Originally Posted by
Pierogies99
Hey, Kyle. I was in a similarish situation to yours a few years ago, but thankfully I didn't have to see this girl once it went downhill. Even then it was still hard to let go because she would still contact me. Hell, she still sends me a Facebook message every few months to this day. Sometimes I politely respond, but usually ignoring it is much easier since I have little interest in talking to her.
To put it simply, you are making excuses for her. You state multiple times in this thread how two-faced she is, yet here you try to say she is straight forward and honest, and she is anything but. This isn't going to have a happy ending like you want it to have if you keep initiating contact. She isn't suddenly going to become a different person. You have this idealized version of what you want her to be in your head, and it's making you ignore all her faults, which you are aware of, yet still trying to rationalize them. You seem to be seeking validation here for a decision you have already made.
Cut off all contact with her apart from the occasional hello when you see her at home or in school. If that is too hard, don't say anything. Pretend she doesn't exist. Delete her number. You don't need it, and it will only lead to making a mistake (drunk texting is so bad in the type of relationship you have :P). If there is dire need to get in contact with her, she lives next door.
It sounds like she was genuinely interested in being your friend at first, especially since you were someone she could share her problems with. Or she just wanted the attention, and you were more than willing to provide it. She got bored of that though, and now there is no going back. Your relationship will never be the same again, even if you would somehow become friends again, because of all this baggage you guys have. At the risk of sounding like a jerk, a romantic relationship will never happen between you two at this point, so get it out of your head.
I do understand how you feel, and I had friends give me the same advice when it happened to me, but I ignored it and kept making excuses. What I wrote may seem harsh, and I apologize if you take offense to it, but sugar coating it is not going to help you. Do yourself a favor and skip all the needless pain further contact with her will bring. It's not going to be easy at first, but it really does get easier after a while. You just have to be willing to let her go, which unfortunately you are not.
In any case, I wish you the best of luck.
P.S. - I'm new here. First post. Hi everyone!