Indeed ... indeed Dahila. The term vampires is quite adequate. Hope you don't mind me rolling on the other thread in this one now. Time for a refresh is all.
Emotional Vampires is something I learned about via Dr. Judith Orloff's book "Emotional Freedom - Liberate Yourself from Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life"
I'm sure you remember me mentioning that book more than twice. I think I will source the audio book once more. Very liberating as the book suggests.
I ALSO NOW just found this book that may be of interest to you - The Emotional Vampire Survival Guide: Emotional Freedom in Action
I actually think I have been getting sapped from my own family. In some sense, when we allow ourselves to run down and become overwhelmed, I think we all do our own fair share of draining. Negative emotions have a way of naturally sucking the life out of others. You know that feeling when you just can't do anything right to please others ... even when you don't try, but simply do all you can to stay afloat yourself; yet your told constantly all those things that make you wrong? I go through a LOT of that with my family ... especially when they are feeling low. This is the hard part of living with someone with a draining illness. Like MS ... the dynamics of that behavioural pattern run quite deep. I have found it quite energizing to learn about the nature of these things by listening to audio books and reading up some. I am glad this has come to light Dahila.
Something I think I need to revisit. I already know that most of the advice is to Cut & Run However, I'm not about to do that to my wife. I also don't think it's really meant that way as such ... not in my case. Perhaps being careful with acquaintances like the one you mentioned and also those newly established ones and or general friendships that are not so deeply routed in a Co-Dependency Dynamic where cutting and running create a LOT of residual pain. I think my situation requires advanced learning, discipline ... hell ... I think I am going to have to ascend to beat that one. LMFAO @ the latter. hehe. I make joke is all ... lol
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SIGH - Vampires ... I think it's important to realize that we are that way at time and that we should not go on a vampire killing frenzy. Is good to identify the problem ... but we also have to retain the ability/capacity to forgive, but that does not mean allowing ourselves to be sucked dry! This is why my routine is so important to me ... my continued writings and so on.
The sun is starting to rise now. Think I will get in an early morning walk. I'm still in a lot of pain re my damn but. I am on waiting list to see general surgeon ... 1 year waiting list. That's the long story short.
I have decided to bail my daughter out by buying her Elliptical (exercise machine) that she does not use. I wont use it much ... probably just to warm up some before doing weights at home. On that note ... I am also looking to be a dumbbell bench soon and some dumbbells. Although I still have about 10 months left of 18 in my gym contract ... The gym has been good, still is and will be for as long as I am still going. I just know that I perform much better on my own. Too many people down there using too many machines all at one. Just sticking with dumbbells and a bench has been an excellent plan to avoid the tension and also placed me well for continuing at home. I used to have a full workout bench with barbell, but have decided that takes up too much space and is too heavy to cart from house to house. (renting) Dumbells alone are more than enough with other body resistance, walking and whatnot.
The hole thing with controlling what I eat is overall the answer to keep fit! The Gym was just another step in my final comeback. Nothing more.
Time to go recharge in that morning sun ... might quickly see if I can rip one of the above books.
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May I ask Dahila ... What do you mean by "your own booth?" Have you not been by yourself all the time selling at the markets, or is that what you meant when you said that. I think it's fantastic that it's all coming to fruition for you. You have fostered that project well.
Take care ... and thanks for the encouragement re my writings.
PS - special hello to John if your our there. Miss ya buddy.