AnthonyStAugustine
09-25-2010, 07:06 PM
I used to have a huge fear of making eye contact with people; even people I knew. When it came to making eye contact with strangers, you could forget about that. But, eye contact is very important. I eventually created a trick to distract me from my fear of making eye contact. When I started doing this, it started to get me over my fear.
I started using curiosity to my advantage. When I started doing this I realized that my fear of making eye contact drastically decreased. What I did was I would try to figure out the color of someone’s eyes were.
Coming from a place of curiosity distracted my fear of eye contact. I noticed when I started to do this I was able to have better social interactions and I came across less insecure of unconfident. For me, it was hard to make eye contact in the beginning of the interaction. If I could get past the initial uncomfortable it becomes easy.
Before I started using this trick, the beginning of the first eye contact was difficult. Several times I would try to force myself through it (that must have looked really unnatural to the person I was talking to). This trick has helped me to overcome that uncomfortable first eye contact moment. Maintaining eye contact after the first eye contact really isn’t that difficult. When you’re able to do this you will realize that it really isn’t that scary.
I don’t have this problem anymore, but I question why I was afraid to make eye contact in the past. Was I afraid that other would see fear or weakness in my eyes? Did I fear that people would be able to read me like a book? To this day I can’t figure out why I was so scared to make eye contact. Leave it up to my irrational thoughts to lead me to believe that there was a reason to have this fear. This fear was useless to me. It didn’t benefit me at all.
Coming from a place of curiosity helped me get over the fear of making eye contact. It gave me a reason to establish eye contact. If you can get past that initial discomfort, it’s not difficult to maintain eye contact. Eye contact is a very powerful tool that you can use during any social interaction. Try this out and see if this works for you.
I started using curiosity to my advantage. When I started doing this I realized that my fear of making eye contact drastically decreased. What I did was I would try to figure out the color of someone’s eyes were.
Coming from a place of curiosity distracted my fear of eye contact. I noticed when I started to do this I was able to have better social interactions and I came across less insecure of unconfident. For me, it was hard to make eye contact in the beginning of the interaction. If I could get past the initial uncomfortable it becomes easy.
Before I started using this trick, the beginning of the first eye contact was difficult. Several times I would try to force myself through it (that must have looked really unnatural to the person I was talking to). This trick has helped me to overcome that uncomfortable first eye contact moment. Maintaining eye contact after the first eye contact really isn’t that difficult. When you’re able to do this you will realize that it really isn’t that scary.
I don’t have this problem anymore, but I question why I was afraid to make eye contact in the past. Was I afraid that other would see fear or weakness in my eyes? Did I fear that people would be able to read me like a book? To this day I can’t figure out why I was so scared to make eye contact. Leave it up to my irrational thoughts to lead me to believe that there was a reason to have this fear. This fear was useless to me. It didn’t benefit me at all.
Coming from a place of curiosity helped me get over the fear of making eye contact. It gave me a reason to establish eye contact. If you can get past that initial discomfort, it’s not difficult to maintain eye contact. Eye contact is a very powerful tool that you can use during any social interaction. Try this out and see if this works for you.