Happiest I've ever been but anxious!

[Prodigalson]

Hi everyone.

Usually I am quite q strong character and have always been in control of my emotions. Recently my partner moved in with her child and I am literally living my dream of happiness. But the last few weeks my thoughts have been plagued with it going wrong and not being up to scratch.

Just today I feel I have identified that I have irrational anxiety. And it comes and goes. My heart pounds and I feel needy, never been this way before! It's doing my head in. My partner loves me very much and her son idolises me. But why do I feel this way it's plain stupid!

How do I get control of this irrational brain of mine!!?

I will be telling her and I'm sure she will help, she is a mental health nurse after all!

Just putting this out there as it's something that I do not want to grow worse.

Thanks all.
MB

[salvator here]

I think the first step is admitting it to yourself and telling your telling your partner sound like a good idea. It could be just this is all new with new responsibilities for you, with her and her child joining you - its an adjustment.

Try not worry too much about things getting worse (Self Fulfilled Prophecy), and try to appreciate how strong you are, and this is a important step in your happiness.

Good luck :)

[Prodigalson]

I think the first step is admitting it to yourself and telling your telling your partner sound like a good idea. It could be just this is all new with new responsibilities for you, with her and her child joining you - its an adjustment.

Try not worry too much about things getting worse (Self Fulfilled Prophecy), and try to appreciate how strong you are, and this is a important step in your happiness.

Good luck :)

Thank you for your reply! I'm hoping to sort this out without an issue

Much appreciated

[RoderickLariviere]

Yes, you should talk to your partner all of your thoughts and worries. If she is a mental health professional, she will understand well and help you taking right decision.

[Prodigalson]

Yes, you should talk to your partner all of your thoughts and worries. If she is a mental health professional, she will understand well and help you taking right decision.

Thanks. As an update I have been to the doctors and I am on some propranolol to help take the edge off whilst I work. She doesn't come back until Friday as she is on a little holiday break.

I am starting to trace this back to an abusive relationship I was in years ago. Whereby the girl I loved suffered with an undiagnosed personality disorder which led to her drinking and being violent towards me. I stuck with it for years to help her through it but never dealt with what it was doing to me.

I switched an emotion off to deal with it, and now years later I am in a healthy relationship happy as ever, which has awoken this emotion in me again but it's also still got that dreaded fear attached to it. I will fight it off and eventually realise I don't need to feel that fear anymore.

Strange journeys we take to understand ourselves!!

[salvator here]

Ok, I wish you all the best with everything and I hope you find happiness in your new relationship :)