I'll finish a few goals and can progress to bigger goals!

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    I want to elaborate on my general idea of a good destination. There are two things destination must have. First, it have be able to support you financial. This might not be financial freedom but you'll enjoy financial stability with the income provided from whatever dream you have picked. There's nothing better making a living out of something you love!

    The second thing is regarding how many people benefit from your destination. If all you're focusing on is making yourself happy and fulfilled, then you'll find yourself in a situation where it's still not enough. You are trying to fill a void but you cannot fill it since you constantly want more. Such a situation would see you never happy and that isn't the destination you had in mind.

    We have heard stories of rich people who aren't happy. They can afford anything they want and yet this doesn't bring them happiness. Why? It's quite simple. We as humans want to help people out! We get a good feeling when we take time helping strangers. I'm sure a lot of people had those feelings when they volunteered for something that matters. Nothing can truly replace that sort of feeling.

    Therefore, we feel more joy when doing what we love also help other people. Let's say you build houses and rent them out. Part of your destination/dream is building housing that are affordable for low income families or students who need places to stay while they go to school. You aren't doing this for the thanks from these people. You are doing it because you know it makes a difference. That is what gives your life a greater meaning.

    When you help people, you aren't expecting anything back. You don't need gratitude or thanks. Humans might appear selfish often but I'm certain people, if given a choice, want to be selfless. The environment can have a major impact in shaping who we are. In a selfish society, we naturally become that way. However, we still see selflessness in our society so we mustn't ever give up hope. We can all be selfless if we work hard enough.

    We must also remember that, when we purchase something nice, it's great for a few days or months before the feeling is gone. When we help others, we know we made a difference and that feeling lasts forever. You might still remember the smiles of those you help later in life because those moments are priceless.

    Let's go back to the example of making affordable housing. Maybe the parents of a family got laid off due to bad economy and not due to laziness or other negative traits. There's nothing more rewarding seeing them get through difficult times and they thanking you later in life because you cared about them first. When we help each other more, there's more happiness and positivity resulting in a better society as a whole.

 

 

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