Dealing with mean people?

[Fishing_guy]

OK, I thougtht I was doing a better job at handling my anxiety. I've been going out on the weekends to clubs and bars, just hanging out having fun. Seeing people I haven't seen in the last 6 years when I basically locked myself in the house and didn't come out.

But last night I was out at this club/bar on the beach listening to the band and just hanging out. There wasn't anyone there that I knew, but that was cool because I've been making myself do things and have fun even when I'm by myself. Well this chick comes up to me out of no where talking trash about me and how I looked bad (I'm not really that fat, but that's what she was talking about, I'm 6' 230#'s). I mean, it's not like I was trying to get her phone number or anything like that. I was actually trying to avoid her and her drunk friends as I walked by and she had to like run me down to insult me. I have no idea where it came from or why.

I know I should just ignore it, but I can't stop thinking about it. It's making me just want to close up and not talk to anyone anymore. I'm getting mixed messages on how I look, and whether or not women think I'm ugly. I know for a fact that some do, but what about the ones who say otherwise? Are they just being nice and lying to me and telling me that I look OK when I really don't?

[jusroc]

Hey Fishing Guy Dude.

I read what you said dude, and don't worry. However you look. So what man, we are born as we are born. We have no choice of this.
When a person slags off the way you look, what they are doing is in fact slagging off who ever made you and not you at all.

Always remember.
A persons words are most often a reflection of who they are and not who you are. This is especially relevant to people who do not know you.

If some one is nasty to a stranger without provocation, this says a lot about them. It says that they are sadistic.

The psychology behind why people are such ass holes can be very complicated and the reasons why people act in such a bad way are very varied.

However, in my experience, some people are ass holes for one simple fact.
Because they are ass holes full stop.

I wouldn't worry about this one person being nasty.
Just find someone else to hang out with.
There are over 6 and a half billion people on this planet. and not all of them are nasty.

I believe that many people are abusive because they are lost spiritually. They do not understand themselves and their only pleasures in life are based on selfish material gain or ruining other peoples lives.