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scared&worried
01-24-2012, 09:23 AM
Hello everybody. I am a 31 year old male and this is the first time that I have ever been on one of these forums. I have found some comfort reading others' entries, realizing that I am not alone.

I consider myself to be a very social person. Always able to speak my mind, regardless of how many people in the room. But lately...I have been very anti-social, and I find it difficult to even go to the grocery store!!

I started experiencing stomach pain at the start of October 2011. I have underwent numerous medical tests (ECG, bloodwork, ultrasound, colonoscopy), and everything has come back normal (except a few small gallstones which were found, but doctor says they are too small to cause this pain). Well here were are, January 24th, 2012 and the stomach pain is still there. It is above my belly button and below my left rib cage. It keeps me up many nights, and has me constantly belching. I take medication for acid reflux which helps keep my food down, but it doesn't help with the stomach pain.

I make the big mistake by routinely trying to self diagnose myself using the internet. Somedays I have myself convinced that I have stomach cancer, or pancreatic cancer. Things got so out of hand in late December that I lost my appetite, began losing weight, and was crying on a daily basis (prior to this, I had not shed tears for may years).

I have a stressful job, and things at home are busy with my hyper 2-year old son. I am just so scared that I have some terminal illness, and that I won' be there for him. I have trouble sleeping, and am finding it difficult to go to work. I am finding it hard to even have a short conversation with the clerk at the corner store when I buy a loaf of bread. The past two weeks I have been having a burning/tingling sensation on the top and the back of my head. I usually notice it at bed time, and once I get up in the morning. It seems to go away for a few hours after I exercise. This burning/tingling sometimes shows up in my feet. I routinely feel light headed!

I have been seeing a therapist but did not find that the sessions were helping. I just made arrangements to see a therapist who has previously helped me out.

I really can't shake this. Knowing how I feel now.....If I could go back in time, I would have sought help sooner. I feel like it's too late and that I am losing control of myself. I definitely am not acting like my normal self! Each day is a struggle. I don't live by the motto "Take it one day at a time". I have to go follow the "Take it one hour at a time".

My wife has been very supportive, but I am sure she is getting tired of hearing my daily rants about me dying. I don't want to stress her out! She has re-decorated our bedroom to make it more relaxing (which has helped me sleep a bit better). I have been going to the gym, relaxing in the sauna, utilizing breathing techniques, drinking herbal tea, etc. I have cut out alcohol and caffeine, and I have minimized the amount of fatty foods in my diet.

I don't know what else to do. Really need help here. Finding it much harder to put on my "I'm feeling fine" mask. I think that my co-workers are going to see through it soon.

Any advice, suggestions, support, etc much appreciated.

scared&worried
01-24-2012, 09:25 AM
Oh yeah. Forgot to mention that I go in for a stomach scope later this week. Really hoping that this will provide some answers (but not fatal ones!)

alankay
01-24-2012, 12:27 PM
Scared, you do sound anxious and stomach issues/complaints are very common with anxiety. Keep up with the therapist and perhaps a visit to the doc might be in order you see if you can get some relief for your anxiety. Maybe an SSRI for a while or buspar. You can also try an antihistamine which have anti-anxiety effects. At 31 I'm sure you are quite healthy. PM me any time. Alankay.

conklejamie
01-24-2012, 04:49 PM
Hi I just decided to join this site hoping it would help. I am also going through a difficult time. I'm a 27 year old female and have been struggling with anxiety for the past 6 years. It got really bad about 3 months ago. My husband and I decided to try to start a family, so I went off my medication I take to control my anxiety. It was a big mistake. I basically had a break down. I missed a ton of work. We finally decided I should go back on the medication and while it has helped, I still do not feel "normal". I understand what you mean about worrying about dying all the time. I have the same worries, I have myself convinced I have a blood clot in my leg. I'm glad your wife is being supportive, my husband is also very supportive, but at the same time I do worry he is sick of hearing about it. I just wish I could feel normal again. Like you said I can't go to the grocery store anymore and I am terrified to be home alone. I do see a therapist and it has helped. Have you considered seeing another doctor? Not that I think anything is wrong, but would a second opinion make you feel a little better? Please keep me posted on how you're doing.

Anxionusanthony89
01-24-2012, 05:17 PM
hey, im Anthony i just joined i know what your all going through. this weekend i convinced my self i had a condition some what like "MS".
a couple of years ago i convinced my self i had cancer. 4 blood tests in 3 months is the only thing that set my mind at ease now today i went to my doctors 2 times to get 2 difrent opinions on my "SELF GOOGLE DIAGNOSIS". now i should have realised years ago google is a good thing but not if your suffering with a condition such as our selfs... the best thing is to stay the hell away from it haha...
im now suffering with stomach pains, diarrhea,feeling sick,numb hands, tired,spaced out, feel as if my heads being washed around a swimming pool luckily im used to all these aftereffects of a scary stretch...

its hard to stop nagging people about thinking your going to die i did the same for a long time...
i stopped all that by simply getting out every moment i have free time get used to doing things on your own mix with different people if you dont want to - tough! force your self ;) its how many people i know got alot better not 100% but almost my mum,gran,brother they all done it and my mum you would never know she was like i am 4 years ago...

IndependentJenn
01-24-2012, 05:30 PM
Im sorry your experiencing this pain. I too used to have awful pain but it was in a womanly area of my body. It effected me daily and I soon found out it was an issue that would be helped by diet. Ok so what I did was start drinking Greens plus original but they also have other flavors, started a multi-vitamin and now when I eat something like chocolate or something with caffeine I balance it out with broccoli or a veggie. This has helped me 100 percent, maybe your body just needed to be balanced too!

As far as the rest of your anxiety goes, hopefully for you it will ba a domino effect. You change the first issue and the rest will fall back in place. Hope I could be helpful! Good luck on your tests, almost sounded to me like an ulcer but I am def. not a dr!

<3Jenn

scared&worried
01-24-2012, 05:40 PM
I have seen a few emergency doctors, as well as my family doctor. I recently was referred to see a gastro specialist next month (I wish it was tomorrow!). Interesting that you mention your worries re: blood clot. Sometimes when I get the tingling in my head, for some reason I think that I must have a blood clot or brain hemorrhage! I find that it is easier to talk yourself into these crazy ideas when you are sleep deprived! Thanks for your post Jamie ;)

scared&worried
01-24-2012, 05:45 PM
Thanks everybody for all of your feedback. Very much appreciated. I have always been a high-stress person. I have a hard time wrapping my head around the fact that all of my stomach issues could be stress/anxiety related. With that being said, I was experiencing alot of stress at work leading up to when I started having this stomach pain. But I have done so many things recently to help me relax, and I have not noticed any improvement with the stomach pain. That's why I keep thinking that it must be some other health issue!

Anxionusanthony89
01-24-2012, 06:07 PM
scared you find even if you are relaxed it will still hurt as subconsciously you are still anxious about the fact you have had this pain and the more you worry the more your body will mimic the pain and you will convince your self more and more your ill, now the only way that you can really help your self with this is finding something that takes your mind off it, don't let your self become obsessed by this feeling, as i said before keep your mind active don't give your self time to thing about it all :) i hope it helps

scared&worried
01-24-2012, 06:38 PM
Good advice Anthony. Makes sense because there are many moments when I do feel relaxed...Like when I am sitting on the couch having a cup of tea after a warm shower....yet....the tingling sensation in my head creeps up. I can't understand why it happens because I am having a moment of relaxation!!

Anxionusanthony89
01-25-2012, 10:40 AM
just waiting on a moderator to allow my last comment to you Scared :)

Anxionusanthony89
01-25-2012, 10:46 AM
scared have a look in your private messages :)

conklejamie
01-25-2012, 07:30 PM
I know what you mean about not understanding where the panic attack comes from. Mine also come out of the blue. I get the tingles and then freak out. I always feel like something must be wrong because I was calm and then had physical symptoms and then the panic. It must be a subconcious thing. I am currently "freaking out" right now. I just took an adivan. I am so convinced I have a blood clot in my leg. It's all I can think about. I am sure I am going to drop dead. I wish things got easier. It seems like some days are alright and others are awful. I hope your doctors visit goes well and that things aren't too awful until your appointment. I'm sure your scope results will be normal, which is both awful and a blessing. It's like sometimes I wish they would find something wrong with me so I wouldn't feel so crazy. When your feeling so awful it's hard to believe that nothing is physically wrong.
take care

scared&worried
01-26-2012, 07:31 AM
One hour until my stomach scope. Hoping nothing serious is found. Unrelated to this....anybody ever wake up in the middle of the night, and jolt right up to a seated position and notice that you are light headed and have tingling in your head? I have had this many times over the past few weeks. Already had a CT scan and nothing abnormal found in my head. Could this just be anxiety?? While I am asleep???

Anxionusanthony89
01-26-2012, 09:38 AM
good luck if nothing is wrong let it remind you say to your self.... i am healthy nothing is wrong with me! if your still worried have a blood test. everything shows up in a blood test.! :)

scared&worried
01-28-2012, 02:31 PM
Hello everyone. I am in a surprisingly great mood today! My stomach scope the other day went fine, and no surprise...they found nothing! Soo...hoping to move forward...although I still have worries about my pancreas and gall bladder...but I won't focus on that today.

Today is the first day in months that I feel pretty good!! Not 100%, but a huge improvement!! I have been going to the gym consistently, drinking lots of chamomile tea, working on breathing exercises, seeing a new therapist. Last night was the best sleep that I have had in a longggggg time! Slept the whole night with no nightmares! Don't want to jinx it, but feeling really optimistic. I know there will still be some bad days, but I am gonna try to build from today!

I think that part of my progress stems from me admitting to myself that I suffer from anxiety and PTSD.

Just wanted to share, as well as to document this (to remind me during tough times, that it is possible to feel good).

Best of luck to all of you, battling your anxiety!