Another lost soul

[indiana]

Hello everybody,
By chance i discovered this site when I was most desperate (maybe it was help from above). When I read som of the posts I started already feel better. It is so important not feeling alone with this wretched illness. I cannot talk to my family
about it because they do not understand. How could they. I think they think I should pull myself together and stop worrying. As if that was so easy. I will not tire you with all my symptoms. The two worst ones is my constant feeling dizzy and sick and the other one (apart from having TMJ) is heavy tension in my face muscles and neck. I thought it was only TMJ which I cannot get rid of in spite of exercising all the time. Now I have read that anxiety can make you so tense that you are unable to relax
which starts another vicious circle.
Having had this illness or condition for so many years (I am middleaged) I have come to the conclusion that badly wanting to get rid of anxiety is not the way and probably not realistic either. Accepting it as part of life is the way for me. There will be bad days and good days like now where I have gotten some relief just knowing that there are others
out there struggling with the same thing.
Good luck to everybody

[alankay]

Howde Indy, you can't get rid of it but you can learn to minimize it and manage it better. I think you saw some of that in posts here and hope you're on you way to doing that. I trust you are getting a docs care and advised on your anxiety?
Folks who don't understand are like a no diabetic really understanding a diabetics issue. But we all accept/understand a physical illness but many folks don't get a pysch issue since in their life context they just don't have the degree of anxiety, etc, that we do so never feel what we do.
Welcome. Alankay.

[dreamsafire]

Hi Indiana! Just stopped in to say hello to a fellow new member. Hope you can find some answers here too.

I really hate how people tell anxiety sufferers to "just relax." I mean, it just makes me more anxious when they say it, but it really is as silly as them telling a fish to "Just walk to the moon!"

But since we're both here now, that fish is gonna pack up his little suitcase and we are going to learn how to get there. :)

[indiana]

Howde Indy, you can't get rid of it but you can learn to minimize it and manage it better. I think you saw some of that in posts here and hope you're on you way to doing that. I trust you are getting a docs care and advised on your anxiety?
Folks who don't understand are like a no diabetic really understanding a diabetics issue. But we all accept/understand a physical illness but many folks don't get a pysch issue since in their life context they just don't have the degree of anxiety, etc, that we do so never feel what we do.
Welcome. Alankay.

I cannot understand how this thing works

[alankay]

Indy, are you trying to post or message someone? Alankay.

[indiana]

Indy, are you trying to post or message someone? Alankay.

Thanks you for your support. Yes I am having trouble posting replies (not new posts). I says I have to log in again but I am already logged in. I have been in touch with the administrator but get no response.
I have become a lot wiser since I regularly read posts and especially answers from more experienced members. It makes all the difference when you can say to yourselves "it" will come back or "you may never get
rid of it completely" and still be ok and not get a depression from the thought alone.
Regards
Indiana

[alankay]

I get that logging in too but just hit the home symbol and it lets me go OK from there.
For may anxiety will be there is just that you get better at knowing all this tricks it plays and lowering your anxiety via treatment, etc. Alankay

[vonnhelsing]

Indiana,

you can live an anxiety-free life. but life is full of stress.. there's just no avoiding it. and when something stressful happens we will become anxious. every one in the world will feel it. but for us i guess it's just a bit more severe. In 2011, i lived practically anxiety free for that whole year since i first got it in 2008. But then i had a horrible break-up and my anxiety came back again. But this time i was more knowledgeable. I knew what i was having and i knew it wasn't going to kill me. you need to first really understand what anxiety is or what a panic attack is. It's our brain being completely irrational. have a read through the forum you will learn a lot, and pick up tons of tips on how to deal with it.
we're all on the same boat here and we will all reach our destination :)
take care!! x