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[ThatChild]

I want to know what I'm exactly going through. I know that there are countless of ways out there like sites for this kinds of things but I joined here for the sake of knowing and understanding better since a lot of you had already gotten through this and even surpassed it. My family's not that rich so I can't really ask them to have me get professional help. So these are my problems. I'll try to keep it short.

#1: Fear of going back to school and meeting new people. Just scared of the overall setting where you're trapped inside a classroom with a lot of people then your professor may call on you. I have a problem with my hearing so I can't hear that well. I'm dreading the part where my professor asked or said something and yet I have to make him repeat it. He might get angry and things might get ugly. My one and only friend is put in a different section from me and she's in the morning part then goes home right when I start my classes. That means I can't talk to her anymore and I don't have anyone to be beside me through those days. (This has been bugging me ever since I learned we were separated which was already two weeks before.)

#2: I don't like stepping out of the house when I'm alone. I'm okay if I have my sister or my mother or perhaps my whole family with me but if I'm all by myself especially in the mall where it's crowded, with every step I could feel my hands and feet going numb. My heart started beating too fast that I could feel it jumping around as if I have tachycardia.

#3: I can't talk with strangers, this includes professors or people with authority or perhaps sales lady, the lady behind the counter, the janitor, just basically strangers in different kinds of settings. I can't ask for help no matter how much I need it. My jaw just clamps shut and I could barely let a word out. I'm normal around my friend but when she's gone it's like I never learned to talk in the first place. I can't even say thank you or sorry.Ordering in fast food is absolutely hell.

#4: My head's jammed with negative thoughts mainly from the thought that others are judging and talking about me when they so much as cast a glance at me. Heart palpitations has been a normal thing to me ever since I gained this kind of fear. I know that it's most unlikely that they are doing those kinds of things but I can't help it. It's like having a little demon inside of my own head.

#5: There is this chat room that my new classmates made in a social media and they needed help so I helped them but when I intervened I felt like I ruined it or something. When I proceeded to talk, my heart was beating so fast I heard it thumping against my ears. My hands and feet quickly turned cold and numb.

#6: I can't sleep very well and the thought of school bothers me a lot. Right now I and my sister will go to the mall. My heart's already pounding and I have been sweating bullets.

#7: Apparently I've experienced anxiety attacks according to the counselor I talked to back at the university (it was free so it was a chance I don't want to pass up though I can't remember what we talked about oddly) and I've been experiencing them in an almost daily basis. Around three times a week. Nobody in my family knows because I'm quick to calm myself down so it won't get worse. I'm not taking any medicine except for the one for my hearing.

I am so sorry again if it came out long instead. I don't know what to omit anymore so it would become shorter. Any kind of help is welcomed and to those that read it, thank you.

[Nowuccas]

My suggestion is to ensure that you are early, so that you don't have to face an almost full class. Select a seat near the front, close to the professor, for better hearing.

Nearly everyone has negative thoughts sometimes. Negative thoughts often occur before negative emotions*. It's important to regularly monitor, and deal with a negative internal monologue (self talk), or mental process, such as disturbing thoughts, images, impulses, etc., by the process of (a): recognising it, and (b): challenging it immediately. Use the "Technique For Re-Programming Negative Thoughts" - When you notice something negative, such as: "I can't do this/ am never going to get over this!" or: "Why am I always so useless/such a loser?" or even an image, emotion, or a memory; recognise that it is being generated from the negative part of your mind.
After identifying and labelling it, visualise a large, red, flashing, "STOP!" sign, and/or possibly a stern faced person wagging an index finger at you in a negative manner, then say to yourself as forcefully as you can, even aloud in a big voice, if alone: "I know this tactic: GO AWAY FOR A WHILE !!!" You may want to use either: "ruse", "ploy", "game", or "trick". In the case of an image, visualise a large "STOP" sign, or your preferred version.
Some people go so far as to keep a wide rubber band in their pocket, then put it around their wrist, when they catch themselves backsliding, stretch and release it, as a method of reprogramming their mind sooner, but I don't regard it as being strictly necessary. Remember to remove it, afterwards, if you use this method. Try replacing a negative thought with a positive affirmation of your choice, like: "I am a unique individual, with my own set of skills, and good points", or "I may not be perfect, but I'm doing the best I can, right now", or "I choose to be more positive". I prefer: "Focus only on what to do now/next". Recommended reading: Positivity: Groundbreaking Research Reveals How to Embrace the Hidden Strength of Positive Emotions, Overcome Negativity, and Thrive by Barbara Fredrickson, & Negaholics: How to Overcome Negativity and Turn Your Life Around by Chérie Carter-Scott, from your bookstore, or amazon.com

"Even if we have some vague idea that we are not our feelings or our thoughts, when we are experiencing painful feelings or painful thoughts, we believe we have to feel them or think them just because of the fact that they are occurring to us. But painful feelings can be indirectly controlled by physical action, and changing our present thoughts for different thoughts (since feeling occurs as a result of thinking.) Painful thoughts can be directly controlled by choosing replacement thoughts for the ones that are troubling us. Sure, it takes some practice to change a habit. But it can be done. Of course it can't be done if we choose to believe that it can't be done. But, since the choice is ours, why not choose to believe it can be done, and do it?" Read: Change How You Feel by Changing the Way You Think by Dennis Greenberger and Christine Padesky, & Change Your Thinking by Sarah Edelman, & "Feeling Good." The New Mood Therapy. Harper Collins.1999. ( updated sequel to his US bestseller about treating depression & anxiety; very comprehensive), by David D. Burns, M.D. Hypnosis is merely a heightened state of suggestibility, in which you are better able to communicate with your subconscious mind; view http://myfavoriteinterests.com/hypnosis/ about what it is, and isn't. 85% of people are suggestible to some degree; 15% - 20% highly so, and 15% - 20% aren't much at all, so you could either preferably seek professional hypnotherapy, or, if not an option, hypnosisdownloads.com has reasonably priced ones about stopping negative thoughts, meeting people, making small talk, etc. Professional advice is to use preferably only 1, or a maximum of 2 at any one time.

Check out http://www.wikihow.com/Special:GoogSearch?cx=008953293426798287586%3Amr-gwotjmbs&cof=FORID%3A10&ie=UTF-8&q=negative+thoughts such as: "How to Get Rid of Negative Thoughts: 9 Steps", & "How to Use Switchwords to Clear Negative Thoughts: 5 Steps".
"I cannot always control what goes on outside. But I can always control what goes on inside" - Dr. Wayne Dyer*.
The key is persistence; over time the frequency and power of the negative thoughts will lessen, but will always recur occasionally, which is normal, and healthy.

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My previous post on anxiety and panic attacks may be viewed at http://anxietyforum.net/forum/showthread.php?34755-Panic-attacks-that-last-for-hours

HERBAL ANXIOLYTICS: http://anxietyforum.net/forum/showthread.php?34269-5-Powerful-Tools-You-Probably-Haven-t-Tried-Yet&p=225415#post225415

NON HERBAL NATURAL (NON PHARMACEUTICAL) ANXIOLTYICS: (5-htp, etc.) http://anxietyforum.net/forum/showthread.php?34355-Help-Please!!!/page2

INSOMNIA: Exercise, preferably 6 hours before, but not within 2 hours of bedtime. Have a warm bath, or shower, an hour before bedtime, then a glass of very warm milk, possibly with Horlicks, or one of the herbal teas, below, and use dimmer lighting. Your bedroom should be very dark, with the lights out, and a good sleeping temperature is 70 degrees Fahrenheit, or 19 degrees Centigrade. Put your mind in a position where it wants to shut itself off, and sleep. View umm.edu/sleep/relax_tech.htm The progressive muscle relaxation, http://www.drcoxconsulting.com/managing-stress.html is very easily learned; guided imagery, or mindfulness breathing https://www.verywell.com/mindfulness-meditation-88369 is known to be effective, or www.wikihow.com/Meditate Give the EFT a tryout. It is free via http://eft.mercola.com or tapping.com (13 free videos) or eftuniverse.com or YouTube EFT. Repeat to yourself: "Even though I currently have a sleep disorder, I deeply and completely accept myself." (or choose your own wording) while you use the acupressure massage/tapping. Find out which works best for you, in the daylight hours, so you will be prepared, come bedtime. For many people, a good idea is to develop a set "wind down" routine for the last hour before bedtime, so your subconscious mind learns that it is time to put thinking aside, and prepare for mindfulness, (awareness, without cogitation/purposeful thought) or the EFT, in preparation for sleep.

The idea with mindfulness is to not even think about sleeping: just drift off, naturally, during exercising those techniques. Avoid TV, computer, or anything exciting in this hour, although reading a BORING! book is a good idea. Experiment, to find which combination works best for you. No coffee, tea, or other caffeine within 6 hrs of bedtime! Try a cup of chamomile herbal tea, an hour before bedtime. Others may prefer Sleepytime, by Celestial Seasonings, Relax, Be Sleepy, or valerian root (valerian "hangovers" possible), etc., from supermarket tea, or health food aisles. Milk, or cream should not be used with herbal tea. Get up and do something, like read a book, if you can't sleep within 20 mns. Personally, I prefer to use word/phrase repetition for a short time, changing over to mindfulness breathing; however, you may well find another method more effective. The following EMDR variant came from a book on treating insomnia for the depressed; I use it every night, and it is well worth trying. It seems to reduce distractions during the mindfulness relaxation methods, so I use it first. Keeping your head still, move your eyes first to the far left, then far right, and repeat this another 19 times. Each full sweep should take around a second. If you like, you can either subvocalise, or repeat: "one one thousand, two one thousand, three one thousand ... up to twenty.

After this, allow your body to go limp, and relax for a short time. Then repeat the whole exercise, limpness, and relaxation twice. This may well be all you need. Others may require another round of the above. Before beginning the EMDR variant, I take a whiff of lavender essential oil in both nostrils; some people prefer a drop, or two on their pillow. This provides a strong cue to the subconscious mind to prepare for sleep. 85% of people are suggestible, to some extent, so consider professional hypnotherapy, or hypnosisdownloads.com has: Fall Asleep Fast, Drift Off To Sleep, Sleep and Dream, or Sleep Like a Child, or instant-hypnosis.com has: Beat Insomnia, Quiet Blissful Sleep, Enjoy Deep Sleep, or Restorative Healing Sleep.

Try the free sleep aid at: soundsleeping.com/ You could try melatonin (pharmacies) for a few nights only; more can interfere with the brain's natural production of it.

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