I can see I am not much help here. I do reach out to the wonderful contributors regarding the situation with my mother. She moved in with me 21/2 years ago because she couldn't care for herself. She is a classic narcissist with newly forming dementia. She has never thought about another person's feelings all her life. She has always been mentally ill but my brother and I are only realizing now how extensive it is. She worries constantly! I know we are familiar with that aspect, but she has nothing to back her worry up anymore. Her mother was a housebound agoraphobic, and now she is following the same path. Her anxiety spreads though my house like a plague. She has no remorse, just lies and fabricated memories. I can't talk to her very well, it turns into past experiences and repeated memories. I can have a good day and she can take it away with a sentence. I have the compassion although it is very difficult. I feel like I have failed this community forum and my mother herself.