I have been doing much better at controlling my anxiety. I have been dealing with some objectively difficult situations (my mother is very ill; my older kid -- who has always been challenging -- being even more challenging; lower back pain acting up; some issues at work, and a few other things) and still keeping it together quite well.
But this past week, I felt like my old anxiety was back. I woke up early this morning very worried about things at work, jumping to the worst case scenarios, and not being able to divert my attention or do a better job at evaluating my situation. (I have invested a lot in my career, and I think the more you invest, the more of a disaster it would be if it were to fall apart).
And earlier this week, there was an incident where I gave a confidential (and not entirely positive) reference for someone and then spent time the next day worrying about why I did that, what would happen if the confidentiality were not maintained, how this could come back to bite me, etc.. The specific incident is not all that important, but this has been a pattern for me: doing or saying something and then later worrying (in a fairly intense way) about how it could work out badly for me, regretting it, engaging in self-criticism, etc.
These things are just a reminder that although I have made some progress, I am not "over" my anxiety, and I probably never will be.
I can sometimes use the skills that I learned in CBT to get myself back on track. And I can sometimes use some breathing exercises to get back to sleep in the middle of the night, when I awake. But I have not overcome anxiety, and it will, from time to time, especially when important things are not doing so well, rear its head... This is sort of discouraging for someone who lived many years without anxiety. I remember what it was like to live free from anxiety, and I yearn for those days.