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jdavis84
07-04-2011, 06:46 PM
Hello,
I am 27 years old. I'm not quite sure what is wrong with me but I will start from the beginning. When I was in junior high I started to get nervous around people. I didn't exactly understand it really back then. As I got into my 8th grade year I couldn't even stand to be looked at or especially to read anything aloud or give a speech.
This continued and worsened with time. I should probably note that my mom was a single parent and worked a 3pm-1am shift (nurse). I was quite happy at home by myself and rarely went out. Well during that summer before high school I had my first experience with pot via my half-brother during a visit. I loved it, loved it so much. I felt so good, I could actually laugh and have some fun with him. Then I made friends with a couple people in my small town through a shared love for the pot.
High school started and the nervousness was full blown paranoia when I was at school. About this time I started to smoke pot pretty much all the time. Before school, at school, after school. That made it better, I started to come out of my shell some and unexpectedly I started to lose weight. I shrunk from 250 to 150, met a girl and slowly all the nervousness and paranoia faded away.
I am now 27 and a parent and I have been clean and sober for 6 years following a suicide attempt. As of a couple weeks ago, I feel like I have snapped back into those old feelings 100%. I can't stand to be inside my house when the sun sets because I start to feel lonely even though I am married. I go in and out of the house like clockwork. Oddly enough though I cannot seem to connect with people once again. My old friends have all gone and I think about them a lot. Not sure what triggered this but it is even worse than before. I have been going out and bicycling with my daughter every day hoping it would help but it doesn't seem to be. I really could use some advice. I don't want to be on xanax or anything because they seem to have bad side effects and make people a bit zombie-like. I really don't want to resort to the pot again either for my daughter's sake.
Also I have a retail job and this disconnected feeling from people around me is amplified at work.

Marzy
07-13-2011, 06:03 PM
This sounds like you have a mild form of Social Anxiety, due to you getting nervous around other people but since you feel like this all the time then i would reccomend going out and meeting some new people. It might be nerve-wrecking at first but find someone with similar interests and you will feel much happier surrounded by friends. OR try something you've never done before, maybe a new hobby or spend more time with your daughter. Doing things you like and having lots of close friends should help you as you will become a lot happier with your life the way it is without slipping back into old ways, because if you begin to smoke pot again then later on you will regret it and feel even worse than you do now. Hope this helps :) Marzy.