AsktheAges
11-02-2011, 06:18 AM
Hi, I've been posting a bit to Depression Forums but I think this may be the better place for me (or at least a good one). I'm in my early 30s and teach on contract at the university level. I moved a long distance for this contract in the fall. I take Buspar for anxiety, which has helped me. I'm mostly functional but I have some real issues. I get quite a bit of anxiety due to pressures related to work and about my career generally. Perhaps even worse is that I have a longstanding problem with obsessive, ruminating thoughts. I especially tend to obsess over angry thoughts - I'll get really lost in brooding over times when I felt dismissed or patronized or rejected, even if it happened years ago. (Counsellors have told me that obsessive thoughts are related to anxiety.) This can really get in the way of life sometimes. It placed a lot of stress on my last relationship. After my ex broke up with me in the summer, one thing she told me was that the amount of need in me is greater than what any girl could handle. This also generally makes me less productive than I could be, I think.
I used to have severe public speaking anxiety but that's much better now.
Until my last relationship, I could never really get a relationship started because I had such crippling anxiety when it came to dating. The second date would be a disaster. I honestly haven't tried dating again.
My anxiety often gets in the way of sleep.
Things I try to do to deal with anxiety and obsessiveness include:
progressive muscle relaxation
automatic thought records
mindfulness meditation
I've used the MoodGym site a bit. Vigorous exercise does really help but unfortunately, I tend to skip it when I'm really busy, which is often.
I've taken Celexa and Zoloft in the past. While they've helped a little, they've ruined my digestive system, even now, a year after I last took Zoloft.
I used to have severe public speaking anxiety but that's much better now.
Until my last relationship, I could never really get a relationship started because I had such crippling anxiety when it came to dating. The second date would be a disaster. I honestly haven't tried dating again.
My anxiety often gets in the way of sleep.
Things I try to do to deal with anxiety and obsessiveness include:
progressive muscle relaxation
automatic thought records
mindfulness meditation
I've used the MoodGym site a bit. Vigorous exercise does really help but unfortunately, I tend to skip it when I'm really busy, which is often.
I've taken Celexa and Zoloft in the past. While they've helped a little, they've ruined my digestive system, even now, a year after I last took Zoloft.