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  1. #161
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    -Trust 2-

    A reason for our lack of trust in others is likely due to what we experience in life. For example, our news reports are largely negative since those sort of news tend to capture our attention. However, these sort of exposure does emphasize the ugly side of humanity so, while society as a whole is more good than evil, we are in a way programmed to think that bad things will happen more often than they normally do.

    For example, we might hear a lot of updates on a school shooting. We keep getting these horrific images described to us and many of us noticed that these images don't go away very easily. They usually stick around and serve as fuel for our imagination. Many of us have wild imagination so, with sufficient fuel, we'll start imagining certain scenarios that might happen in our own neighborhood.

    The worst case scenario takes place when some sort of crime happens near or in our neighborhood. Suddenly, we look out our windows quite often to get a glimpse of anyone suspicious. When we walk the streets, we'll be even more hesitant to approach strangers and, if we don't like the situation, we might even take flight hoping to be rather safe than sorry.

    While the news can provide important information from time to time, we must realize that too much exposure will make us into very negative people. The negativity will deteriorate our trust in strangers who have done nothing wrong other than being simply a stranger. While I don't promote interacting with complete strangers, I think that we shouldn't be too fearful when we are in public all the time.

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    -Trust 3-

    One of the biggest reasons why we don't trust others is the fact that someone in our lives betrayed our trust and we cannot convince ourselves that we can trust again. That someone is usually someone we care or love about so, the moment we discovered the person betrayed our trust, we lose faith in everyone else as we cannot even trust those we thought was reliable.

    We might have some secrets we entrust with our best friends. We consider these people as our best friends because we believe they are different from everyone else we encounter in life. If we learned about one of our best friends sharing our secrets with others and, as a result, caused us embarrassment at school, we refuse to share with anyone and we bottle everything, whether good or bad, within us.

    Since that day, we refuse to open up again. How do we know the next person we meet won't do the same and share our inner secrets with others? How do we know other people aren't worse given the sort of world we see on the news? Because one single person betrayed our trust, we can no longer trust anyone and many people are harmed in the process. The biggest victim in this mess is us.

    Without trust, we walk a lonely path with a lot of negativity bottling within us. The pain becomes unbearable but we refuse to believe that there's even a remote chance of someone out there who can help carry the burden for us. Either the demons from within overwhelm us and push us over the edge or we carry on with the pain and suffering until we reach the end of our path. Neither options seems too alluring for anyone.

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    -Trust 4-

    There are all sorts of people out there. Some will betray our trust when given the first opportunity. Some will guard our secrets as if it's their own. Somewhere along our journey, we'll encounter someone who betrayed our trust. Since that day, we can no longer trust anyone because we don't want to relive the painful experience of someone backstabbing us where it hurts the most.

    As crazy as it may sound, we must learn to forgive. The forgiveness might not be directed at the person who betrayed our trust. It's largely directed at ourselves because we blame ourselves for being so blind and trusting so easily. We should forgive ourselves knowing that everyone make mistakes. We just have to learn from a mistake that likely had enormous impact on our lives.

    Only through forgiveness can we move forward in life. Otherwise, we are constantly reminded of a painful past and we cannot stop looking back thinking that someone out there is ready to inflict more pain on us. In a way, we are trying hard to trust in ourselves again. We need to believe in our own judgement on how we view people. If we don't take this important step, we'll never attempt to build any relationships with strangers.

    Nobody deserves to be alone but some of us, during our lowest moments, actively wall ourselves off from society. We even keep out our loved ones and friends because we don't know when they will also betray our trust. Once we create an impenetrable wall between us and others, we face a difficult uphill battle as we struggle to tear it down later when a new pain becomes far too unbearable.

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    -Death-

    Generally, we avoid the topic of death because it brings out a lot of different emotions. Fear is usually the dominating emotion but sadness is pretty close behind. After all, death is essentially an end to everything we know of and, while we have religions and beliefs that claim an afterlife exists, there is no way for us, at least for the time being, to know whether there's anything after death.

    The idea of an end can be terrifying for most of us. We have so many hopes and dreams that can all vanish in an instant. We feel like we're racing against time to get things done before that day comes. After all, we have all heard plenty of stories about people on their deathbed having plenty of regrets but little time left to change their situation into something they see as more ideal.

    Then, we have the loss of loved ones and pets. We develop relationships and bonds with other people we want to spend the rest of our lives with but life can be so cruel when people leave too early. When we are young, some of us had to face the reality that our pets cannot live as long as us. We grew so attached but they had to go because they were never meant to last as long as us humans.

    Overall, the fear of death and the pain it brings us can be overwhelming even for the strongest people. It doesn't matter what sort profession we're in and what experiences we had throughout our lives. None of us can escape the impact of death and, during our darkest moments, the term can be our main focus as we ponder about our purpose in life.

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    -Death 2-

    For some people, fear of death isn't really the fear of the end to life. It's really a fear of not being able to do everything one wants before one lies on the deathbed and look back with many regrets. We all have a finite time on this world so the time we waste isn't coming back. There are so many things to experience and one can only do so much before time's up.

    In a way, more people are afraid of regrets than death because there's nothing we can do about regrets. We have all heard and maybe even experienced moments where someone defied the odds and cheated death. However, regrets are usually tied to our past so, once we miss an opportunity, we won't be getting it back and we feel powerless in these situations.

    Just as we don't want to have regrets following us everywhere we go, there are many things we want to achieve before we reach the end of our journey. Since we were little kids, we have already started dreaming about all the things we want to do when we grow up. Later, we, despite becoming an adult, still have similar hopes and dreams that seem to give our life purpose and meaning.

    We make mistakes in life like wasting time and procrastinating. The precious time we don't invest in our hopes and dreams soon become apparent. As the prospect of achieving our dreams become dimmer by the day, we start to realize that we are running out of time. Decades have passed and we haven't accomplished anything. It's during this moment that we want to extend our life to do the things we should've done.

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    -Death 3-

    Death can be a wake-up call for a lot of people, especially those who are young. When we have youth, we believe that we have all the time in the world. We simply cannot imagine us growing old into a senior who struggle to do even the most basic things in life. Youth gives us a sense of invincibility until we get a taste of reality through experiences that are too close for comfort.

    When we lose someone close, we feel a part of us is gone forever. If the person happened to be around our age, we realize that our sense of invincibility was misplaced. We are mortal like everyone else and, just like every living organism on this planet, we know not when our time is up. It can be tomorrow or it can be several decades later. The fact that we don't know can be a gruesome experience.

    When we learn that we have finite time on this planet, we start to panic. We start to recall our past and see all the time we wasted. The time in the past is gone forever but we don't realize that when we are too young to understand. We have all those golden years that we could've turned into something incredible. Instead, those times were wasted and we can only think about the what ifs scenarios.

    At some point in our lives, we'll be thinking about the what ifs. What if I worked harder at school? What if I asked that person out for a date? What if I took up the opportunity? There are countless what if scenarios we can imagine but they won't ever come true as we lost the opportunity to do so. Death makes the loss of those time permanent and we'd only waste more time if we ponder how we could've changed it.

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    -Death 4-

    If we have an eternity to live, what will we accomplish in life? The answer is very little since we have no rush in getting anything done now. If our procrastination is this bad when we are mortals, then turning us into immortals will likely see our procrastination reach new heights. In a way, death is the driving force for change because nothing terrifies people more than their end.

    For some of us, we want to leave behind some sort of legacy. We don't want to be another name on a tombstone somewhere nobody knows about. We want to achieve something in life so our time on this world was meaningful. Essentially, we want to know that we had a purpose and we got a chance to live that purpose by impacting more lives than just our own.

    A lot of us have trouble getting motivated into doing something we know is great for us. We can name all the reasons from the top of our head but we have yet to take the actions necessary. What if we were suddenly told that we have a month left to live? We undoubtedly will change all of our habits so we are geared to accomplish more in that single month than ten years.

    When we realize that time isn't a luxury anymore, we'll do many things differently. In our new vocabulary, procrastination no longer exists because there are so many tomorrows left. We cannot say next year when it's very possible we'll be gone by then. What's amazing and unfortunate about this situation is that, during these last moments we have on this world, we defy all odds and discover we can accomplish the impossible.

 

 

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