Over analysing

Hi there, new to this so pardon any mistakes.
To try and cut a long story short ( for now) I'm
I'm a situation where I totally over analyse almost every situation.
For example- someone posts on Facebook stating they are peeved off at someone- I will spend ages racking my brains wondering if it might be me they are talking about- and these might be people I've not seen for weeks and it would be unlikely I have upset them. I will go through the last conversation I had to try think of a reason.
I will often then contact them (with a false reason) so see what sort of response I get.. If it gets too much tho there are occasions where I have asked outright and each time I have been told of course I haven't upset them.
I sometimes feel I'm not "in" on things in the large circle of friends I have. I feel like a paranoid wreck, constantly worrying iv stepped on someone's toes- and it's really doing my head in.
Can anyone relate??

I definitely can relate not to Facebook posts by people I've not seen for ages but usually friends and then I have to contact them to ask what's happened just to double check. Also over the phone if someone's tone changes I think did I just say something.

My main thing at the moment is my relationship, we've just broken up and he's definitely not acting himself (depression) but I'm constantly worrying, it's something I've done, always thinking the worst eg he won't get help and wont come back, what if its me, I'm always going to be alone etc rather just worrying about things when they happen. I'm actually making myself ill now it's a vicious circle I'm not sleeping which means I can't think clearly, I either under eat or over eat, can't relax, get up early then feel like I haven't slept or can't get back to sleep, just constantly worrying about everything.

I've tried telling myself to stop when I realise I'm doing it and it works for a bit but then it just all gets too much and i feel swamped by my thoughts. I feel drained, exhausted and sometimes I just want to sit and cry. I wish there was an off button I'm so sick of it.

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Originally Posted by Lost84

I definitely can relate not to Facebook posts by people I've not seen for ages but usually friends and then I have to contact them to ask what's happened just to double check. Also over the phone if someone's tone changes I think did I just say something.

My main thing at the moment is my relationship, we've just broken up and he's definitely not acting himself (depression) but I'm constantly worrying, it's something I've done, always thinking the worst eg he won't get help and wont come back, what if its me, I'm always going to be alone etc rather just worrying about things when they happen. I'm actually making myself ill now it's a vicious circle I'm not sleeping which means I can't think clearly, I either under eat or over eat, can't relax, get up early then feel like I haven't slept or can't get back to sleep, just constantly worrying about everything.

I've tried telling myself to stop when I realise I'm doing it and it works for a bit but then it just all gets too much and i feel swamped by my thoughts. I feel drained, exhausted and sometimes I just want to sit and cry. I wish there was an off button I'm so sick of it.

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Hi there,
The Facebook thing is just an example of how I think- this can happen like you say, face to face, on the phone etc. I often feel like I'm not good enough for people- you know, feel like I'm out of the loop sometimes- and when this happens it also makes me feel very down.
I have had a couple of traumatic events happen to 1st my husband and then my daughter- and I worried relentlessly that something bad was going to happen to them during these periods. But the worrying about everything is beyond a joke at times. I do go through periods where it's pretty good but it doesn't take much to start me off again.
My mother ( whom I love to bits) has never been particularly loving or interested in mine and my families life and when this was brought up it ended up in a fall out and she has not spoken to me in almost a year- I think that has had some effect too. I'm terrified something will happen to her and its ended on terms like this.
I have had occasions where certain things with my health have caused worry, and I was put on Pregabalin, which is for depression but works for chronic pain (which I suffered from).
I'm just so sick of these negative thoughts- I work full time and I am a bubbly person, people know I'm a worrier but I think a lot would be shocked if they really knew the type of stuff that went on in my head. Makes you feel like ur going mad :-( xx

I can definitely relate, I work full time too and I think because people assume I'm fine or coping they start giving me their opinions on things and sometimes I'm not strong enough to brush it off and that then turns to something else to worry about. I wish people would keep their opinions to themselves until asked! I think people would be surprised by just how fine I'm not and what was going on inside my head. I'm now wondering if I'm suffering from mild depression, I'm not on medication but have just started taking St. John's wort which is a herbal tablet for mild depression and anxiety, I just feel I need something sometimes to help me get out of this rut xx

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Originally Posted by Lost84

I can definitely relate, I work full time too and I think because people assume I'm fine or coping they start giving me their opinions on things and sometimes I'm not strong enough to brush it off and that then turns to something else to worry about. I wish people would keep their opinions to themselves until asked! I think people would be surprised by just how fine I'm not and what was going on inside my head. I'm now wondering if I'm suffering from mild depression, I'm not on medication but have just started taking St. John's wort which is a herbal tablet for mild depression and anxiety, I just feel I need something sometimes to help me get out of this rut xx

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Hiya,
I think I'm very good at putting a front on things- I think people would actually disbelieve me if I told them about the thought patterns I have. If something starts to worry me I will obsess about it sometimes it will be on my mind from morning till night and throughout the nite!
I have wondered myself if there's a mild form of depression lurking. I can sometimes not leave the house on my weekends off then other times im off out partying. Very up and down. The St Johns wort is something I took several years ago- I think it's worth trying that before prescribed meds.
I totally know how you feel, I hate being like this and have spent years living on my nerves- I just have irrational negative thoughts- I will always think the worst case scenario of a situation.
It drives you nuts doesn't it? I feel I'm a strong person but I feel like iv no control over these thoughts I get.
I agree with wishing there was an off button, when doing good it's great but once I get something into my head it spirals out of control. It's nice to speak to someone who actually knows how it feels! Xx

Tbh most of the time I can just about cope with worrying although it does drive me nuts but recently it's began to take over my life, I can still concentrate on most things but its always there niggling at the back of my mind probably most dangerous time to worry is when I'm driving! I just want to enjoy my life, I try and tell myself to worry about things when I need too as it might not turn out that bad but it's near impossible to do. I wish someone could tell me how to do it. The CBT I'm doing which was referred by the doctor seems to have highlighted the problem but not how to fix it. I know I'm meant to catch negative thoughts and change the way I'm thinking but how?

How did you find the St. John's wort? xx

I have learned a rule on over thinking things. "Alan, if you think you might be making too much of something, you are so stop it". This is a mild form of obsession or obsessing. Worry, rumination, anxiety are related. Seeing your own patterns help taper down on this as well as learning how it effects you negatively. Over time you can get better at coaching yourself on this. Alankay