Originally Posted by
Im-Suffering
I have edited your post for the emotional 'hotpoints', lets see if we can take it further, and shed some 'light' on the issues.
Now, your post is a musing. As you try and sort out your feelings, you stumbled quite accidentally into the reason for your experiences thus far in life, and also the answer. So I have rearranged the structure of the post, eliminated the smoke and mirrors, and left you with the concise message pertinent to self-edification. Lets now rewrite your screenplay, and see how it turns out shall we? We are after the truth :
"I don't know why, I know I should be happy, and be interested socially but I just feel that everything, including life is pointless. Because I just feel like I'm always being judged. And this destroys my confidence, self worth, and esteem, my value and integrity. Not only am I judged, but quite often criticized, bullied. When i am under pressure, like a job interview, I generally go all shy, my muscles start twitching and I get very depressed. This is natural for my body to express, given my core beliefs about myself. My feelings coupled with my experiences have left me sour, and mistrustful, my relationships usually also end badly or hurtfully. Since i really believe that, i suppress a lot of myself, my true self, and find expression very difficult if not awkward in manner and tone. My voice breaks and i am timid when asked about my strengths. Its hard for me to express them, what i feel good about, because im fearful of others reactions toward me. This of course all started in early childhood, with my conditioning, from my caretakers. I have buried those painful memories, and severed the connection consciously, so i never attribute whats happening in my life today, as a repeat of what happened then, plus i was very young. But they were critical, of me to, and judgemental, and in a very real sense, that was abusive to a child. And so i began to shut down even then. I dont know, my feelings are often hard to understand. Simply because i leave out this reference point of childhood and adolescence. I blamed myself, I was different, and in a way i thought i deserved what i got, but that made me feel guilty, and shameful about myself, and that hurts inside. I love people ! Its not that i am bored, i am scared, that they will disappoint me, let me down by criticizing me, or even abandon me, and so isolation although painful in itself is less destructive to me than rejection. I will often reject them first, rather than wait and see, so i dont have many friends."
Now that your story has been rewritten for clarity, you can study it/self and begin the process of healing, where if you find some false beliefs about who you are (from early childhood to the present day), you can change them, thereby changing your physical experience. It begins with mental reflection first, changing inside, no exceptions. Any internal changes will have an immediate effect across the board, in the outer world. You get what you expect, by projecting your feelings (beliefs) out onto others. And then like a mirror, you get to flesh out your mass hallucinations. In that context, it is not judgement from others you need to worry about, its the harsh judgement you give to self.
You are lucky, at 20 years old, that we have been able to catch all of this quickly, while you are still young!
Happy trails - that lead to self discovery !