Ive been single for best part of ten years

[xfilme]

Yes, its true, ive been single for ten years, with the exception of a brief 4 month spell. Has anyone else got into this rut. If so... have any of you managed to climb back out?

[costaboy]

i personally found a girl who accepts me and my baggage and its strange she automatically accepted it and shes always there for me x

[Nekochan]

I have only had one partner in my life, I'm 20 years old and we met when I was 17, even though we are not together anymore we are kinda dating...We are still in love...Well, things are complicated lol, but she accepts me as I am with my anxiety, she is there for me and helps me trying to get rid of it by acting like it's not a big deal and life goes on as usually after an attack, it feels safe that she's not making a big deal of it <3

[MaKenna13]

I haven't had a problem with being single... But my past bfs have not been accepting of my anxiety, except for the guy I'm with now. In the past my ex's would just tell me to snap out of it. The guy I'm with helps me through it, tells me to breathe deeply, holds me when I'm upset. We've been together only 9 months. But he is supportive and has an good understanding of it. At first he didn't have a clue why I would get uncomfortable in certain situations, movie theaters, parties, being around a lot of drunken people that can't handle alcohol, etc. But now he truly cares and has no problem with it. It just takes a certain person to care for you just as you are, no one is perfect. You have to find the right person who thinks your "flaws" make you who you are, and that little things like anxiety don't matter so much. Sure, it affects your life and how you deal with situations. But that doesn't mean you can't live and not be happy, and share your life and happiness with someone else.

[caera]

To be single is not at all a problem. I think it is an advantage because being single you can know yourself better and when anybody will come in your life, then you can tell her what you exactly want.
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[MainerMikeBrown]

I've been single for a long time myself. However, I learned years ago that if I overworry about not having a girlfriend, I'm shooting myself in the foot. I enjoy life as a single person. I don't want to be single forever.

Part of why I don't put much effort into meeting women is because I fear the thought of running the risk of settling down. I'm nowhere near ready to settling down. There's things I want to do before doing so, such as more traveling and gaining employment in fields which I've never worked in before.

[LeighJane]

He sounds really wonderful, MaKenna. I think I have "been" that person, but never found one. I'm not really sure if being single is better or even ok for me. I'm doing it alright for the moment, tho. Do you think your current bf is so caring because you show that you are caring to him, or is that a quality he had before you?

[jklivin]

To be single is not at all a problem. I think it is an advantage because being single you can know yourself better and when anybody will come in your life, then you can tell her what you exactly want.
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I agreed being single has it's advantages but it also has disadvantages as well, like nobody to do things with or to support you when your down or vent about work etc.

[jklivin]

I have been single for at least ten years now and it gets lonely sometimes..

[PB12]

I've also been single for about 10 years. Am now 38. Problems is now I am so used to being on my own ive forgotten what its like sharing my life with someone new. I cant find a woman anyway as nobody wants a bloke out of work getting £71 quid a week to live on!! I may need to go back to work soon if i fail an ESA appeal and this scares the crap out of me!! Perhaps a good woman alongside me would help at times like this but nobody i fancy seems interested :-(

[Sedigive]

I am not single now. However, I married late in life so had a lot of time on my own. I have been married for 11 years. It is tough. I think if you have a good network of friends and family you are better off - at least for now. Marriage takes a looooooot of work!! If there are any major issues or even baggage, you haven't solved anything you have just doubled your stress levels. I know the feeling - I am there. Work out what you need to first. Make sure the person understands your situation and you are compatible on how you deal with and solve problems because make no mistake they will come.

[DragonLilly]

I'm 21 and never had a relationship. I'm happy to be single, though I do get lonely at times I admit.

Don't worry too much I have heard of people who have never had a relationship and they are in their 50's. They are really happy and content too, just fine to spend their time on the hobbies they love. :)

[AceParadox]

I've been single for hmm... 2-3 years now. Mainly, I've been single since I got out of High School lol. Which tells me that I'm not getting out enough, because I went to the club lastnight with some buddies and ended up getting a dinner date by the end of the night with a very cute, outgoing and bubbly girl. Maybe I'll start college, even though I'm 2 years late than most people who were in my graduating class. Relationships are stressful at times though! You'll find somebody, you just have to get out there and do stuff you love, have fun, and party it up :D

[Si76]

I've been single since Sept 2002 and apart from a couple of dating episodes I haven't been with anyone. I'm 36 & I guess it's the fear of being rejected that stops me from asking girls out. Also, I'm quite overweight so that makes it even more difficult. The trouble is that after so long alone you get set in your own ways and everything becomes too comfortable. Plus the anxiety of taking on something new with potential disastrous & upsetting consequences holds me back. With my lack of mental strength it stops you moving forward.

[ikilledadragon]

I always feel like there is something missing so yeah I need a companion. I just don't know how to get one. ;(

[vanann88]

I just went on my first date in 5 years after suffering with anxiety and depression. I met him online and we finally met in person. I did way better than I thought I would. I suffered zero anxiety in the restaurant and was happy. We hugged goodbye. I haven't talked with him much since then. But I'm glad I atleast put myself out there again.. Once you do that a lot more doors open up.

[omoplata]

I just went on my first date in 5 years after suffering with anxiety and depression. I met him online and we finally met in person. I did way better than I thought I would. I suffered zero anxiety in the restaurant and was happy. We hugged goodbye. I haven't talked with him much since then. But I'm glad I atleast put myself out there again.. Once you do that a lot more doors open up.

Yes baby steps at first and before you know it you'll be running....at your own pace of course. Good for you!

[meco1999]

I'm 32 and have always been single.

[OvercomeIt]

As long as you working on yourself....There is no problem with being single at all...In fact I get much more done being single...