Originally Posted by
RealisticTrain
Hi Bethany,
First of all, it is important for you to understand that these irrational fears you feel are extremely common and are anything but "pathetic".
In reality, what you are describing is textbook anxiety. You see, fear is the negative psychological connection you have with something, while anxiety is your body's response to that fear. So when you are afraid, your body enters what's known as "fight or flight" mode. In other words, you are preparing to either face this threat (or perceived threat), or you are ready to run from it. It's an instinctual human reaction that has helped us survive since the dawn of mankind.
In any case, your mind floods your body with adrenaline, tightening your focus and awareness. This is why when you're anxious, you can't stop thinking about whatever it is that you are afraid of, no matter how hard you try. Adrenaline also makes your heart beat faster, your breathing becomes short and frequent, and your palms start sweating. All of these things that your body is doing that frighten you actually have a practical purpose; for example, sweaty hands improve your grip, increased heart rate and breathing provide temporary energy, etc..
I may be getting a bit off topic, but it's important you understand these things. The best tool that anyone can have against anxiety is knowledge; in other words, knowledge that what you are going through is completely normal, safe, and reversible.
I suggest seeing your doctor and asking if he or she can recommend a psychologist that you can further talk to about this. I feel that CBT treatment might help you a lot. Simply put, it's a non-medical treatment option that can train your mind to change its way of thinking about certain things, such as fears or phobias.
Good luck and stay safe. Let me know if you have any other questions.
- Dr. Dan