I'm such a freak. . .

[totalsocialbuterflylol]

I feel so messed up. My boyfriend had his friends over tonight, and their all so kind and sweet to me. But I always sit with them and can't talk at all. I might be able to laugh along with their jokes, but its just so impossible for me to converse with people. I feel so lonely. I have never had a friend. I want to talk with them all so bad. I want to be apart of the group, but I can't. . . I hate this.

[Mr Hall]

Hi
I understand how difficult it can be to interact with people but in order to conquer your social limitations you must take risks. This means putting yourself in a situation that makes you feel uncomfortable. This doesn’t have to big - you can start small- perhaps with little one liners in the midst of a conversation.
You need to change your thinking patterns about yourself, and weed out those limiting beliefs you have about you. Change your thinking, and you change your entire social life.

Also pay attention to how people behave with each other, how they respond to social cues, and how they respond to things you do and say. How the words and actions of others make you feel? See who makes you feel comfortable and why. What makes them laugh, what makes them feel comfortable, and what does the opposite? Notice how people's body language affects the way you perceive them, the way others do

It is said that only 7% of human communication is in the words we speak. The rest is from body language, tone of voice, etc.

Finally learn to accept that you're going to make mistakes. It’s going to happen. You may say or do something that is socially awkward, or makes others uncomfortable, and you will be mortified. But NEVER give up. It will take time, and you will get better. Remember it is a skill that is developed and it will take time so take it gradually. Focus on making progress, not on radically changing yourself in an instant, and you’ll get very far.

I hope this helps.

[foreman]

Instead on focusing that you will only listen focus that you are very comunicative and you laugh and you are perfect you will see the results trust me .Just try it

[BerryBamboo]

When I can't talk in a group, I mostly find out I feel lesser than them, or that they will not care about what I have to say, who I am. Or I will not be able to form my sentences in a way that is interesting, purposeful. But yeah, it is a result of not having courage to beat awkward feeling.

[Anne1221]

What I do to get a conversation going is ask questions. I have learned people love to talk about themselves, and they also like to know other people are interested in them.

[psych_student92]

Agree 10000000% with Anne1221. Easiest way to get involved is ask someone questions about themselves.