I'm very new here- just signed up this morning. I need a place where people can understand me.
I grew up in a house where my mother berated me if I did something wrong or she thought someone was upset/mad at me. I can remember her being in my rooms for hours telling me that no one liked me.
Here I am now, 36, a wife and mother and I still have the NEED to please everyone around me. Especially, those in what I perceive as a power position (i.e. boss).
Nearly two weeks ago, I had a meltdown at work and it basically stemmed from someone thinking I did something incorrectly. My boss and I have since chatted and we have moved on. The problem is that I haven't moved on. Every day and night I'm obsessing over whether or not she is still mad at me. Is she upset? Does she like me? Will she treat me differently? Reading into every facial expression and every movement she makes. Why doesn't she come over to my desk anymore? Why didn't she say good morning.
The rational part of me knows that I can't control it but the anxiety steps in and controls my mind. I'm absolutely exhausted by it. My mind has been going 24-7 since and I feel paralyzed with fear.
Why can't I just move on?
Melissa