Anxiety and Relationships

[Steve316_ca]

I would like to hear some views and opinions on this subject. It seems as though when my anxiety is bad, I start doubting/what-iffing, comparing my current relationship to ones in the past or fantasize about finding that perfect girl" who would make everything go away, and a feeling of dread and panic begin to take over, almost like I'm purposely trying to scare myself. Can anyone relate? It just makes it VERY diffuclt to "stay in the meoment" with my current gf.

[Schatmeisje]

I dont exactly get the same thng, but when my anxiety is bad, i find myself feeling guilty or wanting my partner to just go away so he can live a 'normal' life. I guess when we are anxious, we do start to over analyse things and keep thinking that if something was different, we would be doing better (eg: if i had the perfect girl, i would be better). I have found that my feelings usually pass and then everything is back to normal. Remember that only we can change our behaviours and help ourselves to cope with our anxiety, another person cant do it for us. I dont know if you partner is supportive of your disorder, but i would maybe try emplaining to her that there are times when you just need a bit of time by yourself, and that it is just a part of your disorder.
Good Luck x

[philboo]

Hi Steve,
I am new to this site mate. 90% of my anxiety is worrying whether my wife is being unfaithful. If there is any time of the day that I can't be exactly sure where she is or who with then my mind starts telling me she's with another guy. On good days I know for sure she's not being unfaithful and that she loves me and this feeling brings me out of the depression even more, but most mornings I wake up thinking about a situation I can't explain and this just spirals throughout the day until I don't want to be around anybody.
I've spoke to my wife a few times about my worries, and she knows I'm about to start counselling sessions, but she gets angry and upset when I accuse her and so I don't like to keep asking because I feel it will drive her and my children away.
Every day I am getting exhausted from arguing with my own mind, trying to assure myself but too many days I am losing the arguments and it is really affecting our marriage.
(Although this sounds a bit harsh) I hope there are others on this site with the same problem because I feel so alone with it?
Phil.