Originally Posted by
hennalou
Hi everyone,
I am completely new here, and I guess I am just hoping to hear some of your experiences in a desperate attempt to feel not-so-much-alone.
So I suppose I’ve never been really confident in myself, I had terrible acne growing up and I was too much of a tom boy to fit into any group of friends I formed. But now, as a young woman, supposedly at the pinnacle of life, I recently became aware that I do indeed experience anxiety in a way that most of the people in my life do not. I guess I always figured it was just a personality flaw, and maybe it is. But here’s the thing, (assuming for just a moment there is such a thing as “normal”), it’s not “normal” to spend 3 hours constantly checking the mirror to see if I am even remotely presentable for the outside world before heading out the door, to only then decide I am not and to cancel all plans for the day. It’s not “normal” to walk down the high street completely convinced that every.single.person is staring, judging, sneering, laughing. To feel like I am having a heart attack every time I pop out to get some milk, or to then not buy it because the queue is too long and I can’t be still in such a busy place. In and out as quickly as possible, avoiding eye contact, trying not to hyperventilate and practically running back home. I can’t even imagine being in more intimate scenarios lately. I can’t eat out or do anything that involves a circle of people sitting far too closely around me.
And I feel ridiculous for being this way.
“Nobody is judging you,” says my ever- lovely boyfriend who is surely at his wits' end by now, “people are far too busy getting on with their own lives to focus so intently on one stranger in a sea of many. You’re just going to get milk.”
And I know, in the confines of my safe, quiet house, that he is 100% correct. Yet all logic disappears when I step outside that door.
The other day I had to go and support a friend in his show opening in an art gallery… It was excruciating. When I got home I shut the door behind me, collapsed in a heap, and cried for hours. And now I’m here.
Sorry -- I had hoped this wouldn’t turn out like a diary entry, I’m sure you frequent users have heard it aaaall before. I just feel completely alone. I have a handful of wonderful friends with whom I have tried to discuss feelings of anxiety, all the while secretly hoping that deep down underneath their beautiful, young and care free exteriors, they could relate. Turns out they are pretty much beautiful, young and care free, which is brilliant. But, I do wonder if anyone out there will come across this post and just….. get it?
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